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thisisme1234
thisisme1234

Here is my story,

I am a very sensitive girl by nature from the very start I feel things deeply, can say I am more like touchy etc and because of this I have become much short tempered as well

I often get anngry on little stuff and says stuff which I don't even want to do or mean. Can't help this thing.

Almost 1.5 years back I found this guy and

thought he would be the man of my dreams. At the very start I tried not get indulged in him but with passing time I got that I have fell in love with him from my head to toe, as I told earlier I am very sensitive girl by heart and hates to break the relationship.. I am the type who would rather hurt itself to keep the other person happy and that is what I did always.. though I get angry on little stuff alot but deep down my heart I always care about the people whom I love.

Now the problem start where my aggressive nature comes in, we have faced many ups and downs in this relationship, even in this march we had a breakup for about 21 days bit eventually got back together.

But in These days I am really depressed because of his behaviour to me.. as he doesn't even talk to me much.. he is in deep deep depression about his career from past two.months and now this depression has taken all over him, and the last time when I talked to him about us then he said he can't think of anything, he hates everything and also wants to be alone for sometime.. all that really hurt me in a way.. I have never seen him this rude to me ever before.. I want to talk to him, though I know I can't help him but atleast I can encourage him but he just abandoned me. It feels so bad

It hurts so much.. even when I try to tell him that it hurts he ignores me... he never replies to such text or any kinda romantic texts..

He just talks when I ask how are you, and the reply to such statment is fine.. 'end of the convo'

Idk what to say to him or do to make him feel better.. I miss the old person whom I lived.. he is a really very kind person in nature.. depression has made him someone else.. I want help to get him back to me please. It's killing me from inside... should I give him space? Or should I talk to him daily like nothing happened. I am confused, I don't wanna losse him... I love him so much

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  • paul67642
    paul67642 thisisme1234

    Posted

    tell him to go the doctors and talk to them
    • thisisme1234
      thisisme1234 paul67642

      Posted

      I tried that to but he doesn't seem like taking help from anyone.

      I know career is something most important thing to guys but why does they take everything on their nerves.

  • thisisme1234
    thisisme1234

    Posted

    I tried that to but he doesn't seem like taking help from anyone.

    I know career is something most important thing to guys but why does they take everything on their nerves.

  • hypercat
    hypercat thisisme1234

    Posted

    Well if he refuses to seek help there is not a great deal you can do unfortunately.  All you can do is encourage him and that's about it.   x
    • thisisme1234
      thisisme1234 hypercat

      Posted

      I feel like if I should give him space, maybe that would work as I don't want to suffocate the relationship or irritate him by asking again and again the same thing or giving suggestions.

      I guess he is not liking it.

      Should I give him space?

    • hypercat
      hypercat thisisme1234

      Posted

      Often people (especially men) are very reluctant to seek help as they see depression as a 'weakness' or a fault in themselves.  Depressives also find it very hard to make decisions and hope it will just go away.  Sometimes it does but then again often it won't without treatment. 

      I would give him space but keep in touch.   Have you told him you can't see a future for you both unless he seeks help?   It is not just about him after all is it?   Don't keep asking questions or making suggestions as he is not in the mindset of hearing or caring about anything much.  Just let him know you are there for him.   x

    • thisisme1234
      thisisme1234 hypercat

      Posted

      This is exactly what I am doing. I don't ask questions rather just leave a text message showing him that I care about him more than he expects it from anyone else, and some times he replies and sometimes he just ignore.

      His replies are very short and to the point that I can't change them in to a conversation.

      I seriously wish that he would get outta this depression on his own cuz he doesn't seem like taking help from anyone, but in the end whatever it is.. it is killing me on the inside. I hope things get better soon..

      And thankyou so much for listening to me and for your suggestions. May GOD bless you xXxX

    • hypercat
      hypercat thisisme1234

      Posted

      You are very welcome thisisme smile   It's not so much 'would' as 'could'.  Some people can get out of their depresssion themselves and others can't unless they seek treatment.  A lot depends on how bad it is and personality factors.  It's not a free choice and depresson is a serious illness. 

      It's a lot like saying a broken leg will heal by itself - well of course it would eventually but it  would end up crooked and not healing properly wouldn't it?  

      You are doing the right things,  but I honestly can't see much future for your relationship unless things change though I hope I am wrong.  Take care  Bev x

  • liana01735
    liana01735 thisisme1234

    Posted

    Hi, I'm in a similiar position to your boyfriend in that I have lost my confidence and I kept losing jobs as a result which made me depressed. My therepist told me about the Richmond Fellowship, I know someone else who tried them after becoming depressed in his job. They're a charity that helps people with conditions such as depression and anxiety get in/back to work and they also help with career advice. It may be worth him looking them up.
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