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Wanting to be alone

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Rainy84
Rainy84

hi

does anybody feel like they just want run from everything ? I just want to be alone. i find the cooking cleaning working being the mum and wife so tiring these days. I'm post menopause now and although some of the ailments have almost gone i feel I'm not the person i used to be. I hope these feelings disappear anyone else felt like this.

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  • Lavonne57
    Lavonne57 Rainy84

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    hi rainy 84 I can say I can relate I'm 1-year postmenopausal been going through this horrendous mess for 2 years I have hypothyroidism and when all my symptoms first began I have been taking a natural thyroid with iodine and thought I had received over medication and was having hyperthyroidism symptoms a lot are the same still not sure that may have been a little of it at first but then the doctor says my thyroid is all in good ranges and I've been having all the symptoms of menopause for the last 2 years it's like a derangement never thought it could be this bad no one ever told me thought it my . was just stopping your. And some hot flashes wish that's all it were I struggle everyday lost my job a year ago stay-at-home do nothing but watch TV and try to make it through the day. my kids are grown and out of the house so I'm alone and I have unfounded fears and worries had horrible anxiety that has gotten better I went off my Levothyroxine and I realize that was giving me really bad anxiety now that's a little bit better on a different type of thyroid doesn't make me near as nervous but I feel Doom and Gloom in the mornings I feel like half my brain is turned off poor concentration have trouble making decisions afraid to drive most of the time occasionally I can go to the store and buy groceries I isolate from friends and family I have low self confidence used to be bubbly outgoing not a lot of fears I am a totally different woman. so you're saying that a lot of your symptoms finally went away but you just don't feel the same as you used to? I'm really ready for all this to be over with I feel like the others like I'm not going to make it most days like it's going to be the death of me feel like my life is over anyway because I don't socialize or do any of the things I used to I also tried HRT twice but because I have a uterine polyp I started bleeding and had to go off of it both times need to have polyp removed but don't feel like having surgery need to have polyp removed but don't feel like having surgery right now it's hard to do anything when you have the severe symptoms

    • jude84900
      jude84900 Lavonne57

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      Lavonne- Are you sure your bleeding was from the polyp and not from the introduction of estrogen in your body? After periods end and body isnt making hormones in the quantities it use to then you bring those hormones back into the body it can bring on bleeding which is normal at first its reawakening those receptor sites we have which can trigger some bleeding when first getting on HRT. Were you on bio identical hormones? Was your doctor well versed in what happens in women's bodies at this time in their life? The right doctor is the difference between failure or success in hormone replacement. I've been with a holistic dr since periods ended 5 years ago. Been on hormone replacement from the start No problems . Regular lab work is a must too. Btw, I had bleeding at first too sometimes its a simple adjustment in what hormone levels your on . Just thought i would share. The life you describe is not the kind of life we should have to deal with at this time in our lives. Good luck!

  • ACanadian
    ACanadian Rainy84

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    Hi Rainy84, and hi Lavonne57,

    I think a lot of people feel like that these days, regardless of peri - it's a hugely stressful time, with terrible stories on the news each day, mass unemployment, and health concerns. A lot of people are suffering from depression and anxiety, both of which can lead to the feelings you're describing. Adding peri to the mix only makes it that much worse.

    So all I can say is:

    1. You're not alone.
    2. Take some time to practice self-care, if you're not already - go for a walk, take a warm bath with a good book, meditate or do some restorative yoga, unburden yourself to friends or family (too many of us stew, because we don't want to bother or worry other people, but we really need to try to overcome that), etc.
    3. Give yourself permission to feel your feelings - a lot of us women have been raised to think about others first, to spend vast amounts of time caring for others, and then feel guilty when we get those "I'm sick of looking after these people" feelings, but those feelings are completely normal, and don't make you a bad person.
    4. Consider talking to your doctor about how you're feeling - they should be able to put you in touch with a local counselling service, which can help a lot. Lavonne57, I think you especially would benefit from counselling, because I get the feeling you're bottling it all up, unwilling to tell your friends and family how you feel, and you shouldn't have to do that.

    Be well, both of you. Hope you feel better soon.

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