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So I've just recently discovered I have herpes and I'm really depressed

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brooke52573
brooke52573

Not sure what to do I'm in my early 20's I've only slept with one guy so I'm kind of shocked I never thought it could happen to me. 

I would really like to confront the guy who gave it to me but to be honest I'm not sure how. I'm not even sure if I should even tell him cause I think he already knows he has it he was acting weird the day after I slept with him and he's been avoiding me once except he texted me once but nvr responded to the text I sent in response to his.

idk I'm just freaking out. any advice would help thanks in advance

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  • hope4cure
    hope4cure brooke52573

    Posted

    It's nothing to be ashamed of 1 out of 6 between the ages of 14-49 have it. Some don't even know... You must take antiviral meds and read up knowledge is the key.,

    tell UR partner ask for him to test for herpes

    Antiviral medicines work best when they are taken as soon as symptoms are noticed. For that reason,keep a supply of the medicine on hand a tall times.

    If you have 6 or more outbreaks a year or have severe outbreaks, you may benefit from taking antiviral medicine every day. It may reduce the number of outbreaks by about 1 or 2 episodes a year. As times passes the severity lessons.

    If you take antiviral medicine every day, you may want to talk to your doctor about not taking the medicine for a short period each year. This can show whether your outbreaks are starting to occur less frequently. Then you can decide whether to keep taking the medicine. 

    Read up on the viral disease knowledge is UR best defense.

    CHEERS

    HOPE

    Need daily antiviral medicine to prevent recurrent outbreaks.is a normal treatment preventative program.

     

    • brooke52573
      brooke52573 hope4cure

      Posted

      I'm not ashamed I'm just driving myself mad because the guy i've been seeing thinks he can do this then drop off the face of the earth but thanks alot for your reply it helped alot!
  • Guest
    Guest brooke52573

    Posted

    I never thought I would end up with herpes either, I was shocked, upset, scared, ashamed, embarassed and mad. I have had a few months to get used to the idea and I have done a lot of reading and realized its not the end of the world. A few things may change but for the most part its life as usual. 

    In the US at least more people have herpes than have diabetes it just gets a stigma cause its in the genitals and therefore not talked about. My doctor told me that if I had chicken pox as a child then the virus was in me from that point on. Herpes is a variation of chicken pox and it also shows as cold sores. People talk about those all the time with no stigmas.

    Its hard but since you know who you got it from I would strongly recommend talking to him. He needs to know that you got it from him and he needs to be upfront and honest with you about it. If he has had other partners it is possible he didnt know I had it. by my best guess I had it about 3-4 years before ever having an outbreak and I had no idea til the sores showed up. Thats why its so easy to spread around. It often wont show its face for long periods of time. 

    The antiviral meds help loads with the outbreak, if you like feel free to private message me if you just need someone to talk to about everything

    • hope4cure
      hope4cure Guest

      Posted

      Thanx grinder. U added a lot of common sence suggestions.and u have a good attitude... We could all take a small moment time and be thankful we have a place to share.

      cheers

      hopebiggrin

    • brooke52573
      brooke52573 Guest

      Posted

      Hi Ginger!

      I don't guess any of us do I have tried contacting him but I've got no response as of yet I feel like I will be kind of lost for words anyway I thought about just texting it to him but Idk i don't think thats really appropriate 

      but thanks alot for the response I will keep everything you said in mind!

  • Guest
    Guest brooke52573

    Posted

    Hey brooke, I'm sorry to hear about your diagnosis. I was diagnosed myself less than a week ago and it completely broke me. I'm still sad about it but idk, after doing tons of research and making this account I feel so much better about my future. 

    I really think you should confront the person who gave this to you. Having herpes comes with a lot of responsibility, not only do you have to keep yourself really healthy but you have to be extra careful for those around you. Honestly,  I have no idea who gave me herpes. It could be a handful of people, but if that guy would have told me he had herpes do you think I would have slept with him? No. Not without a condom atleast. If I had the opportunity to confront the person who gave me herpes I definitely would. I wouldn't yell or anything, (there might be some yelling involved) but idk it's juts not fair that they wouldn't mention it. 

    as i said, I was diagnosed a week ago so I'm still new to everything but if you need any advice on anything else I would be more than happy to try to help. 

    Good luck! 

    • hope4cure
      hope4cure Guest

      Posted

      I knew u would show up. UR gonna be the best help for Brook.

      See UR a pro on helping & knowledge already.. 

      Thanx for being here BRI...

      (( hugs ))

      HOPE

       

    • brooke52573
      brooke52573 Guest

      Posted

      Thanks alot for the response bri the fact that u were just diagnose and are already feeling better makes me feel an eency teency tiny better I have been doing research myself but yeah I want to tell him but as I have said Idk how I would plus I think he already knows I have my suspiscions but I do think i'm gonna confront him regardless cause if he did know and didn't say a word to me he is pretty messed up but thanks alot for the response and I will def let u know if I need any advice thanks again!
    • Guest
      Guest brooke52573

      Posted

      Yea if i had the chance to say something i have no idea what that would even be. It's such an embarrassing topic. I hope everything goes well and you feel better after you talk to him. I hope he has a good excuse on why he wouldn't tell you. It makes me so mad lol.   I still have my daily sob fests but I'm hopeful. I'm terrified at the same time though. I have so many mixed emotions every second of the day. BUT i do feel a lot better after talking to other people. I've just realized that yes it does suck, big fat ones! , but i won't die from it and I can live a somewhat normal life. I'll probably be a healthier person in the long run because you're supposed to eat healthy and just be fit to keep a good immune system.  Idk I could have done without herpes to get healthy but I guess it works 

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