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Ok I am 33 years old. I had my first and only baby when I was 29(4 years ago). I pushed for 3 hours and ended up needing an episiotomy, I have no idea how many stiches or degree. At my 6 week appt doc said I healed well but also found a quarter sized granuloma on my inner right wall of vagina and she removed it. I also have a mild Bladder Prolapse after baby. My husband and I didn't have sex until 11 months post baby but to my surprise it was great. Actually some of the best sex we've ever had and I wanted it all the time! In the year and a half following things were still fine but I also experienced my first bartholins cyst and first yeast infection and first Bladder infection! A little over a year after we had first started having sex since baby I all of a sudden started to tear pretty much every time we had sex in the same spot. 6 o'clock area. We tried different lubricants but I was still tearing. The severity of the tear varies but most of the time its pretty small and takes about 3 days to heal. Sometimes I don't tear, probably about 15% of the time. I've been to 5 gynecologist in the last 2 years. No one seems to have an answer. The second last one literally walked in the room, looked at me for 10 seconds and said "it's lichen sclerosus" and left the room! Got her nurse to come back in and tell me how to put clobetasol steroid cream on. I was not happy with this appointment whatsoever so I went to my gp to ask for a referral to someone else; even she was surprised by the mention of LS. Anyway I just went to the last gyn for the second opinion last week and her and her intern person asked questions and had a look. As she's looking she says "yeah it kind of looks white in a couple spots", "some of your labia minora looks absorbed and starting to around your clitoris" and says it's probably LS and if I wanted a biopsy she'd do it. So I said yes for biopsy as I'm still not feeling reassured. That hurt! And recovery hasn't been all that fun... Day 5 post biopsy today. Have to wait 6 weeks to go back to see her. I've never had large labia minora and haven't noticed any changes in that respect when I do my self checks from time to time, hubby also says he hasn't noticed.. In the last couple years I've learned about clitoral adhesions and had a few to deal with but once I was aware I'm always staying on top of it and my whole clitoris is still very visible once I pull the hood back. I have never had any itching, burning, raw irritation that I keep reading about. I'm just really confused and I have a history of depression the last 15 years on and off medication and this "diagnosis" has really kicked me in the gut 😦 I was in the best place Ive been in years and had just come off my antidepressants this summer and then bam... As soon I left the appointment last week I've been crying and feeling like garbage that I now have this life long, incurable thing to deal with just as I was feeling so happy... All I want is to go to the followup and have her say it's not LS... When this all started, and throughout, my first assumption was that it was just something to do with my episiotomy site that would need to be fixed somehow but the news I now have is so much worse.... Does anyone out there have a story similar to mine?? Or has anyone had a doctor think you had LS but you didn't and it turned out be something easier to treat?? I'm just really hoping for a miracle here and to hear some stories that are alike mine.. I've spent hours and hours online reading up about LS and I have myself scared to death and so angry and sad that I have decades leftOk I am 33 years old. I had my first and only baby when I was 29(4 years ago). I pushed for 3 hours and ended up needing an episiotomy, I have no idea how many stiches or degree. At my 6 week appt doc said I healed well but also found a quarter sized granuloma on my inner right wall of vagina and she removed it. I also have a mild Bladder Prolapse after baby. My husband and I didn't have sex until 11 months post baby but to my surprise it was great. Actually some of the best sex we've ever had and I wanted it all the time! In the year and a half following things were still fine but I also experienced my first bartholins cyst and first yeast infection and first Bladder infection! A little over a year after we had first started having sex since baby I all of a sudden started to tear pretty much every time we had sex in the same spot. 6 o'clock area. We tried different lubricants but I was still tearing. The severity of the tear varies but most of the time its pretty small and takes about 3 days to heal. Sometimes I don't tear, probably about 15% of the time. I've been to 5 gynecologist in the last 2 years. No one seems to have an answer. The second last one literally walked in the room, looked at me for 10 seconds and said "it's lichen sclerosus" and left the room! Got her nurse to come back in and tell me how to put clobetasol steroid cream on. I was not happy with this appointment whatsoever so I went to my gp to ask for a referral to someone else; even she was surprised by the mention of LS. Anyway I just went to the last gyn for the second opinion last week and her and her intern person asked questions and had a look. As she's looking she says "yeah it kind of looks white in a couple spots", "some of your labia minora looks absorbed and starting to around your clitoris" and says it's probably LS and if I wanted a biopsy she'd do it. So I said yes for biopsy as I'm still not feeling reassured. That hurt! And recovery hasn't been all that fun... Day 5 post biopsy today. Have to wait 6 weeks to go back to see her. I've never had large labia minora and haven't noticed any changes in that respect when I do my self checks from time to time, hubby also says he hasn't noticed.. In the last couple years I've learned about clitoral adhesions and had a few to deal with but once I was aware I'm always staying on top of it and my whole clitoris is still very visible once I pull the hood back. I have never had any itching, burning, raw irritation that I keep reading about. I'm just really confused and I have a history of depression the last 15 years on and off medication and this "diagnosis" has really kicked me in the gut 😦 I was in the best place Ive been in years and had just come off my antidepressants this summer and then bam... As soon I left the appointment last week I've been crying and feeling like garbage that I now have this life long, incurable thing to deal with just as I was feeling so happy... All I want is to go to the followup and have her say it's not LS... When this all started, and throughout, my first assumption was that it was just something to do with my episiotomy site that would need to be fixed somehow but the news I now have is so much worse.... Does anyone out there have a story similar to mine?? Or has anyone had a doctor think you had LS but you didn't and it turned out be something easier to treat?? I'm just really hoping for a miracle here and to hear some stories that are alike mine.. I've spent hours and hours online reading up about LS and I have myself scared to death and so angry and sad that I have decades left to be dealing with it.... I know all about the treatments and stuff but it really doesn't make me feel any better.... to be dealing with it.... I know all about the treatments and stuff but it really doesn't make me feel any better....
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Suki_girl no36782
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If it isn't LS it could just be that you have fragile skin in that area. Many women split in that place post sex. I did if the sex was a bit vigorous. Some women even split there when they do a number 2. The trick is to let it heal fully and properly before having sex again, otherwise the skin will keep tearing in the same place and the skin there will become weaker and weaker and more prone to tearing ..... you see? It is a vicious circle. The way i got rid of my recurrent tear was to stop all sex and just massage the skin there with coconut oil - pure, raw, cold pressed, organic coconut oil - but you could use other oils. Yes oil based lubricant is good. The oil nourishes the skin. Then i would use vaginal dilators (lots of oil based lube) gradually working up the sizes, still massaging with oil too. The idea is to allow the skin to heal and also maintain its elasticity. Then you can start putting your husband in, but take it gently and gradually at first. Build things up very slowly. Another thing i was offered by my GP was estrogen cream (ovestin) because that improves the condition and elasticity of the skin. I use that now because i have vaginal dryness and reduced elasticity due to menopause and sex started to become painful. I wish I'd used it earlier - amazing stuff! It gave me back a younger, more robust, more elastic and wet vagina!