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Hi there .I have been married to a my husband for 33 years and love him dearly. He had his first bout with cancer when our youngest was about 3 months old .He had a testicle removed and did radiation as a safety measure.He had it reoccur 3 years later . This time it had metastasized to his spinal chord and it paralyzed him . We had a 3-a5 and a10 year old.He. Was I the hospital for 3 months receiving 4 rounds of chemo and learning how to work with his body limitations. During that time he developed a blood clot that went from his ankle to his groin.He has since had prostate cancer,a hernia that the Doc said was the largest he had ever repaired arthroscopicly. He also developed diabetes from the affects of chemo on his liver and pancreas.He then had a heart attack with a triple bypass.He is just p*ssed about everything and who could blame him. I have been with him through thick and thin. I work full time and it has been challenging trying to raise 3 girls on social security and my income,but I think we have done it well . My biggest issue is that he is understandably negative but it is difficult for me to deal with on a daily basis. I believe that because he is angry at all of his surgeries and feels powerless he gets frustrated and sort of has a low frustration thresh hold . Has anyone else out there dealt with this.I feel like I need support but working full time and having limited resources . Don't quite know the best way to start this conversation.So here I go. Anyone else out there dealt with anything similar and would you like to share wisdom or experiences ?
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Guest Msky
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Hi Msky, in the UK you might be able to get some support by reaching out to Macmillian, a cancer support organisation. This paragraph is from their site:
"If you're helping a loved one through cancer, Macmillan is here for you. You may feel like you're just doing your bit, but the help you provide is vital. We understand how this can sometimes affect you physically, emotionally and financially. You're likely to need support too and we're here to help."
Msky Guest
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Hi Dan thanks for your reply.It was the only reply. I don't know if I should put a different heading or catagory but I am kind of sad I did not get a little more response.Its been a challenging road. Again I love my husband and am just looking for better ways to support both of us . Thank you again for your response .
Guest Msky
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Hi Msky, maybe you could repost this discussion on the cancer forum:
https://patient.info/forums/discuss/browse/cancer-3358
I found that it helps if you can formulate precisely what you are looking for in the title of your post. For example: "Cancer support group needed" or similar.
Personally, I think you would benefit from going to a local support group. Just sharing your experience with others might help already. You might also get some practical advice on how to carve out some 'me' time in your daily routine.
Hope you find the support you need.