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Relationship Anxiety

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ashleigh8695
ashleigh8695

hi everyone, I guess I'm creating this discussion to help myself not feel alone, and hopefully, others can relate to mine/others experiences.

does anyone struggle in relationships with uncontrollable anxiety? my partner and I have had our ups and down, yes. But it doesn't matter, I have always had this anxiety of being cheated on or them leaving me for one reason or another and it consumes me. Change in texts, they don't say "love you" when ending the call one time....I'm there panicking something is wrong.

I've later found this is a trauma response from my past experiences in relationships and from my parents splitting up. I'm trying to work on it but the physical sensations and my brain doesn't shut off as I almost obsess over it.

Does anyone else experience the same sort of thing or anything to share for others maybe?

thanks 😊

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  • brody54586
    brody54586 ashleigh8695

    Posted

    Hello Lovely.

    Definitely a trauma response and it's natural with anxiety to connect dots that were never there in the first place.

    My advice would be to talk to your SO about this so they can understand how you feel.

    I would also say despite your previous experience, it sounds like you have a form of separation anxiety which is normal.

    My partner is quite stone faced when it comes to anxiety and she has told me if there was anything wrong she would tell me so I'm sure your SO is the same! Just enjoy your partners company and try and change your thoughts as you may find yourself withdrawing from them without knowing you're doing it.

    stay strong!

  • jan34534
    jan34534 ashleigh8695

    Posted

    sorry you were going through this. I have felt like that in the past. But then, as I got a little older, I learned some things that were important for my well-being.

    I learned that I needed to stop being so dependent on someone that I would worry so much about the relationship.

    I learned that the person in the relationship with you needs to undoubtedly be your best friend first and foremost! Even before romance. Because if they are truly your best friend, you won’t have any doubts about your relationship. They will always put you first like a best friend would do. That said, when you have your best friend, you won’t have any doubts, even if they forget to say love you . you will feel so secure in that relationship that those things won’t matter.

    Don’t ever feel like you have to chase somebody to get them to want to be with you. In that case, it’s definitely the wrong connection. Those kinds of relationships you’re always feel insecure in. And it’s not worth it. you want someone that’s going to have your back.

    I’d rather be alone than not be with my best friend. Best wishes to you!

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