Today Is my day

hi superfluous, glad to know you have found inner strength to fight the darkness and depression. i hope you are able to maintain this energy and motivation for times to come. I can understand how hard it must be for you to not be able to see your daughter. she will definitely need a dad once she grows up. I remember when I was in my high schools, my mom and dad use to fight a lot and still do but that was the time I first realized the condition of my family when I got back to living with my parents from my uncle's house. My mom was always in depression and during fights with my dad, atleast couple of times she atttemped suicide in front of me. of course we stopped her but for me as a kid in teens, it really took a toll on me and the spark of life that was in me was gone. I hated my dad because he was a sore loser, nothing compared to my mom. My mom being a highly respected government authority with good job was always being mentally harrased by my stupid drunk dad. the world outisde always thought that we were a very good respectable family but only few people, the neighbourers knew what kind of a man my dad was. His only weapon was to humiliate and embarass my mom by shouting out loud and making the people outside listen purposely. In my opinion he was never a MAN, a man would never try to take advantage of someone's weak point. He knew my mom was very scared of "what people would think". My dad was just a loser with an ordinary job but its not about money or his job. Its about how disgustingly low self esteem person he was who never cared about society or what people outside would think. When i first saw my mom attempt suicide with knife(we stopped her), I was so scared. As a kid of just 15 years I was mentally broken, would keep on worrying even in school about what my mom would do. There was this constant pressure and worry about she might do something. My mom was never at fault, it was just this drunkard dad who was just not of the class of being married to my mom. well here in my country, its a big thing if someone's get divorced. My mom wouldnt take divorce because she cared about me, my brother. All i have realized is that no matter who is at fault, a kid always suffers. I havent really been happy since that time...i have lost that spark, that happiness, that glow. No child should live under the fear that his/her parents might commit suicide or things like that. It can change the mentality of the kid because this is the time when his brain is developing, trying to understand how life is meant to be lived. I feel bad for those kids whose parents are drug addict and spoil their kids lives. Today when i see my friends photos and posts on facebook with their mom and dad, celebrating wedding anniversary or birthday, I realize that this is the way to live life and feel that they are so lucky to have such family. I never experinced that side of life and never will. Thats why I wish all the best for your daughter and hope that you go on to be a wonderful dad and give a life to your child that she deserves, a normal happy childhood.You have to be there for her when she needs. My life has been sh*t, I did not wish to live. I wish i died but  never had the strength(or weakness) to end my life. I hope that you never try again to end your life because that is just not the solution. You HAVE to live for your daughter. I'll pray to god to give you the strength to come out of this depression forever and never come back to it. All the best 

Yes, your daughter is worth it. You have rights as her father and should fight for her and for you. 

You sound super empowered, take that empowerment and that sense of giving life another go and throw it all in this problem going on, This is all for your daughter show the court you are a great person and make them believe and love you, when asked about the mother you speak about her like you still like her even if you hate her, never say anything bad about her and act so mature, don't even try speak to the mother again and prove to her you are doing so well without her eventually she will get aggitated and might even message you, but never message back because anything you say will be used against her even if you are nice to her she can turn that on you and say 'look hes being nice he still loves me thats why he wants the child because i dont love him' absolutely ruin her!

Get your daughter back and don't stop till you do

give life one more chance

I'm so proud of your courage, your strength to get what is right down will inspire many others and the ones who read this also.

I'm happy you failed at your attempt because the world needs people like you as a ray of light and hope.

Your always so encouraging that I can't believe your suffering with such pain and my heart goes out to you.

You will find justice and peace as I will keep you in my prayers at night all the way here in my bed in Toronto Canada.

Your daughter loves you and just think of her as your angel when your feeling down and hopeless and know that she needs a father in her life.

Some little girls don't have fathers in their lives that will fight for them like you are for her and you need to always remember what's important.

You got this

May God bless you sweetie

Xoxo

Hey you. Rooting for u. Left u a voicemail to wish u all the luck in the world xxx let me know how it goes xxx :0)

Oh yes superfluous, today is your day!! You will accomplish all your goals today and be able to be the great father you are. I know that you will.

Thankyou to everyone who has showed me the support I have on here it means so so much

So thankyou all for the messages my day is nearing its end I'm very tired and feel so accomplished I have a long fight ahead of me and it's a very tough one but my voice today has been heard it has been taken very seriously this is just the beginning If nothing else is achieved I want to show people that are struggling against enormous odds that's sometimes it's about attacking it from the sides chipping away at the web of deception yes it'll take so so long but each lie that is unraveled and seen for what it is weakens the structure it starts to lose its strength the more I fight the stronger I get whilst the web of deception and injustice gets weaker

I'm in it for the long haul I'll always have that one last round in me I shall see this through to the end I have a goal and I will succeed I want people to see no matter what odds are stacked against you no matter what your going through there's hope if you want it bad enough you will have it I'm going to prove it to you watch this space

Thankyou all so so much luv ya all thinking of you all and fighting for you all

Mike

Hi Super - what a story - an example of what goes on every day in this world by bitter and twisted people who are more concerned with wounding others and will tell any lie to do it. You are right - the law is indeded a grey area, and it is frightening how we are expected to prove they are lying. But you are doing the right thing by fighting back - you need to pursue that no matter how long it takes. Once it's on record - and you are lucky her lies were not pursued and "proven" in court because your future would look very different and certainly bleak - you will have a credible base on which to rest any future allegations she may make against you. Follow through.

Next, make sure you don't give her any amo in future. If communication is necessary, keep any texts, and if contacting in person, try to have someone there to witness what passes between you, or meet in a public [place where there are people and/or CCTV that can be used as evidence should she make further outrageuos claims. What a shame there is a child involved in this, it makes it almost impossible to get away from that woman. Be careful. Try to keep positive. Pursue. Oh, and suicide won't fix this.