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If you have seen my previous posts, i have been trying to open up about how i feel and things that have happened to me in my past and childhood to my husband.

Now he knows some of what i have been through yet we hardly talk about it, on my lunch break today we were talking about when my dad visits and i explained that i was not sure if i wanted to see him or not, hubby then guessed that i was not bothered at all by this, i told him i have too many demons to deal with from the past. I have had no help with this either.

I am on week 5 of Citalopram Antidepressants which are going well. I did tear up when talking to hubby today but hopefully this is the start where i can tell him how i feel and move on from the horrible things that have happened to me.

Any extra advice on being able to open up to my Hubby?

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    Good on you dawn57104 for really trying to tackle and deal with all this, and I'm sorry you're carrying a lot of inner pain and anguish, I do relate to what you're saying. Keep that heart strong.

    I think it's awesome that you wish to share your past with your husband, I'd think it an honor, but I just want to say that, yes, it could go well and be a positive time for you both, or, it could also not go exactly the way you hoped but that doesn't mean it's the end of the world - it could be a learning curve as well, you see, for all party's concerned. I guess what I'm saying is, if you choose to open up to your husband, just be mentally prepared in the back of your mind for various outcomes. I mean, this is life - it doesn't necessarily go the way you hoped! [To me].

    All the best dawn57104. I always feel proud of people doing what you're doing because it's a journey as far as I'm concerned. Thank you and take care.

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    Hi Dawn,

    Really proud of you for the strength you are showing and the steps forward you are taking. I guess you know your husband pretty well and he knows you - you are soul mates. As others have said, there's no use in trying to second-guess his reaction but try to put yourself in his place. I'm assuming he is worried about you and wants to help you deal with your demons. Take things slowly and reveal as much (or as little) of what's in your heart as feels comfortable. Only you will know when you are ready when the circumstances are right. I believe that you will know when the time is right and when you can stop carrying this burden all on your own. Sending you hugs & positive thoughts xx

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      Hi Digsby,

      Thank you, my husband knows a fair bit of my history already and i am making progress to open up and deal with what has gone on, although it is hard some times.

      Thank you so much for your support and such kind words, without people like you i may not have progressed aswell as i have.

      Thank you, hugs too you also. hope your well. xx

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    hi, i think you are doing great. very small steps is the key. ease into it
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