What a few days 😢
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Over the past few days my anxieties have risen tremendously.
When I'm at work it's so busy that I feel myself panicking and get to the point that I can't think straight. Total brain fog. It's really worrying.
I'm also getting stressed about the idea of my pets dying or my parents dying.
I've always been a worrier but not to this extent. I feel that part of how I feel could be linked to the fact that i lost both my father in law and my mother in law last year ( within 7 months of each other) but I'm wondering is peri as much to blame.
The days I'm at work I get up and give it my all but on my days off I'm like a zombie with little motivation and a cocktail of peri symptoms.
I do talk to my husband ( who I think secretly thinks I'm a fruit loop) and a friend, who seems to understand but sometimes I can't even explain never mind make sense of how I feel.
Cami 😢 xx
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Trevis Camikitten
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Camikitten Trevis
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I find this forum really helpful, the support is amazing and it's great just to be able to sound off where girls actually understand what I'm talking about.
Xxx
donna38794 Camikitten
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Camikitten donna38794
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donna38794 Camikitten
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elizabeth74629 Camikitten
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Camikitten elizabeth74629
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Thank you xx
susan47122 Camikitten
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You need to just cut back maybe take sometime off of work and see a doctor and find out what is going on. You should also talk to a therapist about the death issues you have because I am scared of losing my loved ones to death. I am also a worrier too and yes that can cause a lot of anxieties in people who are sensitive to anxieties. Also have your thyroid checked out and see if you need vitamin b6 have them do a blood test.
My boyfriend tells me not to worry I know its hard not too but try doing some activities like yoga, relaxation, destress your mind because thats what I have to learn to do because worrying can cause more problems
Hope you feel better and try to put a smile on your face. Things will get better in time
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sharcerv52408 Camikitten
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val50972 Camikitten
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Hope tomorrow is a better day for you.
Take care
Valxx
sharcerv52408 Camikitten
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Hugs,
Sharlene
HotDot7 Camikitten
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shaznay96184 Camikitten
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Maybe you're still grieving. Remember going to my GP demanding my
hormone levels be checked, as I was this, that and the other. Happened
to throw in that father-in-law passed away 6mths prior after stoke & very long period in hospital. And then I started to blub....and some!
She just took my hand and sweetly said that what I was experiencing was
grief - I was still mourning his passing. We had a good chat and off I
went. That day on I felt 1m times better! No meds, different perspective
etc. It was just so great to release it all with someone other than my
immediate family. That was 9yrs ago.
I too lost my mum & mum-in-law within 6mths of each other but I was
younger and mentally stonger aged 41. Think losing my father-in-law
has been so much harder due to age-related changes in me and seeing
the effect his loss has had on my husband (still not coping with his loss
after 9ys really).
When I get anxious I find I sort of hyperventilate a bit. I try my best to
calm myself down, talk myself out of it. I've always been a bit fiery (the
blonde in a red family -The Red Mist had to rub off on me somehow!).
I suspect if you go to see your GP they'll prescribe SSRIs, which seems
par for the course with tackling peri/menopausal anxieties these days.
Not for me, ta. But maybe its for you, who knows?
I don't knock SSRIs for the sake of it. My eldest sister (71) has l/t mental
Health issues so I've witnessed how well they've made her. But also the
side effects. These are worse than any symptoms I have, hence my
reluctance to start them.
Maybe go and have a chat with your GP to tell them how our feel
and explain our symptoms. It might be the best thing for you,
who knows?!
Camikitten shaznay96184
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I'm 49 and to be honest I'm not sure how far into peri I am as when I look back I've been having many of the symptoms for a few years.
I'm reluctant to see GP as don't want meds for anxiety. Just wish I didn't always feel so naff.
Last year was a tough year with both in laws dying, 2 close neighbours died too and we had major building work carried out on our house which wasn't exactly straight forward. I think stress from all this have exacerbated my original anxieties.
I feel like I need 6 months on a desert island ( with only my cats for company 😉)
susan47122 Camikitten
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You should take time for yourself to destress yourself because I have a lot of anxieties and panic attack and yes having to go through peri menopause and menopause id hard.
I am on medication for anxieties I take ativan, trazodone to help me sleep, levothyroxine, losartan for blood pressure, vitamin d3 and metformin for diabetes
Take time out for your self and get plenty of rest.
Hugs to you and take care
elizabeth74629 Camikitten
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Counselling is excellent if you manage to find someone you trust. Talking to someone who is totally removed, isnt judging you and who you dont have to see regularly or socially is much better for me than talking to a friend/partner. If the first counsellor doesnt seem to click with you try another one, when you find the right one the relief is immense. just to realise that what you are going through is normal is such a relief, to feel that you are not going mad and to be almost given permission to feel this way is the best! Similarly dont be totally put of anti depressants. I tried one and hated it and stopped taking it (this is for issues before peri) but I got so low that eventually the counsellor recommded trying again. I cried and cried because I just didnt want to go back on them but I was given a different one and it was so good. It just took the edge off the way I was feeling so i could look at things differently. I was only on it for a year so its not necessarily a long term thing. I'm not saying you need to go on them now, just dont write them off completely if you feel more overwhelmed in the future. And remember to keep asking for help, different counsellour, different drugs if something is not working for you. Good luck!