Super embarrassed by penis, hoping for help
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I'm new to the site and wasn't sure where this should be posted so I apologize if this is the wrong place. Here's the deal, my penis when flaccid is honestly tiny, I'm talking finger tip size. I have been with my share of women but have always had to get an erection before allowing my penis to be seen, touched or anything else. I've measured once fully erect and was a bit over 7 inches. I measured from the top with the tape measure end at the bone. I've always been complimented on my penis size when erect BUT I know that if these same women had seen my penis flaccid, I would have never gotten very far and probably been laughed at in private. I recently purchased a pump and have only used twice, hoping to increase flaccid size. When in the pump, I almost fill the complete length of the 8.5" tube. I'm so confused by my flaccid length and figure it is time to discuss and hopefully find out that others have the same situation. This has been a lifelong issue and I'm in my mid forties now. I really need to discuss this. Thanks in advance.
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jerry61960 Maybl8r
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Pepasan Maybl8r
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I envy you your erect size. Nothing lacking there. Personally, I think you don't need to anguish about your appearance when unaroused. I believe most women are not impressed by the look of penises, whatever their size, especially if it feels good. They go for bums, shoulders, face and above all character. If you expect rejection you invite it. My guess is that if you ignore your fears, you will find that your sex life will be the better for it. I certainly hope you don't go for any permanent attempts at enlargement. You could make things far worse and regret e.g. any surgical procedures. A lot of men are also self-conscious in the ompany of other men when naked. Here, equally, it's much more likely in the mind of the individual than of any importance to the onlooker. As long at it works, leave well alone. If it ain't broke it don't need fixing!
ml66uk Maybl8r
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Lots of men are "growers" not "showers", but it sounds like you go from very small to very large. It's the size when erect that's important though, and it's usually fairly easy to make sure it's hard before a woman sees it for the first time. If she's happy with it hard, then it's unlikely she'll care how big it is when it's soft.
I'd throw the pump away if I were you. If you google "penis enlargement NHS", there's a good article which talks about various techniques. None of them work, and some of them (including penis pumps) can be dangerous:
Vacuum devices
Penis pumps involve placing a tube over the penis and then pumping out the air to create a vacuum. The vacuum draws blood into the penis and makes it swell. Vacuum devices are sometimes used in the short-term treatment of impotence. But overusing a penis pump can damage the tissue of the penis, leading to weaker erections.
"There is very little evidence that these devices cause any significant long-term gain in size," says Professor Wylie. "Using a pump for a few minutes a day won't do anything to increase penis size."
While you can't do much to safely enlarge your penis, men can do several things to make them feel more confident about their body.
trim your pubic hair – a big mound of pubic hair can make your penis look smaller than it is
lose weight – a beer belly hanging over your penis can make your penis look smaller
get fit – getting into shape will not only make you feel more attractive, it could improve your sex life
raydogg59 ml66uk
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Maybl8r ml66uk
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Thank you guys for your support and advice. I realize that erect size is what REALLY matters but my confidence is affected so much by this. I'm constantly worried, "what if I lose my erection?" "she can't see it soft", etc. It really wears on you. Do any of you have this problem to the extent that I do? I read guys talking about 2 inches flaccid being small. I would love to consistently have 2 inches when flaccid. There have been times that I have had to essentially work the head of my flaccid penis out in order to take a piss. It is just such an extreme difference. I feel like I should be in Ripley's, Believe it or not.
ml66uk Maybl8r
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I've only just seen your reply, but it's probably not as big of a deal as you think. Remember that while most men are worried about our penises, most women are self-conscious about their breasts, labia, and clitorises, even though we're generally more than happy with them.
Some questions though:
has a doctor ever seen it, and it so, what did they say?
are you overweight?
did you have a very tight circumcision?
john75639 Maybl8r
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You shouldn't be to concerned if your penis is small when you are soft. It happens to most men.
Now if you were small like me , my penis is 4 inches or 10 cm when erect or 2 inches or 5cm when I am flaccid or soft.
Being a 47xxy male, most have very small testicles and they may have small sex organs like me, but it varies among us. So when you are a normal 46xy male, your penis size depends on how big it gets, not on how small it gets when you ate soft.
In my experience. I have seen men who look like they have only 3 iniches of soft penis, but grew to 9 inches when erect.
So don't worry about how small you get, just remember you are above average when erect. Most men are between 5 and 6 inches when erect.
If you are worried, you may be experiencing anxiety and there are medications that can help with that problem. See a doctor.
I am not a doctor. Good luck in your quest for help
Xcrave Maybl8r
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Dont worry if it grows that much then they will blush more
ken619 Maybl8r
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I'm not happy with the size of my penis either, but if it grew to your size when erect I'd feel a lot better. No matter what our size, many men probably feel the same.
I know it's difficult, but consider that some of the most intimate moments are after sex when your penis goes soft. Don't deny yourself that. Don't deny your partners that. It's not all "slam bam, thank you mam" in bed. If your partner doesn't feel the same, then you may have a shallow partner... it may be time to move on.
Re the pump, et al. There are some supplements or techniques that will have a temporary effect, but I think the consensus is that they are not permanent. I guess you could take Viagara or Cialis so you pop to attention with little effort, but a life driven by chemicals is not perfect either.
It works... in the end, that is the important thing. Stressing over this may cause you to lose that, so for goodness sake, try to stop stressing! Don't think we are dismissing your concern... we understand. But there are many things to be concerned with in life, and in the final analysis, this may rank lower than you think.