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Luckymum
Luckymum

I so wish I was looking forward to getting this op done but I'm not sad I feel like I want to run away and hide!

I keep thinking I'm ok I don't NEED this op, as I have good days when things are 'ok' but then when I think about my symptoms (though they are much less than some of you lovely ladies) I realise that I do need to have it as although my symptoms are 'manageable' it is only through meds, a great hubby and a very understanding manager at work, I really can't expect people to keep giving to me due to my problems and I don't want to be on meds to control the heavy bleeding for ever either.

My stomach keeps doing flips and my eyes keep leaking too sad

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  • phoebewhite
    phoebewhite Luckymum

    Posted

    Hi Luckymum, You are not alone in feeling this way and we are all here for you, I don't know if you have seen any of my posts elsewhere but I kept saying I wanted to run away to a desert island and forget all about it, I am actually agoraphobic so even going to the docs is a big ordeal and she is only 1/2 mile from my home, I was put on Tranexamic acid for the heavy bleeding and it worked so well I came up with the idea that I could just continue taking that and carry on...except I was then diagnosed with grade 1A endometrial cancer so that really wasn't an option, though briefly I still considered it, on the day of my op my nerves just went out of the window I even drove myself to the hospital, my son drove my car back for me, I kept saying to myself 'you can do this, you have to do this', I am now 5 weeks post op and it is the best thing I ever did (except having my kids of course), You can do this Luckymum you have to do this, we are here for you.

    below is my desert island, visit any time.biggrin

    Phoebe x

     

    • Luckymum
      Luckymum phoebewhite

      Posted

      Phoebe, thats the meds I'm on and it is fantastic, makes me think that I don't really have a problem! I just don't like the idea that it works by causing your blood to clot, that scares me slightly so on't want to be on them long term. I just have a large fibroid no cancer scares or endemetriosis etc. Thanks for your support xxx

      Ps. does your island have sexy waiters and cool cocktails, if so I running off there, please don't try to rescue me till after 29th Jan! wink xx

  • Luckymum
    Luckymum

    Posted

    Thanks everyone for all your positive and encouraging replies, much appreciated xxx

    I think my hubby wants to remind me why I need to have this op too, as he's been sneaking up behind me and kissing my neck etc etc...think I better go and find out wink >>>>

    xxx

  • kazandnell
    kazandnell Luckymum

    Posted

    Hi luckymum. I know exactly how your feeling.you couldnt have put it better.i take transexamic acid too and has stopped my bleeding.which is wonderful but we still must have this op.us January 29th girls must stick together.we will get through this.lots of love.xxx
    • Luckymum
      Luckymum kazandnell

      Posted

      Thanks Karen, I think taking the transemamic acid somehow makes you think the problem has gone away even when you know deep down it hasn't....you might have to drag me in on the 29th LOL xxx
    • jacqueline67292
      jacqueline67292 kazandnell

      Posted

      Hi Karen

      Good luck for your pre-op, hope all goes well.  Let us know how you get on.

      Love Jacqui 

    • kazandnell
      kazandnell jacqueline67292

      Posted

      Everything went well today.didn't have to have full pre op because I had one beginning of Dec just had to have swabs and bloodsdone.so that was good.not heard from hospital so hopefully my blood count is okay. So looks like it's all go for next thursday.....nerves kicking in.Karen x
    • Luckymum
      Luckymum kazandnell

      Posted

      WE will be fine sweet, or at least thats what I keep trying to tell myself! wink xx
    • jacqueline67292
      jacqueline67292 kazandnell

      Posted

      Hi Karen

      Good news that it all went well, hang on in there, stay strong and calm, apparently it helps with the healing.

      Love

      Jacqui 

    • kazandnell
      kazandnell Luckymum

      Posted

      I know we will your right. be out the other side this time next week.woke at 4am this morning could not get back to sleep worrying.ill be so knackered by next thursday.hope your doing okay. Karen x
    • Luckymum
      Luckymum kazandnell

      Posted

      I know what you mean, I've been all over the place; My manager sent me home from work the other day, told me to relax and get myself in the right place ready for op, suggested I go for a massage etc, not got to back before op, she is fantastic, I really am so lucky x
    • Mintdream
      Mintdream Luckymum

      Posted

      Hi luckymum   ...

