sever depression constantly feel really unwell

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Hi, looking for someone to talk to and advise i feel so low all the time! (Even though my life really isnt that bad) i feel constantly really unwill back and headache, nausea, dizzy, stomach ache.

I do not feel like eating i cannot sleep and if i rarely do i cant get up.

My work life is suffering and fear i am close to loosing my job.

I dont seem to be able to find joy or hapoiness anywhere. I feel so awful

Any advise/someone to talk to who understands much appreciated

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    The thing with depression is not to think of it as a mental problem, but a physical problem, in that it is due to a chemical imbalance in the brain and so can hit people even if they have the best life in the world. Have you seen anyone about your problem, such as your GP? That would be the first step.
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    I have had depression for nearly 30 years so I really do know how you feel.

    I hope you have seen a doctor and told him how you are feeling.  You cannot deal with depression on your own, you need support.  It is a very difficult illness to cope with, especially alone. 

    I know how difficult it is to hold down a job feeling like you do.  I lost jobs and relationships and a house etc because of depression, as it impacts our whole life.  That is why I am saying to you know don't let it do that to you.  Get support.  Ask the doctor if you can see a counsellor and a psychiatrist.  With all that support, and perhaps medication, you will put this behind you. 

    People here know exactly how you do, but unfortunately it is up to you to find the support.  I know that is not easy, and will take great effort, but I urge you to do that soon. 

    Keep writing here and let us know how you get on.  I will be thinking about you.  Take care

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    I have seen a doctor and he has prescribed me to antidepressants which i have heard alot of mixed reviews about. He has also referred me to talking therapies so they will be in touch, but i ctually feel worse after seeing him it was just like take these and get out made me feel like it wasnt real sad
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    Hi Kevin, what a great name same as my youngest son who I am so proud of. If you felt your GP wasn't much support and didn't really listen see someone else.

    How many times did you see him/ her before AD prescribed and a referral was done for talking therapies?

    Talking therapies is very good , but you also do need a GP who you can talk to. If they prescribed meds and  referred you after one visit I would try and see someone else, because they obviously haven't got to know you and what may be the best course of treatment. Normally meds will be prescribed and reviews undertaken to see effective they are before referral to talking therapist.

    I am no expert but I am going off how my GP treated me, first it was advice as I was already on AD, after a few visits it was then CBT, but kept seeing me through the course. Eventually I asked about seeing a psychiatrist and he had a long chat with me explaining why at that time he felt May be a change of medication first, but has since referred me for more specialist advice this has been over 2 years but I felt it has been the right treatment. Depression isn't a quick fix but a lot of support from others is needed and I feel I have it with my GP, he has never tried to rush me at any consultation.

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    Yh i just dont no who or where else to turn its like eberyone thinks its a big joke like im just fed up but is not i feel so unwell and not myslef at all
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      Kev are you saying the doctor treated your depression as a big joke?  If that is so, then please find another doctor to talk to.  Most of them are very understanding.  Doctors deal with people with mental health problems every day.  If that doctor did not take you seriously, then that is all wrong. 

      Have you family or friends who can support you.  Depression is an illness you cannot fight alone. 

      It is good that the doctor prescribed anti depressants and talking therapies, so he must have listened to you.  It is a shame that doctors have only a limited time to see each patient, but you can ask for a double appointment wheen he will be able to spend more time with you.

      Have you started taking the medication? 

      When we have depression it does make us have very negative thoughts, and in your case you feel no one cares about you.  I am not sure they think you are a big joke.  Why do you feel this to be the case?  Depression takes away a great deal from us and it can affect us in all sorts of ways.

      Keep in touch.

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    Hi anne,

    I have started them this morning. It was the way he said things like we all get down sometimes that doesnt make you depressed and just cheer up.

    and i have made another appointment with another doctor. Do meds really help?

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    Hi anne,

    I have started them this morning. It was the way he said things like we all get down sometimes that doesnt make you depressed and just cheer up.

    and i have made another appointment with another doctor. Do meds really help? I dont feel comfortable talking to my family as they dont understand it well even though they see how i am x

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      Oh that doctor does sound unfeeling, and I am very glad you have made an appointment to see another doctor.  You are doing well taking charge like that.  Well done.

      I was on antidepressants for nearly 30 years, and I can tell you I would not be here now if I had not taken them.

      You may feel worse at first as the medication gets into your system, but you should begin to feel better after about 6 weeks.  Unfortunately anti depressants take quite a while to have any effect, so stick with it. 

      I can understand you don't feel comfortable talking to your family.  I am sorry about that.  If I were your mum, dad, or another relative I would want you to talk to me.  I know it can be difficult for people who have not experienced it, to understand how much people suffer when they have depression.  It is a shame you have not got family support. 

      I talk to my grandchildren about their problems sometimes.  Could you do that do you think?  Or have you a friend who you think would understand.  I just worry that you are having to handle this alone.  I would worry if your were my relative. 

      Let us know how you are getting on.  Keep in touch

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    Hi anne,

    I dont really have anyone that would understand.

    Its a shame as i think talking helps(although i dont feel like being social) thats why i came on here to look for people to talk to i no its not as good as f2f but better than nothing.

    hope you are well and thanks for your comments

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      Well let us hope that the talking therapy will help you.  No we don't feel sociable when we have depression, but the support of just one understanding person does help a lot.  If you explain and show people articles about depression on the internet, then they will realise it is a genuine illness and you need support.

      It is difficult for people who have not had depression to know that it is a very debilitating illness, not a matter of feeling sad, but so much more.  Not many people realise this.  It is up to us with depression to make people know about depression. 

      Hope the medication makes you feel better.

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