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I think the spouse or significant other who is living with the TKR patient should be made aware that he/she will be kinda on their own for awhile.What with the pain and icing of knee, we really don't do much together yet at 3 weeks post-op.I am trying to be patient and just wait on him.  Awaiting to have him back, healthy.

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    Hi Judith

    My wife is exactly the same she keeps telling me she wants her husband back lol i was full of fun and mischief before even though km 58 i honestly didnt expect this experience after my tkr operation but i hope normal service will resume asap i hope give him time its very tough.

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    So very true. Us people who have partners to help us through this are so very very lucky. It will get better though. I am 5 weeks post op now and my husband has been fantastic. I was a mess from the guilt of having him waiting on me !!!!  What doesn't kill you makes you stronger smile

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    What's with you people? Go through the pain yourselves, then let us know if you can wait on them.  

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      You surely don't understand what we're talking about.  I love my husband dearly and hate seeing him in pain,  I'm just saying it kinda puts a wall between us.  But it's getting better and he admitted he feels the same as I do.  He misses our old closeness.

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      I appreciate your feelings / observations on this. As a TKR recoverer !!!

      Its nice to see the flip side of the situation. I know looking after me has been a big ask for my husband and the physical sensitivity that comes with the procedure - that I need a 2 foot protective bubble around me - is very real. As is the tunnel vision of being so centred on " the knee" and how my recovery is going. Conversation becomes focused on the one thing and physical intimacy is a memory. I know all this passes with time as have had two knee surgeries prior to this and life has got back to our normal. Hang in there and keep doing the daily grind. It will slowly get better smile

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      I think the the thing about any situation like we are all going through as far as our partners are concerned its a mutual thing i know if my wife was to be in a situation like this or any other the roles woud be reversed and i would be doing everything i could to help with a speedy recovery .
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      My husband has been amazing. I am 10 weeks out and he waited on me and attended to my every need even went to all my pt apts. Still does. He is the best I couldn't have done this without him.

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