things I wish I had known
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Hi
I have only recently come to this forum and have found so much reassurance and good advice. Thanks so much for sharing your experiences and advice. It is so good to know I am not alone.
I have been wondering if there is a check list of things we wish we'd known before our op - and if there isn't could we begin to compile one.
Practical things like:
buying large knickers 2 sizes bigger than usual
Ways of helping relieve constipation
questions to ask before surgery
Recovery advice.
If anyone would like to contribute I am sure it would be a benifit.
Jo
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LadyPink Gardener_Jo
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Having lost my husband following an incurable disease which lingered on for 7 years I was blessed by meeting up with a long lost friend of the family a short time later, and we started dating. We ended up marrying the following year. Suddenly after years of no sex and at the age of 67 - I was in a new relationship with a new man 8 years younger than myself. Suddenly I was not only madly in love again but having good sex. The thought of having an operation to repair a rectocele and a cystocele (front wall and back wall of the vagina) scared the heck out of me. What if my new husband went off me if I wasn't able to resume an active intimate life with him? I was petrified of 'losing' my new man, and seriously thought of cancelling the procedure. Then I met my (lady) consultant/surgeon and was honest with her about my fears. She was so understanding and set my fears at rest. She explained the procedure she would be using and told me she would do 'a good job' for me and even tighten my perineum area too to make it all look "pretty and less saggy"!! She added, normally for someone of my age ( at that time 69) she wouldn't do this type of operation but she knew this was important to me.
Ten months later, all (so far) has been a great success and I consider myself to be so blessed.
So I would say - if you still are active in the bedroom - do ask your consultant about that too.
With apologies if I am being rather 'personal' but this was one of the things I was really and truly concerned about. LadyPink
Gardener_Jo LadyPink
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I am no where near wanting to continue our sexual relationship yet, but my consultant told me things below would be back to how they were pre children, so that's something to look forward to!
I have begun doing some simple kegel excercises - these should help strengthen things.
thanks again LadyPink for your candor.
Jo
polly31782 LadyPink
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Polly
LadyPink polly31782
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LadyPink polly31782
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I was about to say, wait a bit longer and see how things settle with the leakage problem. It's still early days and of course if you have had an infection there, that wouldn't help. I only had occasional leaks in the first few weeks, especially when I sneezed or one time, when I was walking the dog and it was a particularly cold day I started to wee and found it difficult to stop. Now as time has gone on all seems fine with no further leaks - so far (touch wood). I did my pelvic floor excercises (when I remembered) plus I used my PelvicToner early on too, maybe that helped me too although I think this type of exercising is really to strengthen the vaginal muscles, I'm not sure.
My consultant said, IF I did have a problem with leakage I should return to see her and she would fit a 'tape' to the neck of the bladder to pull it together a little tighter. She said this would be done in their day clinic. See how things go, but things at least you know now that things can be done to put that right, so don't stay silent.
Chin up, all will be well but just take it steady for now. LadyPink
polly31782 LadyPink
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