scared and anxiety through the roof

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I'm so scared and anxious .I'm 53 and scared I'll die soon It's really eating me up inside I don't want to leave my partner I really wish I'll met him early on so that I would be with him for longer I'm so sad I try and stifle these feelings but their always there and it really hits me in the evenings I wish my mind would stop torturing me Does anyone else feel like this

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    I have never felt fear and anxiety like this before. It is a form of suffering. I know how you feel. You are not alone. xo

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    Hi Jill,

    You are not alone! I am having a terrible time with health anxiety right now. (Afraid I am dying, afraid my body won't allow me to keep up with all the things I'm responsible for, or afraid of something happening to a loved one).

    This past Saturday I had my first appointment with a therapist to try to work past some of it. It was an hour long, and I cried almost the entire time. It felt so, so good to lay some of that fear out in the open ... I felt like I didn't have to drag it along with me for that hour, and for a few hours after. She plans to offer some techniques to help me stop that cycle so I can find a breathing space.

    And to offer relaxation techniques, etc... I would normally Google for something like that, but I am in too much of a state lately to take it in that way... just one more thing on the to-do list that I feel I wouldn't be ale to accomplish without help, if that makes sense.

    (I feel blessed that the therapist is a woman, is a little older than I am, and has back issues like I do, and maybe can relate to all of this better than a young guy would).

    Tell me a little about yourself... are you post-menopause already? If so, for how long?

    I am 49, approaching menopause. My periods are wacky (longest without a period is 56 days, shortest is 14 days, and there is no way to predict what each month will bring). I have been to the doctor more in the past 8 weeks than I had in the previous 8 years. Bloodwork, CT scans, EKG, all fine. I can go to sleep ok at night, but wake up in a panic the next morning between 4 and 5 am. Mornings are the worst for me... I do better most evenings.

    Hang in there, we are walking through it with you! If I get some good techniques from this therapist, I promise I will come back and share.

    Sara

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      Sara, I am sending you a big hug and special prayer too.

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      Thank you so much, Ella! I am thanking God for you 😃 You are a blessing.

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      thank you for your reply I'm in primenopause and I also have had bloods done all came back fine it's nice to know I'm not alone in think my problem is I think to much and it's driving me mad

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    Menopause anxiety is like torture horrible cruel torture once you think you have it under control then it is back again worse than before. The Lord is the only one that can truly help. Remember 2 Timothy 1 : 7 and say it over and over until your fear passes "for God hath not given us the spirit of fear, but of power, and of love, and of sound mind". I am sending you a big hug and special prayer.

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    I deal with the same! It's awful. Anyone also deal with internal tremors as well as the feeling like your muscle movements are ratchey like. Like they don't move smoothly especially in neck, arms and hands. I too have had lots of med tests, scans etc and all normal.

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    Hi Jill,

    I think we have all felt like this at some point. The feeling of doom is horrible to say the least. just keep telling yourself that it's the hormones and anxiety making you think this way. we are going to be fine once we get thru this. who would have ever thought that this time in our lives would be so filled with misery. for me, the weird and unsettling thoughts out of nowhere is one of the worst symptoms by far. then you have to deal with knowing its irrational to think this way but powerless to stop it. like all other symptoms it comes in waves and goes away as fast as it comes. hang in there. sending you hugs!

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      thank you I was crying when I read this I don't want to feel this way I'm just so sad 😢

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    Jill,

    I swear I could have written exactly what you did...I'll be 53 in a couple of months and I met my husband only 12 years ago and worry that I'm dying lately. Isn't this fun? I get anxiety just thinking about stuff and get anxiety about anxiety! I keep thinking, this is it for me too. It's been very hard lately. Hang in there. I never knew perimenopuase was going to be this bad. It's been getting worse the last 2 months.

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    Hello Jill

    I had a dr once tell me that no matter how strong the symptom of peri and meno it cannot kill us . We have to learn to accept it and learn to cope through it. She also said it will pass. You are not going to die. This is a natural part of a woman but we just got the bad end of the stick of dealing with hard symptoms that other women may not have to deal with. Hang in there. You are not alone

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