unsympathetic pal
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Hi Ladies
I have a slight worry one of my good girlie friends just does not seem to get how major this op can be and how slow recovery is. I had a rectocele prolapse repair 2 weeks ago. Now dont get me wrong all my friends have been great for the last couple of weeks but today on a what was meant to be a very short outing on returning home after 2 hours cuppa at another friends a fly by shop (i stayed in car) and home and I was then thought I would be able to carry the cat litter (approx 10l bag) into the house. I refused of course but was left feeling that maybe i was lazy and even just those 2 hours left me with a painful butt ache drag (rocks in them) and bad shakes.:-(
How best do you think recovery should be explained to the outside world of genitourinary prolapse?
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Jan999 witchesmole
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lynn53651 witchesmole
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The me I hear about this operation and the painful recovery as well as theother negatives that hear, the more I would never consider an operation, until I have tried all the alternatives available. Now, the latest thing I heard is that one women on the internet, buys super tampons and uses them to hold up her prolapse and she said it works similar to the way a pessary holds it up but she can take the tampon out much easier. She puts coconut oil on the tampon to relieve any dryness and she said that is soothing as well. Any one else heard of this to try. Sounds reasonable to me if it holds the prolapse up further towards the pelvic floor. I think your friends witchesmole, need to be a lot more understanding and just sent them to this web site and they will have an entire view of what these ladies like yourself are going through.
Lynn
patsybythesea lynn53651
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yes I can understand how this might make you wary but I must say that, having had my feet up for four weeks, I'm really
starting to feel it's working very very well. Don't be put off, you probably can't stave off the inevitable with tampons for ever
and unless you've got small children you must carry, the younger you are the easier you heal.
Kindest wishes
lynn53651 patsybythesea
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I am not using tampons, I read that on the internet. I will never have surgery as I am 64 and have had a prolapse bladder for over 10 years I wear a support for it and have no pain, never have I can feel the ball as you may call it hanging down through the vaginal area, but thats it. I am encouraging others like me who have no pain, to avoid this operation if they can. Why would anyone put themselves through this unless they absolutely have no other choice and the pain it too much. Again, everyone is different regarding a prolapse bladder. Do your homework first and weigh the pros and cons for each individual case. So many ladies that did not have pain and had the surgery are now in awful pain that I read on the internet. Some of the surguries failed, some were okay for a year or two etc etc. I pray for all of them to get well.
Jan999 lynn53651
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patsybythesea lynn53651
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sexual relationship with my husband (he's 40) which is why I've had the op.
The pain of surgery is in fact shortlived and although it may
seem that women here are moaning, they are in fact just letting
off steam and supporting each other. It's not my place to insist
that others either have or don't have the surgery, but I do know
that I'm healing nicely, due to the fact that I'm resting.
The main reason we've not been healing (if youve followed a
cross section of these posts as most of us here have done) from my understanding is because we're busy women and we've
struggled to stay put.
We on the whole did our homework and asked our consultants.
These are not scare stories, these are women havinge virtual
coffee and cake and a natter, a laugh and loads of
encouragement.
Thousands of women have this surgery every year. Some fail,
often because they don't/can't rest for long enough.
I'm delighted with my choice! I had one. I took it!
lynn53651 patsybythesea
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Blessings to all of you
Lynn
Jan999 lynn53651
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patsybythesea lynn53651
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who have chosen this course of action are not well educated
or informed. That they haven't done their research because they chose this option?
If mine was protruding then I would most definitely have it fixed. Gravity isn't sympathetic.
I'm a fan of complementary therapies and use all manner or
alternatives but in this case I made a choice, am happy with that and I'm not naive in knowing that there are no guarantees in
anything in the world.
Promoting that women don't have surgery because it hurts afterwards?....It's surgery!
Great that you can do everything btw - very positive!
patsybythesea Jan999
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lynn53651 patsybythesea
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My prolapse use to start protruding out of the vagina area if I had been on my feet a lot because gravity pulls it down of course. But that is no longer an issue and it can no longer protrude because I wear my prolapse support so there is nothing hanging out, all is kept in where it belongs.
I want to share my positive experience without an operation, the same way you want to share your success with the results of your choice of having an operation. Thats all. Nice to have positive feed back and lots of choices isn't it?
Blessings to all
tlee Jan999
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tlee patsybythesea
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barb89646 witchesmole
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witchesmole
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yes I think you are right and I will tell her. I think she means well but thinks
it is not as bad as it actually is or as slow a recovery .. is still worth the surgery though :-) my BM have never been better!
lynn53651 thank you and I will be showing her the site
Jan999 witchesmole
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witchesmole Jan999
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tlee witchesmole
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