Welcome to the club bro!

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So in layman's terms you're experiencing what we post-menopausal husbands call "bat s**t crazy"! There's not way to fix it because if you try to talk to your wife you're the devil and if you don't talk to her you're still the devil. I'm trying very hard to be understanding of my wife but it's incredibly difficult. Frankly I'm at a point where if she wants to make it work then great but if not then it's time to go our separate ways. You can't fix stupid or crazy!

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    Are you kidding me? Do you have any idea what she is going through? Try having a good nights sleep. Guess what, that aint happening . If you do manage to go to sleep , don't worry, you'll be up in no time sweating your ass off. It feels like your in a damn sauna being smothered. Oh , what about hot flashes, you forgot about those babies, you feel fine then BOOM, suddenly you've been thrown in hell, heat everywhere. Mood swings, thats so much fun. You cry hearing a song or fir no reason at all. Bloating, good one too. You feel like a beach ball overnight . You put on weight everywhere, your tits shrink and fall, itching is a bh and then to boot she has to deal with a man who has no patience. I'm sure you are no picnic, what happened till death do us part? Stop p**g her off. Get her some flowers and candy, do the dishes then go do something productive and leave her be fir a while till her she feels better.

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    Wow.. sounds like she'd be better off without a condescending jerk like you. You're right you can't fix stupid, and you have loads of it.

    Do you think any of us want this?

    No need to try to explain to you what is going on with us, mind and body, because half the time we don't know and are terrified of what is going on with our bodies. It's not as simple as our periods stop.

    If you love your wife you'll man up and be supportive. Just remember your day is coming, you won't be holding on to that testosterone forever....

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    Bat s**t crazy, it is true, it was the worst experience of my life. I would have drenching hot flashes just sitting on the couch. Out of the blue, no kidding, I'd get set off and go into a Bipolar rage! I don't have bipolar. I would get so angry then I'd suddenly be on fire. I went from a size 9 to a 18 in period of a few years and the weight wont budge. Please, have patience with your love. We really hate this but just for a while its going to be rough. Yes, be helpful let her talk to you. Hormones is not a bad idea either they helped me. Also, something personal. I'll share. Ive been with my honey for thirty-five years. We had a active love life until this nightmare set in. Relations became very painful, impossible. I got a prescription called Estrace it goes inside the women. Because of the lack of Estrogen with menopause it will thin out the tissues of a womens area that makes sex difficult. Estrace will build it back up. after 2 weeks it was like I was in my 20s again. It brought my hubby and I so much closer and healed some hurts because of my past deposition.

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    No, bat$&@?crazy is you coming on a women's forum for menopause saying this crap. Go troll somewhere else.

    Seriously makes me angry that every so often a guy posts on here. This forum is for WOMEN.

    Moderator: can someone please make a men's forum for menopause? That way they'll have a place to go to complain and someone might listen.

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      im kinda wondering if its not same person lately just trying to get a response out of us women, seems this is the third time less then two months a guy coming on here downing his wife either being bat shi* crazy or not giving him sex smdh.

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    Plz try to understand her.

    She herself donot know what going on with her in menopause.

    Menopause very hard phase of life...only whose who undergone this can know...

    take care of her..Support her..in full life she did for you and kids..Now its your time

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    I bet this is that loser "jeremy" from the no sex post. Don't indulge him ladies, it will only spur him on to continue this nonsense. Just like with children, don't reward bad behavior with attention. Imagine having a life so pathetic that you will literally do anything for human interaction. The quickest way to deter this idiotic behavior is to ignore.

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      He sounds like such a disrespectful IDIOT!!! just wait until he goes thru all his male crap AKA male menopause... ( heart issues, afib, sleep aopnea ) mid life crisis.. He will get there and have his turn!!! Karma is a b#%ch... Poor guy how pathetic can one be...

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    Hopefully your stupid crazy wife (as you put it) will choose to go her separate way (also as you put it) right about the time she's finding comfort in another mans arms.. Maybe at the same time you feel so alone and on your own, and going thru all your male issues , which by the way if they haven't hit you yet they are coming for you!! Nobody is exempt from this crap male or female we all get our turn there guy so go easy your turn is coming!!

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    First of all dude, Karma is female, and as they say, she's a b--ch, and she's sure as hell not leaving her sisters in a ditch when confronting guys like you and is for sure coming for you!

    Secondly girls, I am so very proud for your support to our sister in menopause / perimenopause! When I started reading this thread, I thought gosh this nut will get some "oh poor you's" as we usually do the idiots in our lives (co-workers, friends, and in some cases, hubbies/boyfriends) while my blood was boiling, but whooo...you let him have it as he so richly deserves.

    YAY for us!

    We are stronger together in our shared experiences and most of us are used to banging our heads against a healthcare system that already overlooks our issues during this time, so come at us, we give back 100 times harder!

    Thank you!

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    Do her a favor and get out of her life. No woman needs a 'man' like you in their lives.

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