      ;(   I have NOT been able to join in here lately... dad has declined GREATLY sad

      I was stupid and shoveled 1/2 my driveway the other day.. OOOOMMMMMMGGGGGGG did I feel that incision line.. almost like I was in the 3 week POST feeling.. and now I am 10 weeks.. TOO SOON to be using the muscles normally yet sad   But I needed to release some stress of dad, watching him die in front of me...

      Yesterday we had a blizzard  ... COLBIE  sad   I got 18 inches of snow.. BUT I DID NOT SHOVEL THIS ONE! 

      I am still achey from last weeks snow...

      I have not stopped thinking about you... I do care!

      I'm so glad so many have written you and shared their concerns!  This is the place to be BEFORE and AFTER...

      I didnt find it until I was home, the 2nd week I think..

      I am home again today.... buses can NOT move, too much snow... I will check back later!

      Hope you are doing well MIND, BODY & SOUL!

      Remember... you can do this!  smile

      Warm (or snowy) thoughts from Mary in the USA

      ps... I want to upload a photo, need hubby to help me with that, lol

    • jacqueline67292
      jacqueline67292 kazandnell

      Posted

      Hi Karen

      Wishing you all the best for tomorrow, soon you will be well on your way for a full, healthy recovery.  Let us know how you are getting on.

      Love

      Jacqui 

    • jacqueline67292
      jacqueline67292 Mintdream

      Posted

      Hi Mary,

      So so sorry to hear about your Dad, he sounds so lovely, it must be so hard for you to watch him declining.  

      Now my girl, I feel  a telling off coming on, what on earth were you thinking of shovelling snow!  I know, I know, some things have to be done but you will definitely do yourself a permanent michief with such heavy work.  Okay lecture over, you can get your own back on me when I have my op (if it ever happens, ops on standstill in this area) being an Aries star sign, we never stay still for long.  

      It must be very hard to deal with all that snow, gosh we have a few flakes here and everything comes to a standstill.  

      I have just come back from walking Rosie and the hail stones were huge, and were really hurting her back, she was most displeased!    

      Now look after yourself and give your Dad a big hug from us. 

      Love

      Jacqui 

    • Mintdream
      Mintdream jacqueline67292

      Posted

      YA GOT ME sad

      And yes... you can rest assure we will YELL AT YOU TOO when you start telling us your stories during POST OP!  smile

      The snow is CrAzY here... and we found out another storm Friday and Monday... we were to get out of school June 7... its now a week following sad

      Once it was the LAST week of June!  But that's ok with me.. I work year round.. so much to do to get ready for the new 7th graders coming in.

      I will TRY to look after me... BUT DAD IS FIRST, has to be smile

      I will give him a UK hug from all smile  You guys are da' best!

    • Luckymum
      Luckymum Mintdream

      Posted

      I had been thinking about you too and was dreading news on your dad, sending you both lots of love. I saw about the snow on the news, as soon as it said C/Cut my thoughts again turned to you. You are a very bad girl for shovelling that snow, if I was closer I would smack your hands!
    • Luckymum
      Luckymum kazandnell

      Posted

      Hi Karen, hope you are feeling ok, I've been suprisingly calm today, didn't expect that! I went shopping earlier though and lifted too much, caused myself to bleed and have tummy pains again now sad What time do you have to be at the hospital? I have to be there at 7am! rolleyes

      Thinking of you, hope all goes well for you, see you on the road to recovery! xx

    • Mintdream
      Mintdream Luckymum

      Posted

      sad  I know.. I Know..... I need someone to SMACK ME, lol...

      Thank you for keeping me in your thoughts...that means a LOT!

      So when is your day????????

    • Mintdream
      Mintdream Luckymum

      Posted

      TOMORROW????? THURSDAY??? IS THAT YOUR DAY?????

      OK... I AM GOING TO DO A "SHOUT OUT" TO GOD  smile

      Yes.. that's what we say at my school "SHOUT OUT" when we want to mention someone for something!

      I know that butterfly feeling in your tummy right now.. I know that mind NOT STOPPING the thoughts right now... I know that WORRY... it is all part of it... we are just "human".. and when we don't know what's going to happen, we have these thoughts/feelings..

