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karen46733
karen46733

Hi, I joined a couple of weeks ago and it has helped knowing I'm not the only 1 that feels like she's loosing her mind!

I've had a good couple of weeks, I've felt reasonably normal but now I feel my mood has dropped and ive got headaches. I'm scared because when ive hit the floor in the past I've hit it hard and I have trouble functioning!! I have trouble doing my 2 jobs (need to do to pay the rent), keeping on top of things at home and making sure I'm there for my son.

Any ideas on how to help cope would be appreciated

Thank you

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  • notsure47790
    notsure47790 karen46733

    Posted

    I am in the same boat right now. I had good few weeks. I felt so good and happy and hopeful. I am close to getting my period and my body and mind are starting to give up on me again. I am scared that I will go downhill againsad I followed few recommendations I got from this webside and the wonderful people here. I take B6, magnesium and grape seed extract. I have gone downhill the last few days but I pray to have good weeks again.

    My hair is driving me crazy- falling off. My fingers and legs numb. My back hurts. I am lightheaded and so tired. I hope your bad days are easier and short. I truly understand how u feel.

    • unico31026
      unico31026 notsure47790

      Posted

      My Dr prescribed 2000 mg vitamin D as it helps with depression and it has also bring my hair and skin back to life! I hope you feel better soon!
    • unico31026
      unico31026

      Posted

      I'm sorry 2000 mgs. Of vitamin D daily.

    • karen46733
      karen46733 notsure47790

      Posted

      Thank you, I keep thinking about vitamins etc but am unsure what I can take as the doctor put me on hrt nearly 2 month ago and they seem to get no help 😠😠.

      Last week and even a couple of days ago I was like yep throw it at me I can deal with it, I wasn't even that bothered about my ex partner and being sterilised earlier in the year and then him ending it 5 days after but at the moment I'm angry about it again and how he just got on with his life.

      I know it will pass and I have to keep telling myself that but it scares me when I really bad 😟😟

    • karen46733
      karen46733 notsure47790

      Posted

      Thank you, it's good to know I'm not the only 1. My friends don't understand as they are not there at the moment as I'm 41 and I'm classed as young.

      I hope you feel better soon and this won't last for long this time 😊

    • notsure47790
      notsure47790 karen46733

      Posted

      Yup! I am 35sad Even my sister who is older thinks I am making it all upsad I have 1 ovary only and no thyroid. My hormones are a mess!

    • karen46733
      karen46733 notsure47790

      Posted

      I think another reason I find it hard is because of my age, and I'm not as young as you (hugs).

      I'm going to try and get some vitamins or something good today.

      I hope today is a reasonable day for you and I know we will get through it 😀

    • karen46733
      karen46733 2chr2015

      Posted

      I'm quite lucky as my son is 17 so he doesn't need my attention all the time but it's still hard 😏

    • notsure47790
      notsure47790 2chr2015

      Posted

      😔It is unfair that our kids have to suffer with us. It is not easy for the whole family. I can imagine the men in the family are clueless and probably alao worried. Itry to hide it from my kids but it doesn't work. I hate to transfer my anxiety to themrolleyes

      I am very thankful to all of you taking the time to share and help.

    • notsure47790
      notsure47790 karen46733

      Posted

      It is a big stress all of it. And as you say if it is earlier that can make it harder. I never even thought I have to worry about peri before age 50. I thought I will be "normal".

      I always thought that the ages between 30 and 50 are supposed to be the strongest and the best. I feel cheated about that.

      Try vitamins and I truly hope this magically dissapears. I keep taking mine. I can't say for now if They help but I have been told it takes fre months to feel the diference form vit.

      None of us have it easy no matter our age or life styles.

      I am starting the day with nausea😩 today and some body discomfort. Sometimes it gets better as the day goes.

      Positive energy to all! And wishing us more good days.

    • 2chr2015
      2chr2015 notsure47790

      Posted

      I try to hide it too. It's bad enough we feel bad, but then we feel worse when we disappoint them. And I feel cheated too. I'm not supposed to be feeling like this at 44!!

    • karen46733
      karen46733 notsure47790

      Posted

      Touch wood I don't seem to suffer from nausea......well not at the moment. I get headaches which can ruin your day or in my case it didn't help when I was on holiday last month 😠😠😠😠

      It's the big black cloud!!!! I scare myself when I'm like that. I do try to cover it for my sons benefit but that takes a lot of energy which I don't have sometimes 😞.

      I agree I didn't think I'd have worry at this age, I'm single and sometimes I wonder who will want a nutty menopausal woman whos bits aren't what then use to be 😮, nobody told me things down there would happen!! I guess I thought hot flushes and that was about it........how wrong was I????? 😂😂

  • 2chr2015
    2chr2015 karen46733

    Posted

    This up and down with the moods is hard. Just do the stuff that is necessary and let the rest go until you feel better. I know, sometimes I feel like I never catch up but spending time with family is more important than my messy house etc. one day at a time. Sometime we have to take it one hour at a time....and pray faithfully. ((Hugs)). I hope you feel better soon. Keep us updated.
    • karen46733
      karen46733 2chr2015

      Posted

      Hi, it's a nightmare this up and down. I know that my home will suffer I just hope I can hold it together enough for my son. Work is a nightmare as nobody in my office understands as they haven't hit it yet......I'm 41 so I'm not even sure my female manager believes me and if she does there is definitely no sympathy. Gggrrr

      I'M COMING BACK AS A MAN NEXT TIME !!!! 😂😂😂😂

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