Spouse of TKR thoughts
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I read all of the discussions with interest not one person mentions their spouse, who if like me carries the concern in silence: I thank you all for this discussion group who have shared there experiences pain and suffering: Its good to know that you are all in the same boat, my hubby goes from positve to negative from happy to down right miserable; we own a guest house and are on a very short recovery period due to the nature of the job but I worry about him none stopI just thought as a career Id say thank you for sharing, when we are having a bad day I rush to this site
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mary0606 lesley21458
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also I've been doing this for over 20 years, and your closest families get sick of hearing it.
daphne31042 mary0606
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sky1996 mary0606
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martinarvelo lesley21458
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archemedes lesley21458
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The problem here is that because all people are different, we all adopt different mechanisms for coping with adversity.
This is particularly true of pain management and our inability to do certain things that previously were no problem to us at all.
We men have a tendency to become frustrated when we are faced with the reality that we have now got certain physical limitations placed upon us that previously were not there.
Women on the other hand do appear to be able to cope better with that side of things and just get on with life.
Where you husband is concerned I dare say he originally thought that he would recover from his TKR surgery quickly, and that it would not affect his day to day life too much, and when the reality set-in everything he expected went straight out of the window.
Among his thoughts no doubt was the question of whether he would fully regain his strength and ability before your guest house reopened for the season.
The simple truth is that he may well find himself handicapped for a while, during which time the healing process should continue, but by trying to forcing his body to work before it is ready to do so, could well increase the recovery time and also cause him signifigant anxiety in the meanwhile.
From your perspective I can quite understand how you find the prospect of all this worrying, but if he thinks that you are also anxious, this may worsten his own attitude.
I think that if I were you I would sit him down and just reassure him that everything will be fine in the end, but not to push himself too much in the meanwhile.
Oldfatguy1 lesley21458
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We are individuals one and all. Good luck. Stay with this forum
They will become your friends and supporters
martinarvelo Oldfatguy1
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betty07083 Oldfatguy1
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How are you???? Laying in the hospital yet still giving people uplifting advice! You are quite a guy 😀
Good to hear from you,
Betty
Oldfatguy1 betty07083
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betty07083 Oldfatguy1
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Great you have your iPad to keep you connected to the outside world!
Good wishes are sent your way for a speedy recovery & getting back home soon!
Thoughts go out to your wife as well and hope she is doing OK in your absence.
Betty
Oldfatguy1 betty07083
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.yesterday was harder on her than me. Fortunately our oldest was caring for her all day here at the hospital but he said she was ready to call it a day 3 hours before she was actually able. Oldest daughter with her today
The rehab center has a nice outdoor area so will use is as they allow
betty07083 Oldfatguy1
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I've been through it enough ( and again soon) to know how worrisome it is when your spouse is going through surgery.
How nice you have adult children to help out and be of support. How many do you have? Do they all live close by?
You sound good Roland - hope they don't wear you out with all their questions, ha. ( the students)
Onward and upwards as they say a lot on this forum 😁
Betty
sky1996 Oldfatguy1
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Oldfatguy1 betty07083
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Sorry to hear you will have to be doing waiting room duty. Your spouse I assume
sky1996 Oldfatguy1
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suzidownunder Oldfatguy1
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Best wishes for a good recovery! X
martinarvelo Oldfatguy1
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