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So damn confused!

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lina49424
lina49424

So I've been in a committed relationship for a year. Found out I have 1 and 2! He does not! Been tested twice. Me only. Although I never had symptoms. I had a bladder infection that lead me to just have all testing. 

Just when my sex life was booming at 50! This! Now my questions is....

Can I have oral sex? Do I have to use condoms with my same partner that I've had never used with before now? 

How does this change ur sex life!!!??? 

Please help and respond! 

Thanks in advance

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  • lina49424
    lina49424

    Posted

    Oops I meant he's has been tested 2 times I have, both negative me only once. And I'm positive 

  • worried69795
    worried69795 lina49424

    Posted

    Hi lina, what were your test results ? Do you mind sharing them on here ? That will help in determining whether youre a high positive or not.
    • lina49424
      lina49424 worried69795

      Posted

      Honestly I don't know. I pretty much fainted after the Doc told me. Numbers matter? I'll find my papers to find out. 

    • worried69795
      worried69795 lina49424

      Posted

      Well anything below 1.1 is negative I believe and anything above 1.1 is positive. Some results go .1 over and would read positive but that could mean a false positive. Like I said, not sure what your numbers are so really can't tell.

  • JJ55
    JJ55 lina49424

    Posted

    I can't answer questions I just found out I had 1&2 and I am asking questions myself. I am 9 years older then you I feel like my life is over. I am to live out my last year's alone.I would be afraid to kiss anyone. Just be thankful you have someone in your life

    • lina49424
      lina49424 JJ55

      Posted

      Please please don't feel like that.  From what I see folks live with it and live a very reasonable life. Lets just think positive. What we think about we bring about. So let's just think positive. 

      I'm sorry. 

  • Louise_15130
    Louise_15130 lina49424

    Posted

    Your life is definitely not over. I thought the same when I found out at 30. But I've found someone who doesn't mind which I never thought would happen. I had a lot of outbreaks the first year and I'm now on suppressive therapy which seems to be working for me. Even though I do worry a lot about passing it to him and we try to be really careful I told him before we slept together and he respected me for that.  Even though it feels it when you first find out it's not the end of the world.

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