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So, Ive suffered with depression previously. The it went away ( my first post in the depression forum)
I then had a bad 2 days when I had my time of the month.
I have been reading a bok on metacognitive therapy and it really really helped me because it showed me how it was possible to seperate yourself from what's going on in your head.
I always wanted to push away my thoughts, or be angry at myself for having them, even worried I would act on some of them in future.
Being consumed by your mind it is difficult to not engage with thoughts and feelings. As a depressed person you usually spend hours looking over, analysing, thinking of situations, when will it get better ect.
Your thoughts are just thoughts. They are not true or false, they can't predict the future, or change the past. If you keep digging, going over and over things you will not find the 'answer' You will not acheive anything by punishing yourself and you will not feel better by trying to make yourself feel worse.
Thoughts are just mental events that happen in your head, and by paying attention to them, you are giving them the stage in your mind.
Example: I once thought "I could just go and stand in the road and it will all be gone"
I then went on to worry I would actually do this, if i am having these thoughts I must be suicidal, if im suicidal I need professional help, Im going crazy, im so crazy i wont get better. I had feelings of hoplessness, despair, fear and deep deep sadness.
However, at the time if i had just realised that thoughts are just sentences that the mind churns out with no foundation on fact or future, I would have felt alot better.
You cannot choose what you think but you can choose what you give your time and attention to.
Another helpful thing: postpone rumination/worrying. Postpone it until a later time, say 7pm at night for 10 minutes. In the day if you have thoughts of sadness tell yourself that you are not forgetting you are just postponing them until later. This will add some more control and routine to your life.
It may be hard at first, worry is a habit, but it is a habit you can break.
If you find that hard, why do you find it hard? Are you thinking that worrying may help you get out of this? It won't. If it did why has it not helped already? Worrying doesnt keep you safe, make you prepared. It destroys your happiness and makes you feel like there is no way out. Why would you want to carry that process on?
Depression in my mind, is just maldaptive coping mechanisms which give importance to negative thoughts and make you think that worrying will make it go away.
Realise thoughts are just thoughts. The world seems sh*t because you are looking at it through the thoughts instead of seeing it for what it is.
Your mind is your choice and you do have control.
Never ever give up on yourself and understand that you may not see success stories because people who get over it usually dont want to come back on here and remind themselves how bad it could be. Depression recovery is very real and very possible.
This is a temporary issue x
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