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Still coming to terms with this?

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april66960
april66960

I'm still trying to come with the terms of getting this virus I was in a long term relationship and when that ended I slept with a guy who I was speaking to for a while and didn't tell me that he had any sti's or anything and he gave this to me it's devastating 😩 How do you start dating after this?? It's been over a year for me and I don't want to have that conversation with a guy where I need to tell them about it 😩 I see this guy out and he asks me what's wrong like he doesn't know what he has done? It's makes me so angry if anyone has any tips would be so helpful right now

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  • bri0437
    bri0437 april66960

    Posted

    I only had it since April of this year and I was feeling the same way. If you explain it to your partner what's going on, how you're on top of your health his chances are 1% of catching the virus. I just recently decided to take meds for the rest of my life because I had too many break outs due to stress. The meds definitely suppress the outbreaks. Also you can take vitamin c, lysine 1000, multivitamin so you won't have outbreaks. With sex you still have it as normal but oral you have to use a dental dam. Honestly things will be ok, talk to your doctor. That's how I was able to feel like my life not over

    • april66960
      april66960 bri0437

      Posted

      I haven't even been to the doctor because I'm too scared to go I live in the uk so I'm not sure what they prescribe or anything but I'm going to go to Holland and Barrett and get some lysine to see if that does anything I've only had 2 outbreaks in over a year so it's not too bad I just feel so angry with the guy how can you do this to someone??? And I keep turning down dates with guys and things because of this and dredding that conversation 😔 Have you started dating with this?

    • bri0437
      bri0437 april66960

      Posted

      Since I've been on here everyone been taking the pills which has been preventing the OBs and shedding. Yes I have been dating & I just recently had sex. To say I wasn't nervous would be a lie because I was. We used protection so I was on top of it. Lots of people I've talked to have had protected and unprotected but they been on top of their herpes. Here's a website that I read on herpes that gave me a better look on it. Have you talked to your doctor about your future plans of sex and having children. I've learned a lot from mine that I can have sex still and all the other worries we have. With oral you use a dental dam. http://www.herpes.org.nz/patient-info/herpes-relationships/

  • TS073016
    TS073016 april66960

    Posted

    I'm in the same boat, it's been a month since I've been diagnosed and I'm in a relationship. When I found out i was a emotional whreck bc I felt so nasty and was disgusted with myself. The first thing I did was telling my bf and my past sex partners and of course nobody has it but ik someone lying bc ik I didn't give this to myself.

    Now it's a month my first OB was bad but not super bad, only pained I had was when I pee pee and it lasted only for 5 days.

    I haven't had sex since than and don't plan on it no time soon I'm dealing with but I'm not comfortable with myself. I don't stress about. I have read so much about and I have came to terms I can live a normal life it's just going to take awhile before I get comfortable in my own skin again.

    I don't take the medicine bc I lost my appetite, and was sick to my stomach. I have a small frame and I refuse to lose weight.

    I take the following

    Vitamin c

    Lysine 1000

    St john worts

    And I'm going to a herbal tee call echinacea

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