Strange Habits

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Hi Everyone,

Me and my gf are wondering about something which we have come across and witnessed for some time. It's to do with my gf's dad.

Basically, he has some REALLY weird habits and we are wondering what is up with him as it seems quite important!

This is what he does (and literally none of this is exaggerated). It's took us ages to analyse what he does too.

WATER:

He avoids water at all costs. For example, brushing teeth, he does it waterless, just puts paste onto the brush and to his teeth without water! He very rarely has a shower or bath. He dry shaves but with foam.

Every time water gets anywhere, like the kitchen sink, he makes a big fuss to dry it off. If the windows get steamy, he walks around drying them. If we use the kettle, he turns it off before it starts to boil because of the steam. If we walk into the house, we come through the back where there is Lino but we have to take shoes off and put them onto their sides. If he uses the washing machine, he always leaves the door open after he has finished.

If he used his car, he dries it off before putting it in the garage!

Dishes, he uses minimal water, sometimes a damp cloth to wash all of them which leaves streaks and like a sticky film over them.

However, washing clothes in the washing machine is ok and handwashing clothes is ok too.

Apparently, "If you leave things wet, they go mouldy".

LEAVING THINGS AJAR:

He has a habit of leaving things open, for example, cupboard doors, wardrobe doors. He never closes them, he leaves them ajar because "They have to air". This goes for the kettle, coffee and tea tins, sugar, bins, etc. He leaves them ajar. Room doors, he doesnt close them or leave them fully open, he leaves a gap.

Windows are different, he does whatever with them.

TIMES:

Things have to be done really early otherwise "Its too late". You cant wash clothes or drive after a certain time. A 10 min job, he seems to think it takes an hour or more. For example, if we are going out and I'm on my laptop, he says "come on, were going at 6, turn that off now." But it may be 4:30 pm and takes me seconds to close the lid and hes seen me do it several times.

MISC:

Weight on the carpet, he gets funny about having weight on the carpet. like if you play a game on the floor, etc. He thinks it will damage the carpet or wear it out.

Has anyone seen any of this weird stuff?

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  • Posted

    Sounds like maybe OCD of some sort. 
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    hello antony, Have read your concerns and i have seen similar behaviour and it ended up he was suffering from obessesive compulsive disorder or OCD which means he is carrying a lot of anxiety and by doing what he does it helps to relieve

    the anxiety, maybe i am way off track, but he needs to see his GP with one of you

    he may not accept what he is doing is not righti, or one of you talk to your GP and tell him or her what you have said on here, good luck to  both of you, I hope your father gets the help he badly needs

    cheers  Callum

    ps keep in touch antony

     

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      Hi Callum,

      Thanks, he's in denial. He says it's us who are wrong! Apparently, if you don't do things his way, stuff goes mouldy. We have said that he doesn't need to wipe the bath down etc, they are designed to be wet. He says theyre not!

      You cant win!

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    ONLY SOLUTION IS TO HAVE HIM SEEN BY HIS GP THEN A PSYCHIATRIST

    YOU CANNOT BATTLE WITH HIM YOU WILL END UP EXHAUSTED, HE NEEDS PROFESSIONAL HELP. GOOD LUCK

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    I would say this is OCD; engaging in rituals to prevent discomfort and harm. I have a good book I use for my anxiety but I also use it for intrusive thoughts which is what causes OCD. Its Anxiety and Depression by Adrian Wells. I got it off Amazon awhile back. Just reading it makes me feel better but he could probably benefit from 1) seeing he has an issue 2) using the treatment plans. If this is abit much (it probably might be abit much to tackle alone) therapy is the best way/ He needs to break the thought-feeling-behaviour cycle. Hope this helps 
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