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I've never had anxiety in my entire life. About 8 months ago, I had my first ever anxiety and since then, it's an ongoing issue that comes on sporadic, with no warning.

My chest gets tight, my throat closes and feels dry, my forehead starts sweating and I go in shutdown mode. The first one occurred at the grocery store, when I was checking out. I started scoping the building for exits. Now, it's basically affecting me anywhere and everywhere except home.

The grocery store and going out to dinner with my family have both turned into guaranteed anxiety. Its so bad, I can't eat when at dinner. It's starting to effect my daily functions.

My job requires client interactions daily and I havemy met with a client in over a year. I've hired a partner to handle it for me as I just can't do it anymore. I have a doctor's appointment this Friday, but what will they do... what are some coping techniques to help?

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    This posts doesn't even come across accurately. It took me months to actually call the doctor and now I'm praying I can show up... I haven't slept past 3am all week. I'm so frustrated. I need the old me back. I'm only 33 years old.

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    The first step is seeing a doctor of course.  This will give you some peace of mind.  What were you doing when you had the first one?

     

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    Let me rephrase that.  What was your fear the first time.  Fear of being around people? fear of dying?...etc
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      I'm not sure.... I was checking out in publix. Nothing should have triggered it. I'm trying to pinpoint what causes them to start, but it seems anything that is social or I'm out of control zone. The first one i do rememebr, my period was a week late, so i thought it was hormones and brushed it off. My best friend and business partner committed suicide 2 years ago and I saw a therapist for awhile afterwards as I wasn't having anxiety but anytime I felt I had no control [traffic jamschool, lights, lines] I would break down. She told me because I lost control with him in am essense. But, I am starting to think it may be the new job role I assumed when he died . It's extremely high stressed. I don't want to be on pills... I just want to be normal again and handle the daily job funtions that I can handle.

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      I should mention...I went to a doctor a year ago...and asked for help and he told me to pull it together asoon it was life. So...the doctor in general is now giving my a new layer of anx.
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      Do you drink coffee or any other caffinated drink? If you do you should stop.  Ultimately what you have is fear of having another attack.  This automatically puts you on edge because you are on guard.  It is your bodies natural fight or flight instinct.  Your mind senses danger and your body respondes.  Heart rate increases, blood is directed to vital organs which cause tingling in your hands and feet.  You feel like you cannot get enough air so your breathing increases.  Your mind cannot make sense of anything and you feel like you are going insane.  You want to escape the situation as fast as you can so you start seeking exits.  Does this all ring a bell?

       

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      YESSSSSS! but I already did a full revamp on my life. I quit caffeine and changed my diet and started juicing about 2 months ago and no changes.

      And during the flight or flight mode, it's like I can't relax..it's like all the dopamine or neurons are firing off in my brain and I can't release it and bring it back to normal.... I stay at that elevated level until I remove myself from the situation.

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      I have been dealing with anxiety for many years.  the first step is realizing that there is nothing wrong with you and that you are not alone.  Millions of people suffer from anxiety.  Most people do not get it and think we are nuts.  However, to us it is very real and very scary.  Mantel distraction is one of the best tools I have found.  When you find your mind focusing on anxiety try counting backwards from 1000 by 13's.  Do some research on meditation techniques.  You said you don't want to be on meds but I recommend you give it a try.  I am taking zoloft and Klonopin and it has allowed me to regain control.  I only have attacks about 4 to 5 times year now.  Also, Medical Doctors aren't not trained to deal with anxiety.  You should see a psychiatrist to get you on the right meds and a psycologist to give you the tools to cope.

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      It is the seretonin level in your brain that is the problem.  Your brain may be producing too much and that is why SSRI's work the best.  Another technique is use is breathing exercises.  Concentrate on breating froom your stomach.  If you pay attention during anxiety you will notice you are breathing from your chest.  Try inhaling through your nose for a count of 5 hold for 3 and exhale slowly for a count of 7.  I will hum on the exhale when I am alone.  It helps to slow the rate and also has a calming affect.

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    Talk to your GP they can give you medications to calm your Anxiety and decide on any other treatment that could help

    Try Relaxation Techniques, Mindfulness is the best one at this time, look for a book on Amazon

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    Well, doctor appointment went well. He ordered some blood work to make sure everything is okay. I have another appointment next Friday . If it all comes back okay, he is putting me with a therapy center to see if they can help.

    Thanks again.

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