This is a Nightmare

I did have the blood test,but my index value is very high ,A HSV IgG test was used and the index value was 11.40..They say since its so high there is no nead for a second test,  

I am done done done and I even used a Condom which should have helped,but not in my case,have not had one symptom I know of and even some medical professionals said I should not get tested,but I did for good or bad.

Ah, yes, in that case it's not likely false, unfortunately. A very high IgG is positive. Did your partner say she has HSV2? Were you with that person for a while? You seem sure it's from this one person, so just curious. It's hard to know for sure when you got it, since you never had a first outbreak.

Just got divorced first woman since ,the other woman had other partners and one gave it to her and she did not have her first outbreak until about two weeks later,so I thought for sure she got it after me  .My ex wife never got it and were togther for 22 years unprotected sex so she would have caught it ,so I think for sure this woman gave it to me and now I am and just done for life and ready to be alone I guess because who want to pass it on.   

I don't know about the timing of this other woman, but if you tested that high for IgG, then you already had the virus at least a month before your test date, probably longer and more like over 2-3 months. Does that fit? Life is not over, by the way. It's just a bit different when it comes to sex and relationships, and at least you don't get outbreaks.

Thanks for all you info by the way.I got tested the end of May ,so you think I got it in March ? why would that be .

Or even long before then. It takes time to develop detectable IgG antibodies. At 4 weeks, you'd expect a negative to low positive, not high. Most people seroconvert by 2-3 months, which is when you'd expect the higher positive, which can persist for years. The level tends not to fall off too drastically in those with healthy immune systems.

The woman I was with now says she has tested negitive,but has to go back to test again for antibodies since its been a longer period.The only other person I could have got it from was a woman way back in the 80s who I was with and had it,so is that even possible to never have an outbreak since the 80s ?  

Actually, it's possible. Most people with it are asymptomatic or get such mild symptoms they fail to realise it's herpes. Same goes for oral HSV1. It's a minority that gets symptoms.

If the first woman turns up negitive again then I will know. 

It seems impossible I did not pass it onto my wife in 22 years and like I said we never used condoms.

Has your ex ever been specifically tested for HSV2 IgG? But it is possible to not infect a partner for years. It depends on how much virus you shed and how often, whatever she has some unknown resistance, etc. It comes down to the dynamics of the couple in question. It will be interesting to see how this other woman tests again. Make sure it's IgG after 2 months minimum, ideally 3 months (from when she thought she got it, if she knows).

The other woman j wrote and said she was tes three days after her breakout  ,so the anitbodies may have not been there yet,but they should have done a swab or got a sample since she had a breakout,so I am not sure why her Doc would do a test three days after knowing it needs to be later,so I will see.  She keep aplogizing ,but if I would have stayed strong and had no oral and no penetration sex I would not be on here. With my life change forever,so very very stupid

Her tests would seem to indicate a new infection. Your tests indicate an established infection (2-3 months *minimum*, probably longer). You should ask her if they swabbed, and if so, which type does she have. If HSV2, I hate to suggest this, but do you not think it could have come from you? What are the timings and order of your encounters with this woman, her outbreak and test, your test, etc.

Abt two weeks after out encounter she told me she had a outbreak ,since I did not have any syptoms I got tested about eigtht weeks later thinking there was no way I would be positive and just wanting to assure myslef .I can remember the all the times we got togther,but we were together a nuer of times starting around November I think and she never had outbreak.  I had a few Bjs before her from other women ,but once again never had an outbreak. I always used protection with her . I don't know it could have been me,but the woman really enjoyed her sexuality and had a number or parnter some unprotected ,so that is why I think it was her giving it to me,but now I am unsure with what you are saying.  If I caught it, it would have had to be between Sept 2015 and May 2017 since I never gave anything to my wife and I was faithful

That should say I had two BJs from two other women.

If you had tested for HSV2 IgG at the same time as her outbreak, you would have a clear and definitive answer. Because you waited 8 weeks, however it's less certain. She could have a very new infection and given it you and you just seroconvered quickly, or you could have had it all along and given it to her.

Like I said, there are many couples where one partner has it and the other doesn't get it despite years together. Your ex being negative (and how do you know that she is?) and this other woman not getting an outbreak earlier is not proof of anything, I'm afraid. Herpes is infectious, true, but it does not pass with each sexual encounter. Many things come into play.

Ask this other woman if she had intercourse with anyone since your last time together, i.e., the two week period before her outbreak. HSV2 is nearly always acquired via intercourse or genital-to-genital contact, rarely from oral (unlike HSV1).

Once again thanks for all your replies.

No matter what, I now have this for being stupid and could have changed the course of my life forever. If the other woman does show up negitve then I will know for sure,but I will still have it and this is the sad part even though I would be glad she is Neg.All it may have taken was not to have intercourse anddone other things and I would not he this. 

I don't think Herpes research is to high a priority now so I will have this until I die.