Spring is coming!

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After a seriously bad year in 2016, consisting of a nervous breakdown in January (I know the term isn't used now, but it is a better description than 'depressive episode' or 'possibly a personality disorder', or other such terms), I'm finally feeling a lot better and putting the year behind me.

Although we are in January, which is supposed to be a bad month, I am feeling more optimistic as the days get slightly longer and Spring is not far away.

The things which helped me the most were a close circle of friends who dragged me out for long walks, bike rides, card and board games, visiting friends with families and playing daft games with their kids (who don't have a care in the world and live for the moment), changing my lifestyle to a more healthy one (cutting out caffine and alchohol, which was a tough one, as most of my social life revolved around pubs and parties, I've had a work hard play hard attitude all my life).

This forum has been a great help when I was in complete despair, and it helped me pull through.

On a less positive note, I found the doctors very unhelpful, with comments such as 'you've got business problems, deal with them', or 'I'd swap with you' or 'you've been here 5 times and you need to move on'.

I was put on various different meds, none really worked that well. Eventually I was referred to a specialist and put on a combination which took the edge off a bit, I'm still taking them now but tapering off, with an aim to be off them by Spring or early Summer.

I'm still running my business, which was very difficult last year, and I've re-modelled it to run at a slower less stressful pace, and promised myself more holidays and breaks. 

My main reason for posting is to say that things do get better given time (even though I didn't believe it when people told me).

Best wishes to all, Rodders

p.s. does anyone know why the term 'nervous breakdown' has been abolished?, I for one think it should be recognised again, rather than generic depressive conditions which seem like a stab in the dark by a doc who has only spent a few minutes or a half hour appointment with a patient.

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    What a great post xxx lovely to know yr thru the worst. Im new to the forum its helped immensly just knowing im not alone. What wonderful friends they were kping u going. Yes the health professionals are the ones u find hardest to hear u as in understand u. For the first tym since 2000 ive found a gp who is an absolute credit to her profession i honestly think the outlook might have been different if fate had taken me to yet another so called dr with the bedside manner of a goldfish. All text book no heart. !!! Ive had 2 major nervous breakdowns ( thats wat they shud still be called) this tym major dep & anx but im seeing the way out. Your post really touched me. I wish you well. A fellow friend ;0) xxx

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      Thanks Amanda, I agree it is really hard to find a decent gp, given that mental health is one of the main reasons people go to them. The system needs to change, if someone has a heart condition or a broken leg they would be dealt with properly, but mental health is almost scoffed at by them.

      I have no faith in the nhs now, and I'm determined to fully recover and not go back (unless I break a leg etc!)

      I'm glad you've found a good gp, and hope you recover soon, best wishes xx

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