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So Alone

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tinaemch123
tinaemch123

I didnt get one sngle christmas card last year. Knowng that no one even bothered to return hurt so much and there is not a single week that goes by that i dont think about how this just about sums up my worth.

 

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  • heather49855
    heather49855 tinaemch123

    Posted

    Hello Tina. Your post flashed up and you sound so sad I just wanted to acknowledge you. You talk about your lack of worth but I wonder if the people in your life treat you like you're worth something. If not it's time to get a new network otherwise you'll be stuck with this belief! Take care of yourself x
  • celtics
    celtics tinaemch123

    Posted

    Hi tina sorry to here you had a quiet christmas last year but please dont think your alone thats were the internet comes into its own sure its not person to person contact but it put you in contact with others who can help make this christmas a better one ! If your friends are not supportive of you especially at christmas i would look for other friends who will be there for you when ever need them ! I wish you all the best david
  • peggy21317
    peggy21317 tinaemch123

    Posted

    I was so sorry to read your post . Do you have friends or family? X
  • Crazycat
    Crazycat tinaemch123

    Posted

    Hey hun I know how you feel I had a Christmas like that a few years ago, spent the day sobbing and alone, awful :-( 

    It can change and you do have worth hun we all do, do you get out much ? Work or socialise ? 

    Have you sought help for your low mood ? 

    Take care and keep talking x 

  • Crazycat
    Crazycat tinaemch123

    Posted

    Hey hun I know how you feel I had a Christmas like that a few years ago, spent the day sobbing and alone, awful :-( 

    It can change and you do have worth hun we all do, do you get out much ? Work or socialise ? 

    Have you sought help for your low mood ? 

    Take care and keep talking x 

  • deirdre._03652
    deirdre._03652 tinaemch123

    Posted

    Hi , try not to feel too low, have you no neighbours or even one friend that you cantalk to ?, please do not give up and never, ever think that you are worth less than anyone else, every single human being is somebody's son or daughter, and therefore loved.... Please go and see your doctor for help with your clearly very low mood... try to do something, ,( no matter how small ) every day that will give you a lift, even if it is only for a short time... I so truly feel for you, but remember what others have. Said, there is always someone on this forum with a ready and sympathetic, also understanding ear..... you will be in my thoughts,,, sincerest best wishes to you,and... HAPPY XMAS. Xxxxx
  • linda83143l
    linda83143l tinaemch123

    Posted

    I had the same and no presents. Christmas is just two days of your life.. Then its gone.

    Concentrate on the 363 days, treat Xmas as time to rest and relax.

    That's how I get by.

    Try to be positive - it works

    Hope this helps xx

  • lori73442
    lori73442 tinaemch123

    Posted

    Hi Tina. I knnow it hurts not getting Christmas cards. We mail out a lot and we might get three. I feel like why should I waste money doing it. It makes me feel good sending them but sad when I don't hear back. So I decided I will send cards to the ones who send cards to us. People have become to involved in their own lifes and computers to do the old fashion things like sending cards out. You are worth a lot. You put your heart in sending out those cards. Don't let them take that away from you. Christmas is suppose to be about kindness and you did that. I have people forget my birthday and they even showed up at my door. It hurts but forget them. What matters is you do what makes you feel good in the inside.
  • elizabeth20203
    elizabeth20203 tinaemch123

    Posted

    Hi, I am sorry that people didn't think about you last christmas it's not nice. I am alone at christmas even thou i have daughters thou don't want to invite me. Thou we do presents it hurts that they don't care about me being alone. It's three years now since my family have bothered. I have only a small flat so cannot invite them all here. Then one daughter has invited her family here for boxing day with the Grand children so i have decided to do a buffet and i will get to see the grand children as well. Christmas day will be lonely but i plan a day of a simple meal and a couple of films and maybe some chocolate knowing my kids are a mile away enjoying themselves. Yes i understand the hurt for you and i hope that something better happens for you. We are always here for you. Elizabeth
    • anongirl25
      anongirl25 elizabeth20203

      Posted

      Elizabeth that sounds terrible how your family dont bother with you, one of your daughters could at least invite you to one of their houses for xmas. Theres nothing worse than being alone over xmas and new year when you know theres alot of other families spending time together. You think about them having a laugh and a good time and your just sat there on your own thinking how you can do things differently in the future and dwelling on things.
    • elizabeth20203
      elizabeth20203 anongirl25

      Posted

      Well my other daughter and partner invited his parents last year and i felt really hurt, i live on my own and have been widowed since age 29, and she said to me it's only one day of the year!!! i am also on my own every new year. My other daughter has 2 children and i baby sit alot and when she is off maternity leave i will be looking after both for 3 days a week from next Feb. I don't get paid but i wouldn't want to for their are my Grand children. It's not the dinner or presents that bother me it's the not being wanted for a few hours on christmas day. I buy presents for them and their partners and would buy the meat for the dinner so cannot understand them. They do buy me nice presents but it's the company want i need. 
    • anongirl25
      anongirl25 elizabeth20203

      Posted

      It might only be one day of the year but its the one day families are supposed to spend together not alone. Not meaning to sound harsh but it sounds as though your daughter is using you to only babysit and of course you love spending time with your grandchildren but shes being selfish why not invite you for xmas your good enough any other time of the year to baby sit. Thats not nice how your daughters partners parents were invited and you wernt that must of made you feel awful. Theres never been a truer saying though you can pick your friends but not your family. My mam is in kind of the same situation with my sister. She expects my mam to baby sit alot but then doesnt bother with her any other time although she does invite her over for xmas
    • frustrated61
      frustrated61 elizabeth20203

      Posted

      Elizabeth,  my heart goes out for you.  You should just tell your daughter how she hurt you and ask her why she's asking you to take care of lifes most precious gifts and yet you're not that important to be a part of her holiday.  That's wrong.  Perhaps you can make arrangements with your single friends to start you own traditions?

      Good luck

      Frustrated

    • frustrated61
      frustrated61 elizabeth20203

      Posted

      Elizabeth, can you all meet up on Christmas Eve at a resturant and have a special occasion there?  We've done this for a few years now and it's really an exciting time.  I do, however, meet up on Christmas day as well.  But I go there as the one daughter has 7 kids (4 of her own and 3 of his) but there's no room at my place for everyone so I do go there and I won't have it any other way.  I insist!!  You should too!

      Good luck

      Frustrated

    • elizabeth20203
      elizabeth20203 frustrated61

      Posted

      Hi, My eldest daughter is working christmas eve till 8pm and my youngest daughter will need to put the kids to bed earlier than that. My youngest has now invited her family boxing day lunch to mine, it will be a squash, i am only doing a buffet style lunch as they are all then going to their cousins in the afternoon. I have accepted this as then the kids can have their presents at mine, and i will get to see them for a couple of hours. I have no single friends, my few friends have families or partners. Thanks for your concerns i appreciate that. I will be lonely but i will get through it. Elizabeth  
    • frustrated61
      frustrated61 elizabeth20203

      Posted

      AGain, I'm sorry to hear this, Elizabeth and it is my hope that your family will join together in the near future and keep strong with one another.  As you and I know, life is all about family.  Best wishes

      Frustrated

    • elizabeth20203
      elizabeth20203 frustrated61

      Posted

      Hello Frustrated, just to let yo know that my eldest daughter has now invited me for Christmas dinner. I am so pleased that i have been invited this year. 

      Elizabeth.

    • elizabeth20203
      elizabeth20203 anongirl25

      Posted

      Hello Anongirl, just to let you know that my eldest daughter has now invited me for Christmas dinner, i am so pleased to be invited this year.

      Elizabeth.

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