Sorry it's me again.
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Hello Archiemedes & co. i have suffered for years from severe anxiety due to being 69 years of age & still a virgin plus never had a girlfriend. But we've covered all this in other posts.......What I want to know is why doctors won't prescribe strong tranquillized to people of my age. I mean we haven't got enough time left to become addicted plus they might help us with our problems. Why make the drugs if there not going to use them.....hello milly.....ROY.
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plainden roy_59739
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Lizzie46881 roy_59739
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I haven't seen any of your previous posts so don't know the background. Could you fill me in? why do you think you need tranquilsers? which ones? Major tranquilsers like the anti-psychotics or the minor tranquisers like the benzodiazepines? Also, I think you'll find that it is possible to get addicted, by which I presume you mean toleranace and dependence, really quickly, especially with the benzo's
Hope you are Ok
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roy_59739 Lizzie46881
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Lizzie46881 roy_59739
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Your dr.is quite right about the dangers of addiction, it can happen really quickly with the withdrawal effects being horrendous when you come off them. Do you have an actual diagnosis of anxiety? what other meds have you tried over the years for anxiety? I don't suppose there is much your gp can do about a lack of a love life. I haven't had sex for years and count it as a blessing. I used to be sexually active but the meds I take for bipolar put paid to that and I find, the oppopsite to you, that it makes me feel freed from my base instincts and much happier.
Lizzie
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roy_59739 Lizzie46881
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millyimp_1322 roy_59739
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Welcome back into the fold ,it is nice to see you again ,I don`t have an answer as to why Dr`s won`t prescribe drugs. Maybe some one maybe able to come up with an answer for you ,I hope so ,
Take Care
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Milly
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millyimp_1322 roy_59739
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I am sorry you are no further foward in getting what you are wanting.
I am meaning the right person in your life.Yes Roy I do remember all you said and of how you have tried over the past years and it seemsed to be all to no avail.
I am sorry this is still the case,I do feel it for you .But there is something in what Alan 67001,says in his post ,he too is an older man ,as you are Roy. He is not just some young man/teenager trying to tell you what to do Roy. He is giving you what I see as sound advice,I know you have gone out,in the past. But why not try again Roy,get in touch with the two men who were in the same situation as you (those I told you about ) .
They have been where you are and have now got themselves married and happily so . You may just want a cuddle as you say Roy,and I am very aware you cannot just go up to someone and give them a cuddle.So may I suggest to you ,you try going to an afternon tea dance ,you will find there are so many more ladies there ,than there are men.These ladies will undoubtably be willing to dance with you ,(you may say you cannot dance ) ok,but you could find you meet a lovely lady who is also there just for company ,and strike up a friendship with each other.
I know Roy you have said how being in the company makes you feel ,but ,please give it another try.
At the moment I am not doing to bad ,but my H has been very poorly ,and still is not yet better ,so that is taking me down somewhat ,thank you for asking how I am Roy ,it is very kind of you .
Take Care
Milly
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alan_67001 roy_59739
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Where do you go to meet women? What age are you looking at? My suggestions is to find a place which has people who are close to your age and might be interested in you.
Just keep on trying, you will eventually find that special someone.
roy_59739 alan_67001
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alan_67001 roy_59739
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My other question is if you have any hobbies or interests which might help you meet others. I enjoy playing golf for example and if I see someone interesting I ask them if they would like to play a round with me. If it's a female and we have a good time I will ask her if she would like to go out, talk a bit more over a cup of coffee. Sometimes she says yes, sometimes no, but I tired. I also will try to start a conversation with someone in a supermarket or store and that sometimes leads to something.
My point is that you have to try things without being afraid for relying on medication. It's the best way to get over your fears.
roy_59739 alan_67001
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alan_67001 roy_59739
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You also ask why they make the medications if they won't use them? Being in mental health myself, medicines are only a way of dealing with your anxiety but should not be used in the long term or a crutch. I know you say that you don't believe in talk therapy, but a good therapist can help you.
Lastly, you seem to be more intersted in having sex rather than forming a relationship with a woman. I don't know how you approach women if you do, but sex shouldn't be the overall goal of meeting someone. You should want to form a relationship where you can share life with each other and want to do things together outside of the bedroom.