Sex after surgery... Part 2!
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Hey all,
Just an update from my last post about painful sex!
Now a little over 8 weeks post op and all is good in fact... More than good! It's still early days, a little sore and are using a mountain of lube but the difference is amazing.
I've literally gone from thinking maybe I shouldn't have had the op to being so pleased I have. I know everyone has different worries and to some it may be a minor worry but I think the massive hurdle for me was the anxiety and worry over the sex issue after surgery. Now that's getting normal (and improved!) a lot of the worry post op about has/ hasn't it worked has gone.
In general, I still feel uncomfortable if I've over done things but I'm almost back to normal daily mum things. My post op isn't until beginning of March (I had surgery end of nov) but I think it's all healed/ healing.
Just wanted to say thank you to all of you who have commented, given advice and support over the last few weeks, I don't know how I would've coped if I hadn't found this forum :-)
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Jan999 Resting123
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bresychen Resting123
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Resting123 bresychen
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Debra, I agree with matron, if there is anyway you can avoid going back so soon, I would. I'm very lucky in that I'm a full time mum but 4 weeks ago I was still taking lots of sitting down rest and still really tired. Plus, if you're anything like me, you'll still be anxious about it all as its still early.
Bresychen, believe me, I was tearful if it was mentioned but last night I just thought right, it's now or never lol. Once I'd mentioned it to hubby, there was no getting out of it either lol. I found good old ky (which is about £3 in tesco) was fine and very slow and one stage at a time if that makes sense and then I'd think ok, that wasn't bad, I'll carry on lol.
I'm so pleased I did though as this morning it seems like a huge weight has been lifted and I have a very happy husband
just go for it and take it one stage at a time. It was a little sore at the opening but certainly not painful at anytime.
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Bunky Resting123
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I am 6 weeks post op and the thought of sex if I'm honest terrifies me. I for the first time this week had a bit of a check and feel myself. Things don't feel normal at all - feels like I have a little lump at the opening ! Can't understand what that would be !!! Maybe I still have some swelling I don't know ! Go back to see the consultant in a couple of weeks so hoping that will be the moment when he says everything is good and I start to get back to normal whatever that might be !! Hehe !
Glad though you are doing so well. It is always good to hear and be reminded that there is a reason we all had this op xx
debra25218 Bunky
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I have 'the lump' too. I went to see my gp about it a few days ago and she said mine was a bit of scar tissue and nothing to worry about. I'd put off seeing my GP but so pleased I did as she had a look and said everything was healing and no it wasn't too tight etc which really put my mind at rest. Like you, I'd had a look and feel too but as it was so awful before my op through child birth, I really had no idea what it should look like anyway!
The sex.. This was second attempt and to be honest, it was my husband who took the lead and said don't be so silly etc but not in a pressurising way! which is what I needed as it did terrify me... To the point that when I saw the GP I actually said please don't put anything up there lol! She said something that made a lot of sense in that it is going to feel different because it is different, it's been tweaked.
I think the biggest fear for me was a kind of lack of control about what was going to happen when it was up there!!!! But it was fine and I'm so pleased it's done. And it feels fine today. I feel like I'm 16 again 😂😂
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Bunky Resting123
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It effects you on so many levels this operation that it would be impossible for anyone to mentally prepare you beforehand.
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