Someone to talk to please.

Posted , 11 users are following.

This is just going to be me complaining about my "boo-hoo" life. I had been over life and was going through with it, my friend found and stopped me though. It was after a breakup and years of loss: friends committing suicide; some murdered from inter-gang violence; and relatives dying of cancer, dimensia, and diabetes. I had been in poverty most of my life (though not homeless) I had slept on the floors of different houses from the age of ten. I would wake up in the middle of the night with full on panic attacks. I'm not totally better, but I'm coping with it in my own way now. I started smoking and drinking to numb myself from the pain. I don't want advice or pity just someone to talk to. I know this was full of me bitchng and moaning but I don't really know what else to do at the moment. I went to my doctor and found out I have a thyroid problem, and that it effects my mood. I stopped taking my meds because they didn't seem to be working.

3 likes, 16 replies

Report / Delete

16 Replies

  • Posted

    Hi Lance,

    my heart aches for the pain you are in.  My friend told me recently that she had a thyroid problem and had it treated. She said prior to getting medication she was suicidal and now in spite of a not so easy life she is at her happiest.

    I really urge you and pray that you figure out exactly what medicine will work for you. I think this could really really help.

    Prayers for you

    Report / Delete Reply
  • Posted

    Hello,

    Well you have had a tough time that's for sure. not sure how to answer this as you say you don't want advice  but I would go back to the doctor and talk to him about your meds, you deserve a break in life and I can't think of what else to suggest.  Please talk about anything you would like to. xx

    Val

    Report / Delete Reply
    • Posted

      I can't comment on this situation exactly but know how you felt a couple of weeks back, I had enough of life and wanted to jump. It took lots of conversations , friends, hugs and 2/3 doctors visits to talk me out of it. I still occasionally would like to be out of this world but with support, the right sort of support I now realise there is more than one way. Look after yourself, find the one person who cares then tell them! You never know they may listen. Without comment.

      Report / Delete Reply
  • Posted

    Hi.  I think it is very good to reach out for someone to talk to.  This is a good place to do that and it’s good just to have someone to listen to you.  I also think going back to the doctor to discuss the medication issue would be best.  Sometimes lots of positive self talk will help me through a rough day
    Report / Delete Reply
  • Posted

    Panic and depression are my two least favorite things in life. I feel like so many people are suffering. For me, medication helps manage the physical symptoms of anxiety such as racing heart and dizziness sometimes. I just recently went off meds for a few months and I never did feel back to normal so now I’m trying something else. You’ve had an unbelievably hard time in life and it’s not fair. That’s kind of what I keep thinking about is how things just aren’t fair for a lot of people. I don’t understand it and I wish I could. I turn to my faith and spirituality, but I know some people have trouble with that too. I don’t think we’re alone in this struggle. 
    Report / Delete Reply
  • Posted

    You've had a tough live Lance, you have every right to feel the way you do.

    If you are taking medication for genuine depression, you should not stop taking it. That will make you feel worse. Medication isn't the total answer to feeling better, but it is part of the answer. Sounds like you could also use Therapy to talk about your difficult life. 

    We all need someone we can talk to. It's not bitching and moaning, it's sharing things that are bothering us. No man is an island, we all need people in our life we can talk to.

    Report / Delete Reply
  • Posted

    Hi Lance. I'm all ears smile

    Report / Delete Reply
  • Posted

    Hi Lance - sorry to read that you have suffered like this. Depression and anxiety are very common and are set to become the major disease affecting humans because of the pressures of life and the totally unrealistic and shallow expectation that we must all be "perfect" - a ridiculous unreality that is fed by social media.

    It is important that you keep up the medications - they have been prescribed because they will help. Adjustment to meds can take 3-6 weeks. There may be issues on the way to balance, but these can be addressed by dosage manipulation or the introduction of a new medicine to better help you. It is a process, but it's well worth the try.

