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There is hope, be positive!

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gijane
gijane

To everyone,

      I myself have type 2 herpes.  It's been 17 years for me. I've read so many of these chats on here and I'm so saddened.  Everything seems to be so negative. If possible maybe people should reply to my post and ad to the positives that have come from all of this.

      The first outbreak and the initial diagnosis is heartbreaking,but only because of our ignorance. 1 in 6 people have herpes.  Think about that when you walk in the mall or airport. It's funny how people with type1 think it's just a fever blister.  There is no depression or heartache with that thought. Then you have 80% of people with it who don't even know they have it.  

      You know why there is no cure?  Because uncle Sam is making a killing off this disease.  It's not life threatening it's a burden.

Why cure herpes if the government can make millions.

      It's just food for thought ..I think it's time we have more positivity on these sites.  Herpes is not a death sentence it's just annoying.                                                

      The good news is you start to make better choices.  Once you know what it is and how it effects you it can be positivily life changing. You value your health and there is no promiscuity.  At least you'll think twice before sleeping with just anyone. 

      17 years and this has made me a better person.  Not only for myself but  Im accepting of other people's flaws in a way I never would have been. I was forced to see people for who they are and not the diseases they carry.  Educate yourselves, and love yourself.  If the government doesn't want a cure soon enough those numbers will reach almost everyone.  It's not an uncommon std

I hope that this reaches those that are suffering thinking it's the end of the world.  It's not it just requires us to do things differently.  Try to be at peace. Breathe easy, herpes is just herpes. Don't let it run your life......

Live your life!

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  • nelly123
    nelly123 gijane

    Posted

    So very true, I've had this 3 years now and yea it's made me a better person in a way. Yes it's a burden but ya learn to deal with it, and yes it's not a death sentence. 

    I don't even think it's the herpes that worries me or even half the ppl on this site it's the STIGMA surrounding it, but people that care about you will see u as you and not define you for what we have

  • Guest
    Guest gijane

    Posted

    Well said, I know that before I got diagnosed and really knew anything about it I got grossed out when a guy told me he had herpes. I refuesed to go on a date with him. Now I almost wish I had his number so I could apologize for not understanding. 

    Now that I have gotten used to knowing its just a part of me and I understand that it doesnt define me as a person I do look at things and people differently in a good way. 

    Like Nelly123 said, its more the stigma that makes it hard. The way people react because of being uneducated. I have only told 2 people in my life that I have this because I dont want to deal with the reactions (and its not their business biggrin

  • Loulou34
    Loulou34 gijane

    Posted

    Great post Gijane!

    I concure. It gives you a new perspective about a lot of things. Having herpes is pain in butt but at the same time it pushes you to make better choice for your health, take a good look at your diet, start meditatation, and gives you a wake up call on your past unsafe sex practice and encourage you to change that.

    The only part I disagree is on the promiscuity (I'm ethically polyamorous and for a sex positive thinking).To me that sound like saying "Oh, you had a car accident? Don't worry, it's ok. Just stop driving so much in future". I'd rather say "drive safer". The problem lies more in the unsafe sex practice than in the number of sexual partner you have. Yes, the more you drive, the more you expose yourself to "having an accident" but that doesn't influence how much people are driving... Check the Transmission section in this link http://westoverheights.com/herpes_handbook/final_HH_for_2010_revision_1.pdf

    Another positive thing to think about is that you should be grateful to have only caught herpes, and not AIDS. I was so relieved when I got my negative results.

    And with all the research on the HIV virus, there is also a bit more hope that we might see a cure to herpes in our lifetime (If I'm not mistaken, that's how they came up with Aciclovir).

  • sunshine44960
    sunshine44960 gijane

    Posted

    Hi Gijane,

    Really positive and encouraging post smile

    I was diagnosed with type 1 herpes a bit over a month ago and after reading all the material I could lay my hands on, I quickly came over it and the posts on this forum greatly helped.

    As you so well pointed out, there are so many good points about having herpes, you live more healthy and seriously think about sleeping with someone.

    Hope more people read your post and realise having herpes doesn't define who they are or should affect their life smile

  • Sing4TheKing
    Sing4TheKing gijane

    Posted

    Thank you gijane. I believe in being positive. I've always been a positive person who encourages others. It is so nice to have someone coaxing me to think positive about this. I just got rejected from someone I fell head over heels for. I've been rejected before and blew it off, but this time cut me to the core and right now, I don't feel like I'll be getting over it anytime soon. Yes, it does discourage me horribly. I don't want to go thru this kind of hurt ever again. I've cried so hard my head hurts, my eyes are almost swollen shut, I have a knot in my gut and an ache in my heart like none other!! I don't want to be alone the rest of my life. I'm not getting any younger!! I'm not quite sure how I will learn to cope with this, and how I will become positive again, but seeing your encouraging words and others on here truly helps. Thank you and God bless you.
    • gijane
      gijane Sing4TheKing

      Posted

      Oh hun stay positive I'm in the exact same situation.  I Had been dating this guy for 5months not super long but considering it's been a few yrs since my last date it was something to me. In my first post on here I had mentioned after we had been intimate i told my guy the news and he disappeared. Like you I cried I was crushed and then he came back around 3wks later. Only problem is he pretended it never happened he never spoke of it and a wk after he had a scare finally got tested was negative and then everything was this std. I became this std. He couldn't get past it. Did a lot of hurtful things because he chose not to understand it and finally I just gave up. At least now I can see he wasn't the Strong man I needed by my side.  And you should feel the same.  A strong person who really wants to be with you will at least make the effort to understand. Your not alone but realize we don't need scary(Meaning scared childlike panicky) individuals in our life. We need people who know how to problem solve and communicate.  Be blessed it didn't work that person Wasn't for you. Hope this makes you feel better, just smile things will get better.
    • Sing4TheKing
      Sing4TheKing gijane

      Posted

      Thanks gijane! It does make me feel better! smile I keep trying to remind myself that he just wasn't meant to be, no matter how "perfect" for me he seemed. God has a greater plan and a better man for my life. I'm sure of that. I just gotta remember to thank Him and be patient and trust that one day, I will figure that all out. Again, thanks so much for your kind and encouraging words. It means so much! God bless!
  • gijane
    gijane

    Posted

    Thanks everyone for your comments I really hope it helped others.  I'm hopeful one day people won't be so freaked out About Herpes. A cure will one day come up. Until then I'm just going to stay smiling.  
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