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den-48442
den-48442

Hi,

I had Uro-Lift surgery just over a year ago & man do I regret that decision. It has completely ruined my sex life and rendered erections impossible.

Sure, I can p**s now, though not as well as expected, but before surgery I had to self-cath just to have relief.

I was told & assured that the Uro-Lift procedure would not affect sexual function. BULLSHIT! In addition, after doing a lot of self research prior to surgery, I was told that I would be able to come off the meds (Rapaflo & Jalyn) post surgery. My urologist still has me on Jalyn. I'm deflated & feel useless.

Has anyone else had regrets after choosing to have Uro-Lift surgery?

My sex life is (and has been) non-existent since my surgery because I cannot achieve an erection. It has majorly affected my relationship and I am quite angry at myself for believing the hype that Uro-Lift surgery would not affect sexual function. Plus I have become quite depressed and that has led to weight gain & an avoidance of any type of sexual encounter,

I truly wish I could turn back time, but I can't.  I'm 53 years old & feeling worthless & useless as a man trying to accept that my sex life is over.

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  • slydog
    slydog den-48442

    Posted

    Hi Den

    I can certainly understand why you are so down.   I think all these surgeries carry some risk of affecting your sex life in spite of what some may claim.  But you aren't useless.  You may just have a longer than normal road of recovery.   I guess I would suggest that you might consider talking to an experienced counselor.  The penis can certainly be a fickle friend and can easily be affected by our emotions and expectations.  Once you have accepted that you have ED, it can be hard to change that mind set.  The more pressure you put on yourself the harder it is to stay positive and allow your body to respond naturally.

    I wish you all the best and urge you to fight like the devil to stay positive.  An experienced professional can help you do that.

    Doug

    • den-48442
      den-48442 slydog

      Posted

      Thanks for the encouraging words Doug.

      It is truly difficult to stay in a positive mindset, especially one year post surgery.

      My husband also suggested that I seek out a therapist who specializes in dealing with sexual inadequatecy. I feeli don’t need therapy, but maybe I do.

      I’m devastated by my inability to get an erection. Prior to surgery I had no problem in performing, I just couldn’t pee. The pain was excruciating and therefore I chose to have the surgery.

      If only I could turn back time.

      Thanks again,

      Den

  • lester90053
    lester90053 den-48442

    Posted

    That's what happens when you jump into something fairly new that looks promising without having stood the test of time. The practitioners will only tell you what they want you to know but will not tell you what they don't want you to know. They feel that whatever happens they are covered by malpractice insurance so why should they not do an approved procedure where there is big money? At this point you may want to consider consulting with an attorney.

    • den-48442
      den-48442 lester90053

      Posted

      I’m considering looking into finding an attorney, though I’m not sure anything could be done.

      Thanks for responding. I appreciate it.

      Den

  • ktmxc-f
    ktmxc-f den-48442

    Posted

    I am very sorry this has happened to you.  There are specialty Doctors that can help you with rehabilitation. Its important you keep blood flow by using a pump a few times a week, There are also shot (tri-mix) that will give you an erection strong enough for sex. (Dr. Mulhall at memorial sloan kettering is one Dr.) I hope this helps. 
    • den-48442
      den-48442 ktmxc-f

      Posted

      Hi, 

      I’ve tried tri-mix, and all 3 leading ED pills. 

      I had zero success with all of them. Nothing worked to give me the ability to have an erection.

      I appreciate your response, thanks so much for your suggestions. Den

    • ktmxc-f
      ktmxc-f den-48442

      Posted

      Den-48442,

      So sorry nothing has worked. Just a thought, maybe Mri to get a visual on the nerve bundles.

       

  • glenn77
    glenn77 den-48442

    Posted

    Please don't give up.   For me, I was left with total incontinence after Greenlight surgery for BPH, so there's been no sex now for two years.   I was able to have an AUS (artificial urinary sphincter) implant that got me out of the woods of non stop leaking.

    My surgeon (in NC) also does implants for ED.  While that's not been a problem for me, I do know one man who had the implants (after prostate cancer surgery) and he said the implants have been a great solution.

    • den-48442
      den-48442 glenn77

      Posted

      Glenn, thanks for your response. I appreciate all the advice & encouragement. I’m hoping for something that will let me enjoy a sex life again.

      Have a great day!

      Den

  • derek76
    derek76 den-48442

    Posted

    Is this procedure not reversible?
    • den-48442
      den-48442 derek76

      Posted

      Derek,

      Yes, it is reversible, though I worry that it would be a waste of money to pay for another surgery, especially if the first one did irreparable damage.

      Den

    • derek76
      derek76 den-48442

      Posted

      What follow up have you had with the Uro ? Did he suggest or offer to do further treatment ? I would be asking him to sort it out for free. 

       

  • MK51151
    MK51151 den-48442

    Posted

    Sorry Den to hear about your trouble.

    Urologists don’t have their patients best interest on heart. Their motivation is money driven.

    if they would disclose to us SE like you experienced, most of us would run away and they would be short handed. We should be our own advocates.

    I am also 53 (turned today) and suffering same SE just from different procedure which was RP.

    After 14+ months from surgery I did not have any success with Cialis and Viagra even when max dose is taken. VED never produced erection and I am using TRIMIX which gives me erection with lots of pain. I also lost 2+ inches of length and lots of girth so my erect penis looks pathetically small.

    My sex life is totally nonexistent and can’t even achieve an orgasm.

    i spend lots of money on penile rehabilitation without much success if at all.

    TOTAL DISAPPOINTMENT!

    MK

     

    • den-48442
      den-48442 MK51151

      Posted

      MK, thanks for your response. I’m sorry to hear that you are suffering from very similar problems that I am experiencing.

      I continue to throw money to the wind trying to find anything that will help, so far with no luck.

      Hang in there. I’m hanging on to hope that I’ll find a solution.

      Thanks again , 

      Den

    • den-48442
      den-48442 MK51151

      Posted

      And Happy Birthday, MK! I hope you enjoy your day!

      Den

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