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Don't know what's happening to me. I am 12 weeks post operation on second knee and today I went shopping with my husband. Everything was all right and I was relatively pain free but somehow because my husband kept fussing and asking if I was feeling all right I completely lost it and we ended up having a big row and coming home without any shopping done. Then I have spent the rest of the day crying for no apparent reason. I told my husband I am fed up of being held back because he says I need to take it easy. Also so sick of everyday being about knees. It Is 12 months since my first operation so feel like for the past 2 years all we have discussed is my knees. I just want to be back to normal. I know my husband is as baffled as I am and wonders what life has in store for us next. Does anyone else feel like this ? X
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david55379 joan51826
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I NEED a double TKR and my hip but I'm scared and putting it off.
The past 7 months I'm in chonic pain, i can't enjoy anything and keep thinking it'll go away...but it doesn't. MY ENTIRE EXISTENCE REVOLVES around the pain in my knees and i CAN'T TAKE IT ANYMORE yet im not doing anything about it!
At least you Joan have taken the biggest step and had the surgery. You're only going UP from here!
So let it out...its cathartic.
I've been sitting home all summer doing nothing..i mean NOTHING.
You're the winner Joan...keep fighting the fight.
Maybe one day I'll have the strength you do and finally get my knees fixed so I'll have the future you do.
Keep a stiff upper lip...GOOD JOB JOAN
joan51826 david55379
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caroline46398 joan51826
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margaret83646 joan51826
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Hang on in there you've had both yours done and a lot of my frustrations were being expected to do too much house work etc, and not greying any help. I'm 53 and just want my life back.
Annodoremouse joan51826
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Is your pain management under control? Are you resting/sleeping enough? Is your diet OK?Â
Husband do fuss its their job and he is concerned about you. I know he drives you daft with "are you OK" "can you manage that" " Is that too heavy" and the rest. He is caring for you LET HIM It makes him feel useful
patsyrose joan51826
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You are lucky to have a husband who cares so much about you, but we do also need to stretch ourselves a bit...with the right encouragement.
I struggled with my first knee, until manipulation 5 months afterwards, and am now facing further surgery on my 2nd knee in Sept (a year after TKR), so knees have been my life for almost 3 years (and that's without the pain for years before). Â I live alone unfortunately.
it takes it's toll on us mentally, too, and is so tiring. Â Just take a breather and I'm sure you'll feel better about it in a couple of days. Â Your husband was probably quite shocked at your reaction, so he will need reassurance too.
Wishing you all the best.
Patsy
jackie78227 joan51826
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joyce_61477 joan51826
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kathryn42410 joan51826
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I'm 21 weeks post TKR and have been exactly where you are with the public meltdown (although mine was my first ever panic attack, screaming, crying, struggling to breathe...at a train station, it wasn't pretty).
I am 36 years old, back living with my mum and unable to get into work everyday. I'm waiting on an MUA and adesiolysis surgery in 2 weeks. Leg is still considerably bent and painful. This leg has taken over my life, I don't know what I used to talk about before this. It's all anyone speaks to me about. I know they all mean well and care but it does get me down.
I spent a few days last week in London to see a show. It was amazing to go into a shop and spend a ridiculous amount of money on a handbag, I felt almost normal.
The way you describe your current situation sounds normal to me. I think we'll come out of the other side eventually. I'm looking forward to it as I can't remember LBK (life before knee)...I'm just hoping I have enough patience to get me there.
In the mean time try to take some time each day on your own to vent to yourself or scream...I've found it now helps me not to take it out on those closest to me. I also explained how I felt to my mum. She's been brilliant all through this and she now avoids talking about my leg, unless I bring it up.
No easy fix but you're not alone xx
mandy35295 joan51826
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seamus_98118 joan51826
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  Me I find that when I am feeling a bit  low and can't sleep in the early hours I just quietly get out my  Bagpipes and give it what for, it never fails to cheer me up,even when I am playing a dirge..
martinarvelo seamus_98118
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pyesangel seamus_98118
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sarah87162 joan51826
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I asked someone once if she was alrgiht and she said "Why shouldn't I be?"
Maybe this would be a better response than just getting upset, though I know it is difficult.
Hoping this will all settle down for you both.
Sarah xx
Peglegbev joan51826
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