week 14 for daughter....i think
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its been a funny old week, she has had a lot going on emotionally, she was told her job is at risk, ( and she just got her expensive car) and someone close was in a bad mood( doesnt live in my house) and had a pop at her, reducing her to tears.
but she has coped, one thing i notice is when she is upset, it all becomes highlighted, and anger/tears/sadness all become stronger than before she was on the flux, she realises she needs to be alone, or she wants company and to snuggle under the blanket, so its good she can identify with it, and move herslef to a place of isolation to calm down.
side effects wise, she hasnt been to bad, probably managed 3 good nights sleeps out of the week,
but for her last week was about understanding when to distance herself, and how she cant change what is out of her control. she should hopefully find out something about her job this week, fingers crossed.
as a mum, i want to wrap her up, keep her by my side and protect her, i am learning to stand back, and watch, and only step in if i feel i really need to.
i was once told as your kids get older, it gets easier......no it doesnt.
stay strong everyone, xx
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katecogs karen13323
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Oh that's a blow for her worrying about her job ... so sorry to hear that. That's all she needs right now, and for someone to have a go at her is so upsetting. Fragile nerves that are healing, are quick to fire off, so not surprised she got upset. Poor love. It's good she can recognise when she needs her space.
My son got upset last week at work when his colleague asked the supervisor where he was, and the supervisor replied 'oh probably crying behind the wall over there'! How mean can you get ..... I just thought does he seriously know what he's actually been through? This supervisor is in his 60's and should be more adult towards it. My son did report it.
When he was off work for 3 months last year, I wondered if he'd keep his job, then thought that actually his health came first, and if he lost it, so be it, and maybe he could go back to college and retrain for something else. Luckily he returned and all is well.
Yes fingers crossed her job will be safe.
I also want to wrap my son up and keep him safe, but like you, knowing that we have to step back and watch them grow, cope with life, deal with things. It's hard, and I've always said being a mum is the hardest job I've ever had to do.
Hugs to you both
K xx
karen13323 katecogs
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crayola24 karen13323
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katecogs crayola24
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Sorry to hear of your daughters problem too - they're so young aren't they, to be dealing with life's problems. I was talking to a lady last year who told me her daughter had had an eating disorder throughout her teens, and became very, very ill. One day she found an advert for a pole dance class and went along - it slowly changed her life - she began exercising, and began loving her body and eventually became a tutor, and now runs her own studio!! She is no longer ill, has a beautiful body and is very happy. I really love that story :-)
Yes when our children hurt, we hurt too. It was hard enough picking them up when they were little, sticking a plaster on their cut knees and wiping their tears ...... and even harder watching them suffer from terrible emotions later in life.
Once a mum, always a mum ;-)
K xxx
karen13323 crayola24
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love to you too, i hope your daughter is ok now, and coping with it all, and your right, being a mum is the hardest job of all, big hugs all round today! xx
crayola24 katecogs
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karen13323 crayola24
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your right, it is so hard to watch them suffer, keep smiling crayola, you and your daughter have come such a long journey. xx
karen13323
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crayola24 karen13323
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and as a patient,,,,,,,,i was going to say survivior, but we are all surviours and hopefully family for each other , i do understand all my love karen
katecogs karen13323
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Have a blanket snuggle and film evening when she's home, after making her favourite dinner ;-)
Thinking of you both x
karen13323 katecogs
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vix167 karen13323
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Sorry to hear your daughters got worries about her job, not what either of you need right now when shes been doing so well.
People can be so thoughtless, they prob dont mean it but shouting like that can really upset you as your emotional responses are so much more drastic. I had a row with my husband the other week n I felt physically bad for days after. At least your daughter knows what she needs to do to feel better but you can't always do it when you're at work:-(
It is a set back but she can and will get through it, but it is hard when youve felt so good. One step forward....
Hope the news on her job is good. Sending you big hug as well as your daughter. Takw care of you both
Vix x
karen13323 vix167
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i am just so angry on her behalf, she was doing so well, but we had a chat and she now realises that when things get too much she must walk away or suffer the consequences for the next few days.
still no news on the job, so its a waiting game.
big hugs right back at you. xx
pippa85162 karen13323
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pippa85162 karen13323
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vix167 pippa85162
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Just baby steps, bit by bit thats the way. Glad youve had some improvement.
Take care
Vix
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