Sex and the aches

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Ladies good morning I am here again because I have a question not that I love the sex thing during this time but hubby has to stay happy my question is have any of you experience back ache the next day or so after sex normally I never got the aches but since menopause I seem to get the sore upper back and arms I don't know if it has anything to do with it but I tense up so much maybe because I really just didn't want to have sex I just ache maybe two days later also one more question my anxiety is a bit up today I've been plucking my rubber band singing a tune in my head but today when I woke I think when I got the pain in my arms and back it triggered it you know we jump at the slightest pain and start thinking the worse I think today I just need to hear from you ladies sorry if I'm being a pain I just feel loved and comfort when I come to you ladies rather than try to explain it to family that has no clue you ladies are so wonderful at calming me I wish we could all be on an island together away from the ones who don't understand us well thank you wonderful ladies God bless

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    Yes I get pain after sex with my husband although I suffer with my back generally anyway. It's hard because I just don't want to have seen but I have to think of my husband as well . I just feel so rubbish most days thats the last thing on my mind. X

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    Hi Monique dont feel like you are being a pain. We all need each other to get through this smile I dont get those pains but I do get the anxiety about things. Just remember it is a part of the perimenopause and try and breathe through it. You are doing great! Btw I am wearing a rubber band now to get me refocused when I need it. I am praying for all of us ladies daily. Have a good day!

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    Hello

    Men just don't get it that the last thing on our minds is sex . Wish they could live as one of us for a few days then they'd understand .

    I also have back pain after sex lasts for a few days your not alone x

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    Hey Monique I had a full abdomal hysterectomy seven weeks ago husband had calendar marked at six weeks due to no sex for 6 weeks after surgery! I had gotten full blown menopause symptoms since surgery and wanted no part of sex but did give in they have to be satisfied at six weeks it was very painful now I'm scared to do it again due to pain! I feel selfish and have been so emotional hope we can all get past this quickly !!

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    aaaaaah bless you Monique.. can't help you with the problem, but the island thing sounds good.......I will think of that when i feel the need......xxx

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