    Another aspect of dealing with life issues that can be not only helpful but can arm you with skills to deal with triggers re:panic, distress, depression etc., is talk therapy. This can be done with a psychologist or counsellor in a safe place where you can unload and leave it there. It's an ongoing process, so don't expect instant results. You will learn how to recognise triggers and learn coping skills and techniques to deal with them when they arise. Your doctor will be able to provide you with a referral. Give yourself time to get accustomed to the psychologist/therapist/counsellor and build the trust.This is about your future so it's it's worth the time.

    Addiction is a brick in the path of depression and mental illness. We self medicate to escape because initially it works - until we develop addictions and suddenly we have a multidimensional pathology.

    You aren't complaining. What you have described about your life and childhood is a sharp lesson for many who cannot fathom a life like that. No wonder there are issues. Neither are you weak. Weak is the man who will not face his demons and at least attempt to master them rather than lashing out at the world and indulging in negative behaviours. You have done the right thing reaching out. Keep up the doctor/patient relationship. We are always here to talk. 

    Report / Delete Reply
  • Posted

    You've had a lot going on in your life your not alone just make sure you seek help and take all the help they give you xx

    Report / Delete Reply
  • Posted

    Thanks to all of you I didn't really know what to expect (response wise), but I don't think I deserve any of this help. My household growing up was violent, before my parents divorced my mom was beaten by my dad when I was a baby so I really didn't get too deep with anyone. To me showing emotions or weakness is just going to get you hurt. I realize that how I deal with my problems is unhealthy physically and mentally, but that's kind of the point. I am trying to do something to better others though, if I leave people with anything. I am going into the military, to try and be infantry. That was at if I die it won't be for nothing.

    Report / Delete Reply
  • Posted

    Hi Lance, I first want to ask you what medication was given to you and didn't work? Plus what thyroid disfuntion have you got? There is an overactive or undertactive thyroid.

    All that I can tell you for now is that you have to resume taking you med for this condition. Before we can talk about anything else do tell me what's the name of the medication? The above thyroid conditions are autoimmune diseases. I was once a sufferer of overactive thyroid. The initial medication didn't work for me but I didn't stop taking it. I had a word with my hospital consultant. I was put on another med and that worked.

    It's been over 20yrs that I have been in remission but I must have a regular yearly blood test to prevent a relapse.

    Once you reply we can take it from there.

    Take care.

    Report / Delete Reply
    • Posted

      How are u feeling now you are not a coward you just need some help same as I did you've went thru a he'll.of a lot in your life .if u don't get help with doctors ask too be referred to mental health I did xx

      Report / Delete Reply
    • Posted

      I see Lance, Levothyroxine might be the same as Thyroxine, but i am not sure. I have friends who suffer from underactive thyroid and have been prescribed Thyroxine. I was also put on Thyroxine and Propylthyouracil together and this helped achieve the balance. I have been alright since. The two medications are for both underactive and overactive. This was a miracle.

      Don't forget that any form of auto-immune disease can impact mental health also.

      So if you take nothing at all including homeopathy remedies. You might not help yourself get better including your mental health. Have you looked into homeopathy at all?

      Find a way to get some type of treatment. Holistic maybe?

      We are here to chat to you. Trust that you're not on your own.

      Just hang in there, some days maybe better than others.

      Best,

      Dita

      Report / Delete Reply
    • Posted

      You need too go too your doctor and ask too be seen by mental health u might need too push it n tell them how bad your feeling and need too be seen soon let me no how u get on xx
      Report / Delete Reply

Join this discussion or start a new one?

New discussion Reply

Report or request deletion

Thanks for your help!

We want the forums to be a useful resource for our users but it is important to remember that the forums are not moderated or reviewed by doctors and so you should not rely on opinions or advice given by other users in respect of any healthcare matters. Always speak to your doctor before acting and in cases of emergency seek appropriate medical assistance immediately. Use of the forums is subject to our Terms of Use and Privacy Policy and steps will be taken to remove posts identified as being in breach of those terms.

newnav-down newnav-up