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ariel63002
ariel63002

I was diagnosed 2 years ago after I had sex with someone I should not of had sex with unprotected (just one of the many reasons I beat myself up so bad). I went to get checked out cause I had a painful bump. My obgyn confirmed then started me on the medicine. I chose to take the medicine every day because it just made me feel better mentally. Since then I've only had one other breakout that was in the very beginning. I've only told 3 of my closest friends and 1 of them has it too. Today as of July 28, 2016 I told my first guy friend and his reaction shocked the heck out of me. He completely understood, he asked a few questions, and said he wasn't going anywhere. I cried my lil heart out because I truly believed no one would understand or want me. I ran every possible scenario through my mind except the one I got from him. There is hope that you will find someone who accepts you, there is hope that you can find the strength to tell someone. I was the girl that vowed never to tell a guy and was preparing myself to be alone the rest of my life, mind you I'm only 25. I don't want to be alone my whole life or harbor those ill feelings inside because they are toxic. I get upset most days but you have to pull yourself out of that and realize this isn't the worse it can get, its a skin condition and it's very very common. I hope this helps someone struggling with acceptance and doubt of finding love.

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  • lori21519
    lori21519 ariel63002

    Posted

    Thank you for your post!

    I went through a similar situation. It's been 1 yr & 8 months since I contracted HSV2G. I had unprotected sex with someone I shouldn't have. I had a bad break out withon a month... then I was diagnosed. At the time i had recently started a relationship but only over the phone as he was long distance. Anyways I was very lucky that he was understanding and supportive. We are still together but we don't live on the same continent.

    I suffer from high functioning depression. Since the HSV it's worse. I transfer the HSV to my thumb and if I don't take meds every day I get an outbreak on my thumb. Only recently after a year and a half I finally had an outbreak on my vagina. I think it is because I've been stressed and depressed. I don't like myself. I've become so depressed and feel like people wouldn't accept me if they only knew.

    My love accepts me but he's not with me ... so I'm here on my own and feel so alone. I don't feel like myself and wonder if I ever will. On the bright side I am aware of what u need to do to get out of this funk I'm in. This is not me at all...

    I also want to tell someone to test the reaction ... not sure why I want to do that.. I'm afraid of he negative reaction I might get.

    Sorry I rambled on ... your story made me think

    I'm almost 44 ... I can't let HSV run my life more than it has and I know someday (hope it's soon) I'll gain the strength to take my life back

    • ariel63002
      ariel63002 lori21519

      Posted

      Please don't let this stress you out to point it makes your condition worse. I don't know how spiritual you are but going to church made me feel better about life period. It lifted my spirits and just made me realize its not the end of the world. Yes you have to alter the way you do things now but soon those new ways will become the norm. This forum also helped lift my spitits because it's so much more common then I thought. You aren't dirty or less of a woman because of a mistake A LOT of us make and thats having unprotected sex with people we shouldn't. I spent a whole year dwelling on my status and crying and it did nothing, aint change one thing. Realize that it is out of your control, stressing over something that won't change is like beating a dead horse, whats the point. I understand its easier said then done but please don't make matters worse by stressing yourself out over something you can not change. There is someone for everyone weather its the guy you talk to now or someone else. You are loved my sister, never forget that

    • lori21519
      lori21519 ariel63002

      Posted

      Thank you! I appreciate your response. .. the stress recently has caused my second outbreak and it's hangng around... not any pain but irritated more so... I need to stop stressing and get on with things. Like you said .. might have to do things differently. I need to work on my self worth over anything and find myself .. I think that's important. This forum has helped a lot.

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      Thank you

  • j76713
    j76713 ariel63002

    Posted

    THANK YOU ! I was recently diagnosed a month ago. Not sure how long I've had it but I do! Never had any symptoms and I still have not had any. I found out the day after my ex and I got back together and by the grace of God he was accepting of it and still wa Ted to continue to be with me and work things out.

    It's been such a emotional roller coaster the 1st two weeks. After reading so many story's on this site, including yours, it has made me become so much comfortable with what has become.

    Thank you for sharing your story and thank you for giving us all hope for the future. You hang in there sweetheart ...

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