Rectocele and cystocele - advice please

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Hello ladies 

I hope you are all getting better day by day?

I am due to have surgery on 3rd November under epidural. I have been told I should be in one night , two if necessary .  My surgeon told me the surgery is straightforward but initially I have to rest and be very careful (very vague)

I am paying for this myself and do not want to undo anything so wish to be sensible and careful. However I gave a business to run and normally do most household chores plus all the laundry for the holiday homes we take care of. I chose November as work will be much lighter.

For the first time in 12 years my son is joining us for Christmas with his girlfriend. Will I be ok cooking by then and be comfortable enough in company? Any definite no no info would be greatly appreciated 

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    After six weeks my advice, from my personal experience, you should not be doing the chores or laundry for the holiday homes you look after. You will have had major surgery, you may feel OK by then, and will look fine too, but your healing will still have a very long way to go. It'll all be internal and I certainly didn't appreciate that. I had a vaginal hysterectomy too, so no external wounds, I wish I could've seen inside (well maybe not!). 

    As for Christmas, I'm sure you'll be comfortable in company but I would want as much help as possible. Can your son and girlfriend, and any other family, do the cooking? You will still need to be resting  

    This is only my advice, good luck with the surgery and try and get very specific advice on what you can and can't to. I did very little for the first six weeks, other than walking. No cleaning, hoovering, lifting, stretching; I was lucky to have a wonderful husband who cooks and shops and no children at home anymore. 

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      Thank you sheila that is really helpful. I’m in the process of preparing lots of meals for the freezer.

      My husband will cook and the kids are very capable in the kitchen too. No problem there.

      I love cooking! Is it the standing that’s the problem. I don’t want to be lazy! Unfortunately I have chronic fatigue and fibromyalgia too so it’s hard enough as it is! 

      Thank you  Sheila. I hope you too, are well ? 😊

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      You must never think that you are being lazy, and certainly don't let anyone make you feel like that!

      Your main priority will be healing at such an early stage, everything else can, and must wait. 😃

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    There's fantastic post-op info on here written by medical people. Go to Resorces and then to South Tees info and it's all spelt out there. Saves us all typing it out here for you. 

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    Hi. The South Tees info that Robyn mentions is very good,

    I'm 8 weeks post op today for triple prolapse repairs & I wouldn't feel much like catering! But that's me! Everyone is different,we all heal at different rates . I only started doing very light duties around the house this week, no hoovering or lifting anything very heavy yet. In fact I've been told no heavy lifting ever! I've still not driven though I hope to this week. You need to be able to do an emergency stop without pain. I can't stand for long periods of time yet & had a very strange turn earlier today mooching round a shop - I think it was just too much! I have been having short walks daily building up gradually.

    For the first few weeks you will need a lot of rest & as much help as you can get. I was given very little info by my surgeon so have found the support & advice on this forum invaluable.  Good luck, hope it all goes well. Carol x

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    Hi Paddiwhack. They should give you post op information at your pre op appointment. If you are in the UK, its very basic and I found a lot more information from Dr Google! They say 6 weeks. Gradually doing a little more. No lifting more than a cup full in a kettle, for at least 2 weeks. No pans, no bending, no cleaning until about week 4, then only washing a few pots, preferably sat down etc. No standing cooking, no stretching. No hoovering for 6 weeks etc., etc. I was off work for 9 weeks, then 2 weeks phased return. It's a tough recovery, especially if you are anything like me, and always on the go, doing everything. You might find you are also very tired, but should be comfortable in company by Christmas, but I think you will find doing the whole Christmas thing challenging, and maybe too much? I hope everyone is going to muck in? Hope this is what you expected, and I haven't scared you too much. Bless you, sending hugs x

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      Thank you so much this is really helpful!i am in Spain and have no ore op visit as no anaesthetic, epidural 😱. I have asked to be sedated. Sorry for my delay I’ve been so busy preparing meals etc.

      My kids will muck in at Xmas. Apple sauce , cranberry sauce parsnips and red cabbage prepped and in the freezer. Rob of beef bought turkey ordered and pork ! My husband is fab. I’m sure all will be fine e but I know I’ll get frustrsted! I have downloaded books and hubby has rigged up a tv and water heater /cooler in the bedroom so be kettle needed 😊

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