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I have just been prescribed fluxetine by my doctor, my partner of 14 years left me 7 weeks ago to go of with someone else it is so hard and I find each day such agony i feel as though I will never see another day of happiness does anyone else feel this way. I need help

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    Hi, Let me just say i am so glad you doctor is helping you straight away. My husband left me 2 years ago after a 15 year relationship. He too went off with someone else and I had just lost my mum. My doctor didnt take my depression seriously at all. I have now remarried - my husband is amazing but being happy has triggered off my depression again strangely enough and i am now on Fluoxetine. I wish i had been helped straight away like you - you will be fine im sure and if my husband is anything to go by you will realise that there are much better men out there than the one who left you.
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    I really know what you're going through,believe me you are not on your own even though it may feel that way.My husband left me after 9 years for someone else,it hurts like hell and the desperation is awful,ive been on fluoxetine for about 2 months because of this and although its not a miracle cure its helped me get up in the morning and get through a day without the weight of the world on my shoulders.I still cry at times but its not every day anymore,you'll be ok.i promise you.Let me know how you're doing x
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    Thank you for all your kind words I am on my 5th day of fluoxetine today I dont feel as sad and depressed as I have been this past to months although I dont think it is down to the drug I am trying to stay as positve as i can and hope things get better
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    God Tilly babe

    I wish I could help u

    Im 42, and reealise MOST men dont understand us at all - Im sorry to all u caring lovely men, let me just say that b4 I start - Im not slagging men off, only Tilly' s and my exes!

    dont know where to begin, or what to say. Just hold on, please...................... hold on, and trust this old saying..... cos it is true, I promise u that........

    U never know what's roud the corner - i know it hurts, i do know, woman are strong - and u r, it's in your very make up. Usually a man will regret what he's done - u get out there Tilly - be strong -just stay strong, the fluoxetine will help u thru the first hurdles......... I know u think u cant do this - esp lying in bed alone at night - but take that time to learn - to relax

    Ul be fine - cos u did this - u went to ur Dr for help - ul be finexxxxxxxxxxxx

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    My husband of 6 years has left me, because he does not know if he wants to be married any more. I have been on fluoxetine for 11 days now and this is the first day I have not cried. smile I feel stronger today than I have done in the past 6 weeks. I hope that in time my husband will realise what he is missing but in the mean time I have to pick myself up and rebuild my life for ME. It's his loss.
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    my partner of 9 years left me 6 weeks ago,before that he was back and for,didnt know what he wanted.I was on fluoxetine 20mg for about 3 months but monday the dosage was altered to 40mg a day.I wish i could feel its his loss but im so unhappy and im not coping at all.This is gutwrenching pain and i wish i could go to sleep and not wake up.The reason im still here at all is because of my 11 year old son,i would never leave him.I cry several times a day every day and im shocked how badly ive let this man make me feel.He didnt even have the decency to tell me to my face,he sent me a very short letter.I just wish i could hate him.
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    Hello Ladies,

    I have been on Fluoxetine since last Friday (now on my fifth day). 6 months ago my wife of 11 years told me she didnt love me anymore but we have been trying to work it out- despite the best efforts of another man!! Things have got worse rather than better and she has told some very hurtful things. I was becoming more and more emotional to the degree that anything would set me off. I decided I needed some help because i hold quite a responsible job and was struggling to cope with my day and was prescribed Fluoxetine. Within 24 hrs I found that I wasnt anywhere near as emotional and able to cope with the day a little better but I am having sleep problems. Not sure if this to do with the tablets or whats going on emotionally with me. I also feel a little shaky during the day sometimes - like I am right now!! I was told by the Dr that it would take two weeks to take affect properly. I hope it helps because we are going on holiday with the children next week and I want to be strong enough to cope with it and try and inject some fun and laughter back into our lives. I just want my wife to love me again and get back to leading a normal life. sad

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    Day 18 on the tablets. Still not sleeping, went back to work today after 4 weeks off. I have quite a responsible job which I usually enjoy. But today I could not face the questions, I feel like such a failure in that I could not make my marriage work. I gave everything but it was not enough for him, now I feel hollow and worn out. I love him so much, but I need to face the facts that he may not come back. I do live in hope though. When I came in from work I had a good cry, feel slightly better for it. Is anyone else praying? I have become obsessed with prayer. I suppose it stops my mind racing. I just want to sleep well tonight and go to work tomorrow and clean up the mess that was made while I was away, that should keep me busy. :? I feel the tablets are working in that I am not crying everyday, but some days are so hard to get through. It was only 2 weeks ago I attempted suicide, it is still a struggle but I know I will overcome this. I have to.
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    Hi people, My husband left me in February after 35 years of marriage, I found out he had been leading a double life and conducting numerous affairs secretly for the past 10 years. As you can imagine, I was devastated, we'd been together since we were 19 years old. I have started divorce proceedings against him and the decree nisi is already through. He is with living with his latest woman (I use the term very loosely) now. I am outraged and humiliated at the way he has treated me, but I just can't help wishing he would come back, I think of him constantly and thought we would grow old together. In all other respects he was a fantastic husband, I just didn't know this other side of him. The pills do take the edge off my depression but I'm scared I'm going to miss him for the rest of my life, like someone said, I really wish I could hate him. :cry:
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    I know how you are feeling - for 2 years we had worked to get a visa to emigrate to Australia. This was granted in May and we put house up for sale. My mum died in June and I felt free to emigrate. Four weeks after her death my husband came home and told me he had met someone els and was leaving. He came back next day and said he had told her it was over and we were going to Oz. I sold house and arranged everything and he then left again. I am broken hearted. All my dreams gone and I can't imagine life without him. He is still with the other woman but when he visits me he looks so sad and ends up crying. Doctor has just put me on Fluoxetine and I hope they will work to dull the pain. I feel so useless and can't face telling anyone.
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    Its so horrible to know that so many people are going through the same thing,the desperation you feel is unbearable.Im the one who said i wish i could hate him but i just cant,i dont think ive really come to terms with it yet,some part of me is clinging on to the hope that he will come to his senses and come back but deep down i know he probably wont.Im on 40mg of fluoxetine and 6mg of diazepam a day,how did it get to this? Reading the other posts about a 35 year old marriage and a man who leaves when you're about to emigrate just makes me realise that there really is nobody you can rely on except yourself.what's even the point of trying?
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    Hi ladies

    Well it has been around 6 weeks on the tablets (I have stopped counting). I am getting along grand. I still have the odd crying day but they are seldom. My husband still has not come home but he did go to the doctors to get meds for depression, progress at last. I have come to the conclusion that yes I do want him back but I will not sell my soul in the process. I can do this, come what may. I am a good person (the therapist said so it must be true ha ha). A few weeks ,even days ago I would have done anything to get him back, but now I realise there is more to life. It is a case of moving forward not back. If we are to get back together it will because we have learned form this painful experience and become stronger becuse of it. Onwards and upwards ladies (and blokes).

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    After being on fluoxetine,upped to 40 mg a day and a varying amount of diazepam i think im starting to feel as if i might be coming through all this,i miss my ex like hell and id welcome him back with open arms but im starting to come to terms with him leaving,its just the cruel way he did it that im finding difficult,its as if all the years we had together,all that history,meant absolutely nothing.It wasnt important.Im praying that one day he will regret this and want me back but by the time he does i wont want him.I can dream!
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