shoulda/woulda/ coulda

My dear robin, thank you for the reply, again I am ashamed? Maybe due to my sleep deprivatiin, I forgot to mention the main point to what I wrote when thought of woulda/coulda/shoulda, and that was, thankfully not everyone quit like I did? They still believed and fought on not knowing if they could change anything or not. One only has to look around to witness some of changes those brave people have achieved? Reductions in nuclear arsenals, some species of whales brought back from the brink, parts of the rainforests preserved forever, the gorrillas in the Congo thriving, reserves for the rhinos and elephants. My god, all these things and more would never of been achieved if all followed my suit and quit. So really, the moral of my story was to people out there who ever think of quitting, be it their ideals, ideas, even life itself is not to. Change can and often dies come, it's just that it so often takes along time. I,m proud you found place and are now living the dream of helping people, that is something I would like to do. No male member of my family has lived past the age of 64 and that was my father. No I,m not quitting again and not resigned myself the the fate I believe is due me. One of my brothers already has cancer and not that long to live, I am happy educating myself, my self worth is what matters to me now, I do not believe I an worth much morally but I an trying to change that. It is my goal to make amends for my mistakes so when my time comes I too can kook back and think (I did that and I never quit) thanks again hun, you're a diamond.

Hi again hun, just went to write to you and sent it to myself? Ha. I need sleep, "my excuse" ha, bye hun.

Oh my goodness, David. I don't know where to begin. 

You talk about 'those brave people'...who have made major changes in this world. Not all of us can be Nelson Mandela or Mother Teresa and their ilk. But...in so many ways we...that is including YOU have helped those same people reach such levels of success. You sensitise people to these issue by sharing information about them, you may have passed along emails about the plight of animals in Africa for example. Even telling us about 'bringing some species of whales back from the brink' puts these issues in our minds to consider and reflect upon...and maybe go onto sites and research further and contribute to.

I think you are minimizing your impact on the world. Just as on a football team, one person may score, but all those other football players behind him were instrumental in getting that ball down the field and into the net. 

In our own small way, we hope to make the world a better place...which you certainly do. You help your elderly neighbours....and in doing so, you don't know, but you are likely inspiring others in your building who see what you are doing and one day will do the same...and will tell others what you do and inspire them etc.. They will admire you for your selflessness and strive to do better in life and become like you.  I am sure, because of your sensitive and caring nature, you have helped many people...including your sister and you are unaware of the impact you have had on the lives of others. You would need to post a long list all the wonderful things you have done for people. Even just giving your local grocery a compliment about his shop, lifted his spirits which then in turn might have made him treat his children better that evening, or make him want to work harder is another brick in the wall of kindness and support to others which makes this world a better place.

You underrate your own importance and impact on the lives of others. I think you should make a list of things you have done over your life time that have helped others. 

Look at Roberta and her story about helping a vagrant. That one gesture could brighten that poor man's day...and maybe...just maybe he will say to himself, "This world is not so harsh and cruel after all...." And that might make him want to seek help. It may not bring peace to the whole world, but it could bring peace to that one suffering man's small world just as you bring comfort and support to your elderly neighbours. 

Do you belong to a church, David? Personally, I am not religious, and maybe you are not either, and does that really matter? A church community is a group of people who help and support one another and who want to make the world a better place..your kind of people! You would be a wonderful asset to a church community. It's too bad we don't have more giving people like you, David.

I'm sorry to hear about your brother. You can do something about your health and increase your chances of living a long and healthy life through lifestyle changes. Do you know 'TED talks'? They are a collection of videos of speeches from conferences. If you are not familiar with 'TED talks' as they are called, you will LOVE them because they are all about heroes who DO make this world a better place in very important ways. There are talks on the very subjects that interest you. Here is one Ted Talk by someone I consider my hero: Dr. Li who talks about cancer prevention. The answer is right on our dinner plates. https://www.ted.com/talks/william_li ;

I see you have written a few more posts so I will get to those.

Chin up!

Robin

 

hi robin angel? well firstly let me apologise for the delay in replying? i found myself in a not so happy place yesterday although i never even left my home? so many happy memories from my past came flooding back but they decided to bring their friends? (the not so happy memories) i deactivated my data as i know i would of ended up being unthoughtful and instead selfish if i responded to this forum and thats just not right, people are using this forum in times of their own despair, the last thing they need is me going on about my own issues and it would be so incenitive of me to cloud these pages with negativity. it took a good 24 hours for me to shake the mood and now i am back? what a relief. i made it to the library and it is on one of their computers that i am replying now. it seems i have a few comments to read and i will get to them and reply in turn, yours being the first i seen and read. your reply was very appreciated and i do understand what you are saying, by taking little steps one can still cover great distances. my angel, i know so many people that where once my friends and in most cases if not all they would still like to be my friend, the reason they are not is my conscious decision? i could write truths on this forum that would sound so bizarre that they probably ouldnt be believed yet if they was believed it could harm the healing process of others who are reading? so yes, when i suffer i suffer alone, wanted to say more hun butit seems ive used up all the space, thanks again angel.

hi robin have just read your reply to David. You put all the things down on paper I wish I could . You and David both have a wonderfull gift of words. At the end of the day it all helps us think and then try harder. I want peace in the world for every one. No hunger no pain and most of all for every one some were to rest your head and be comfortable and safe .. 

Hello Roberta,

I think you have made an invaluable contribution to this post. I love your outlook on life. Stop and smell the roses...because they are there. You made me really imagine you walking down the street enjoying and appreciating the sound of bird song and the beauty of nature. You are very spiritual which brings another completely different element to these posts. And suggestions of solace and support from a belief in God and going to one's house of worship are so uplifting.  Although people may not always comment or reply, I am sure you have made an impact on people. Keep it up. You have a lot to offer that people like me cannot.

Well said! Wishing you all the best!

Robin

I hope you find the inner peace that you deserve. You are a special person with a good heart.

All the best to you, David.

Robin

Aha!  You see how one couple changed the world by adopting that child from the American ghetto. And by chance, at the book fair in purchasing that book about Rubin Carter they were inspired to fight for him and obtain his freedom. What a story of inspiration! 

Your library probably has many books of such 'heroes' that you would enjoy. 

Thanks angel, only just turned data back on my phone, turned it off for a while because for some reason or other the sun isn't shining so bright for me today? Still, I hear what you're saying and it makes sense. Thank you so much.

David so sorry your not having a very good day. I'll just have to pray harder.maybe gods having a bad day too?xx

hi my darling roberta. yes hun, pretty lousy night, never went to see alan, thought sunday not the best day to try take up his time? wasnt feeling to happy anyway. you have all helped me by being there, maybe it is time i buy a computer? thank you so much for being my unknown friends, you are all so dear to me.

Hi David hope you feeling a little better.yes we are all your unknown friends!!!and we feel for you and each other!!!! I wonder what it would be like if we were all put in the same room?????bet we would not reconise each other???yes good idea save up and buy a computer!!!i don't have one I have a lap top which I find easy to use and ideal for me.mind you I think you would reconise me because my picture is there for you to see!!!  Maybe go see Alan another day. I am sure he would be pleased to see you!!xx