what can I do

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severe depression since two years, cant do anything, cant cook , cant concentrate, cant speak much , cant walk a lot, cant read, just stay in my bed, even if i force me to do something i am exhausted, it is a nightmare, even sitting at the table is too difficult! been on several meds, too many side effects, dont know what to do , doctors dont know either,i eat well, my vitamines are ok ...it is like i am living a severe burn out every day since two years.....someone like me? please, i dont understand.....family doing everything, i cant do anything ...i know i dont ask for a solution , but  am desperate , so intense and so long it cant be....

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    Hi I didn't want to read and run as you sound so desperate for some help. I don't have any useful words of wisdom but I wanted to say don't give up. Keep talking on here as it will give you an outlet for your feelings. I have been where you are and it's frightening and overwhelming. Go back to the gp if you can and explain how bad things are. I really feel for you as it can feel like you are going mad and are trapped in your own head. I am suffering a relapse myself so totally empathise. Just keep talking. Xxxxx

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      than you Stacey for your message​, i just dont know how to overcome this and doctors told me they dont know what to do....as the meds i have problem with them, i am talking cymbalta 30mg now and feel more exhausted
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      I am in a really bad place with all this.  Lovely sunny day, cant face going out. Feel down but anxious and agitated that i cant do what I want to.   Saw Psych yesterday, he is perplexed and understands but which new med to try?  He is thinking and will let me know as i seem a difficult case.feel going mad. How are you, any progress?
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    Are you under mental health? If you're not moving about that can affect your mentality alot. Exercise releases natural good chemicals to the brain. You have to try to do things for yourself not to appease others. Its not easy but if you do not try to motivate yourself you'll end up regretting it. Try small things at first. Tell yourself that this depression does not rule you. Peoples opinions do not matter. Yours does. The rest of the world can get stuffed. Get back yourself. Eat properly. Drink water. Read, do things or get involved in things you enjoy. If you are worried about your family look into carers who can come and assist and offer respite. Whatever you do do not sit on front of a tv, continuously watch you tube or Netflix etc, get up be active as much as you can. Even sitting in bed listening to radio all day is actually no good. Get used to the quietness and be constructive. Hope this helps, Nick.

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      what can i do this if i have no energy to take a dish and wash it, you know it is really this...i just go out for a 20 min walk around my building and come back and have to sit or lay down, i try to go to the kitchen but i understand anything , i just cant concentrate and make an effort one year like this everyday,incredible but i ll try to do what you told me and find small pleasure, i dont know which one , get dressed is just an effort as i looking in the clothes is too much an effort, you may laugh at it but it is the reality...
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    Anne

    If you are not functioning, preferring lying down i your bed you need to know the cause of your condition. I understand you are depressed ? Do you know of any reasons why you are feeling the way you do. Look for reasons and to know the cause can affect you to move on in your Life.

    What medications are you on at this time ?. Have you had a course of CBT to help you control your condition.

    BOB

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      Anne give the new medication time to work, another two weeks. If you still feel bad talk to your GP.

      When we change medications you may need to wean of theCymbalta before the new medication so it means a longer time period to get relief 

      BOB

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      do you think? i am so tired and dizzy related tiredness from it....and i know the withdrawal from it is awful as i have done it two years ago. yes i ll wait but it is impossible to feel like this from one year!!! doctors told me they dont know what to do....i am very tired....yes i will wait a bit, it is a nightmare
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    Oh how i can relate to your condition. It has been the same for me.  I just dont know how tonshake it off.  Attempts at different anti deps just made me worse.  We need some expert advice.  System not geared up for it.
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      Another day, same feeling.  Just feel ill, want to stay in bed all day, dont want to see friends or do anything, yet that is so frustrating.  Psych has talked about new med called brintillex - not sure if he will try it but i cannot take other ssris they just dont work.

      What have you tried to help your depression?

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      i have tried everything , almost....but also mixed with other meds so i dont know...prozac :anxiety to the roof, moclamine and effexor anxiety and depression worse, ixel: angry and palpitations, seropram dizzy and sick but i may try it again , now cymbalta: zombie no energy....brintillex i dont know this med.....i just try to go outside i cant stand the effort walked 15 min and now i ll lay on my bed unable to speak...how can it last so long...
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    I'm sorry things are so bad for you.

    I've been there myself for a long time all I did was stay in bed, couldn't face doing anything or seeingn anyone and thought I was always going to be in that rut, couldn't see anyway out. I was put into a psychiatric hospital (for the 5th time) I was there for 11 days. Had a really bad time for the first few days (including a suicide attempt) wouldn't talk to anyone and spent most the days in my bed, but as the days went on I guess I'd given my head a wobble and told myself I need to do something. I woke the next day and something had changed, I was on new meds so I'm not sure if they played a part but I just felt more focused, less weight in my mind (if that makes sense) I started talking, I went to the groups and accepted all the help they offered me. I felt almost normal again which was a strange but good feeling.

    I've been out of hospital around 4 weeks now and I know it's still only early days but I'm doing so much better, I no longer stay in bed all day, I set myself an alarm to wake me every morning and I get straight up and start my day. I'm doing all housework now, cooking meals, shopping and visiting family etc, and im also able to enjoy reading again now which I haven't done for so long.

    If you read or have read any of my posts before you will see what a hopeless case I thought I was. I've had the odd down day but not as bad as have previously been and the next day I tell myself it's a new day and I start again. so I guess what I'm saying is there is hope and things can change. Just hang in there and keep trying and accept all help available to you.

    Love dondons x

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      i have been to hospital several months, very tired because of the rythmn , the doc told me we dont know what to do......some meds were better in term of energy but i dont remember which one...
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      I'm on venfalxine, like I say I'm not sure it's the meds, my focus or a mixture of both but things are getting better for me.

      I hope and I'm sure you will find the right combination for you.

      I sufffered a slight sicky feeling the first few days taking it but it soon passed.

      I've tried lots of Meds too (including venfalxine) but at the time I was also taking mirtazapine so maybe the combination wasn't right for me?

      I hope things get better for you soon x

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      yes, i understand....i am afraid to change again and again...i remember feeling ok before when i took duloxetine, but now it seems as it worsens my depression and exhaustion feeling.....i changed meds every 10 weeks....so i dont want to tell doctors about meds and what i felt

      ​i wish i can have the right med to begin

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