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I am looking for advice. Three weeks ago my GF broke up with me after a couple weeks of anxiety and panic attacks . Two days before she was loving and said she loved me, we live apart and we had one day apart and she asked to meet me and she said she can't feel anything right now and that she doesn't feel love for me so we should break up and doesn't want me to put my life on hold for her. She wants to be friends we still talk a couple times a week via text. I asked her to get help and she said she was trying then this week she made it a point to tell me she was finally able to get an appointment with a therapist and that she feels really good about it. I saw her last week at a work function( we work for the same company but 3 hours apart). That night she got really drunk and I took her home and put her to bed as I was leaving she grabbed my shirt and told me not to leave her. She held tight to my shirt cuddling me until she fell asleep. Nothing else happened. The next day she said she still doesn't feel anything. I was confused and asked why she wanted me to stay. She didn't have an answer.
I love her very much, three weeks before the break up we were picking kid names and thinking of ways to work out moving in together.
I want to believe that she still loves me right now and that I should wait for her to get better. But she keeps telling me to move on. Every time she does it hurts. Every time we talk and we don't say I love you like we did before it hurts, but I don't want to give up on an amazing woman. she wasn't seeing a therapist when this happened and wasn't medicated though she has been in the past.
Has anyone with anxiety done this to their significant other? And if so when you started to feel better did the feelings come back? I want to have hope. But I have anxiety issues of my own and have had to make adjustments since this happened. Like I said, I want to have hope, I love her and at one point she said she had never dealt anything like what she felt with me in regard to love (even with her ex husband in their beginning) so I do believe she actually loved me. But I'm afraid the longer I wait the more it will hurt and I am scared to get bitter.
Any advice would be great. Thank you
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