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Loubielou1994
Loubielou1994

Ever since I was little, I have always been shy. My family are all quite reserved and quiet people and I've never really found it a problem.

As I've got older however, I feel like my anxiety is horrendous when it comes to certain social situations. I have overcome several, for example in the work place. To start with it was hard but being there 3 years, 5 days a week, I didn't have any choice. In some ways I consider myself to he fairly confident and not shy. But the minute my other half suggests going to dinner with friends (specifically people he knows) I go into meltdown. I cry, and shout and just freak out. I really wish I didn't react this way but something in my switches as soon as he suggests going out. It puts a huge strain on our relationship as he is a very out going person whereas I would much rather just spend my time just the two of us or by myself. The funny thing is, if I do force myself to go out then I actually have a good time, but if I'm asked to go out again maybe a week later then I will freak out all over again. It is pathetic that at 25 years old, I basically have a tantrum over not wanting to go out. Does anyone else have experiences like this? Any advice would be greatly received!

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  • hypercat
    hypercat Loubielou1994

    Posted

    Why go into meltdown and cry, shout, and freak out? What are you afraid of? If it's your partners friends I can quite understand you don't want to be with them all the time if you are more reserved. Any relationship requires compromise so why not negotiate that you agree to meet them say once a month or something? Arrange some outings for just the two of you sometimes as well.

    • Loubielou1994
      Loubielou1994 hypercat

      Posted

      I don't understand why I go into meltdown, I just wanted to know if anybody else reacts this way if they are socially anxious.

      I feel like an idiot afterwards.

      Thanks for your reply

    • hypercat
      hypercat Loubielou1994

      Posted

      Try and catch yourself just before you into meltdown or just as you are entering it and stop and analyse your feelings. You will gain insight from doing this as your emotions are trying to tell you about yourself and your triggers. Then you can learn to understand yourself better and control and modify your behaviour.

      It's not easy doing this I know but there is no gain without pain, and nothing will change. x

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