      But I know you have read PLENTY of posts here... and as you can see... we all came out of it  smile

      I will be thinking of you!  Kazandnell... I hope your procedure goes well too!!!!!!

      Just think of the millions of women having this done... we are just but a few on this site!

      All over the world!

      Together........ we will get through it all !

      You have your family.. your friends... and this great site, JUST FOR US!

      Peace and love to all those going in soon, to all those recovering... it's gotta get better... right?!?!?!

      MARY- USA

    • Luckymum
      Luckymum Mintdream

      Posted

      My op is tomorrow Mary!! I have to be at the hospital for 7am and as it is now 7.15 pm that is less than 12 hours away! rolleyes xx
    • Luckymum
      Luckymum Mintdream

      Posted

      Thanks for the 'shout out' Mary, much apperciated xx

      I'm off to go and get my last meal before the op now, a lovely warming homemade beef stew (casserole type of thing in case thats an English word again! LOL) It's my family's favourite so as it will be the last I cook for them for a while I decided to treat them LOL

      I'll try to pop back in later xxx

    • Mintdream
      Mintdream Luckymum

      Posted

      ok ok... we can do this... notice I say WE!

      Remember.. NOT ALONE.. NOT....

      Remember when you FIRST hopped on this lovely site?!?!

      Just asking questions, listening to all of us... how long ago now???

      Do you see HOW FAST that time flew???

      Now it's your time, your date... believe me.. IT FLIES BY!!!!!!!!!

      I was in that OP room almost 3 hours (remember, had the big fibroid too)... when I came to, felt like I was laying on a bed for 15 min..

      You'll have NO TIME SENSE...

      Just promise me.. when they say.. GET UP AND WALK SOME.. YOU ..........NEED..........TO!

      If you don't... you will get terrible gas pains!  I had ZERO!

      Did it hurt getting up and walking just 3 hours after.. YES!  But it was the best!  And the more I walked, the better it felt!    And you will NOT have a blood clot!  If you don't move, you can!

      I care about you... I know you will do it right!!!!

      Remember.. you are a "luckymum"  smile

      And we are "lucky" to know you here!

      xo 

    • Mintdream
      Mintdream Luckymum

      Posted

      MMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM... beef stew is  da' bomb!  That means AWESOME!  smile

      Enjoy girl!!!

      Treat yourself!  And treat yourself after too!!!

      xo

    • Luckymum
      Luckymum Mintdream

      Posted

      Thanks Mary, I'll do as I'm told but from what they have said we spend the first 24 hours or so in bed xxx
    • Mintdream
      Mintdream Luckymum

      Posted

      wow... quite the difference from here huh, lol..

      I  like your way better smile

      ok... if you are laying flat... make sure they put on those nice "support nylon type socks" on your legs.....

      We don't want blood clots!

      I had them on... couldn't wait to take them off, but I did use them for 2 days in hospital!

    • Luckymum
      Luckymum Mintdream

      Posted

      We get to bring the sexy stockings home and wear them for 4 weeks rolleyes
    • kazandnell
      kazandnell jacqueline67292

      Posted

      Thanks jacqui.nerves seems to have settled a bit now.think because it's finally here I just want it done and back to normal.thanks again for your kind messages. Means a lot.Karen. xxx
    • Mintdream
      Mintdream Luckymum

      Posted

      OOOOOOOOOOOOOH... I LIKE SEXY!  LOL..razz

      ASK THEM IF THEY HAVE THEM IN BLACK LACE.. HEE HEE

    • kazandnell
      kazandnell Luckymum

      Posted

      hi luckymum.hope it all goes ok for you.your ahead of me.i got to be at hospital at 11.45.so hopefully you will be all sorted by then. be thinking of you cant believe the day is nearly here.love karen.xxx
    • kazandnell
      kazandnell Mintdream

      Posted

      thank you so much.sure everything will be fine for luckymum and myself.your kind messages mean a lot.karen.xxx
    • Mintdream
      Mintdream kazandnell

      Posted

      YOU GOT IT KAREN!

      COME BACK AND SHARE IT ALL WITH US... WE'RE ALWAYS HERE, LENDING AN EAR!  smile

       

    • Luckymum
      Luckymum kazandnell

      Posted

      We are tough cookies Karen, you can't keep a good woman down xx
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