Really bad anxiety today and constant nit picking from a colleague

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Feeling really fragile today and anxiety is high. I feel like a failure as it is, I'm a university graduate that is working in a junior role age 27 I feel like a massive disappointment to my family. My colleague keeps making digs at me because I'm single and it hurts, my ex left me 5 years ago because I'm useless and weak. I haven't found it easy to meet anyone else because of my social anxiety and his comments hurt me. I just said I wasn't interested in anyone but I've spent the last few hours crying. I don't think I can face him tomorrow- I got a bit tearful in front of him and I'm embarrassed!!! I think I need to go back to the doctors again..

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    Hello people that treat people like that are bullies of u are single so what u will meet someone when time right people who are like that have nothing better to do go in hold you're head high I have no time for people who treat people like that no one is ever usless or weak people whosay that are not worth the time of day

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    Hi Bella

    Arlene is quite right and I agree with her comments. You are amongst friends here so try to think of that the next time you are faced with this obnoxious, unhappy, jealous person.

    ​You can change the way you react to this person. That is what they want a negative reaction in oder to make them feel in control and also for gratification.

    May I suggest that you do not discusss your fears, anxieties or private life with such people.


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    Hi Bella, I'm sorry that you have a bully around you while being in such a volnurable state. it sucks, since it's at your work place which can't be avoided.

    It sounds like you could need some help with learning how to become assertive and how to protect your personal boundaries. Ask your doctor for a refferal to a psychologist who can help you with this.

    If someone should be embarrassed by the way, it would be your 'colleague', I find his behavior rather pathetic.

    Considering your familiy; do you think they are disappointed, or are they really? Personally I think it's great you have a uni degree at all. You're still very young and your whole life lays ahead of you. Take some time to learn how to be strong and protect yourself, and next move ahead on the career ladder. Your familiy doesn't  live your life, you do, at your pace.


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