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dondons
dondons

What do you do when no one seems to care ? When you're crying out for someone to talk to when you just need a friend but no ones there ? What do you do?????

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  • hilary95948
    hilary95948 dondons

    Posted

    Do you not have any family?......You would be supprised, people do care, It amazing when you so low, you think that way..... I was like that all the time, thinking I am getting on peoples nerves, so I would isolate myself, it was easier.... okay you may loose a few friends on the way, but the ones that stay are true friends, I live alone, as I lost my husband 3 years ago, and I only started to greive 9 months ago... I don't have many friends, as I was looking after my husband for many years those friends weren't real, as now I am on my own, you don't see them, but hey, they aren't friends...... You will hsve plenty of people on here, that will talk to you.....Hilary  smile

  • heather27354
    heather27354 dondons

    Posted

    I came on here tonight, because I knew i would feel lonely. I have no one who really understands what I am going through right now. But I am sure some of you do. I think you made the right decision to talk here.
  • dondons
    dondons

    Posted

    I just wish I was dead! I hate life soooo much !
  • chriselora4321
    chriselora4321 dondons

    Posted

    I feel the same way. It's just me, 61, my husband 68, and little dog, who's16 years old.

    We have no immediate family nearby. I have depression, anxiety and panic attacks. I'm struggling with the process of getting used to new medication, Venlafaxine, XL, after years on Paroxetine.

    which stopped working.

    My husband has an inherited condition called Hereditary Haemorrhagic Telangiactesia, or HHT as it's known as.

    He has nosebleeds nearly every day which do stop on their own, but has had to be taken to hospital by ambulance at least once a year.

    He understands and does his best to be there for me emotionally. Sometimes, though, it's not enough and I feel bad about that. I can't help it.

    All this, as you can appreciate does not help my mental health at all. There are helplines, but sometimes I find it very hard to phone them when I'm struggling. All I need is a cuppa and a chat with somebody.

    I'm sure a lot of us feel the same way.

    It's very hard, even if you do have family or people there. If they can't or don't understand what you're going through that's just as bad.

    More needs to be done to help people like us make connections with each other and other people so we don't feel so isolated. Isolation is a cruel state and far to many people are stuck in it, whatever condition they have.

    Sorry for the ramble on folks. It just all came out like that. x

    • hilary95948
      hilary95948 chriselora4321

      Posted

      Hi Chriselora,

      By you writting all this down, is like talking to someone, it's gets it off your ches, I type down alot the way I feel, it is good therepy, also it can make you cry, which releases a lot of anxiety, it like sycotherepy, which is good.... your right there should be more help out there.... i have been many months feeling really bad, in the end I either got the help privately, or hung on in there myself, had a couple of good days lately, I hope they stay, don't know in my case whether it's due to cutting down, but not shaking today thank God, and I think he does help us, sometimes you have got to get so bad, that you do appreciate the good..... Hilary   smile

    • chriselora4321
      chriselora4321 hilary95948

      Posted

      Thank you Hilary. I appreciate your comments. It's hard finding what works

      for each person.

      Regards,

      Chriselora. ??

  • sarah56507
    sarah56507 dondons

    Posted

    Dodons, I'm going through the same and what I'm doing is being very humble and clearly saying to people I trust, even when I don't know them well, but something in them make me feel they are good people. I tell them I'm in need of someone to talk to and if they're receptive I talk in a way that I don't go straight saying everything at once. I start with informal subjects and go from there. I went to this couples' house near mine I've always thought might be good people, knocked on their door and just said that I was not there to sell anything or ask for favors, I just wanted to talk to another human being. They received me with open arms and we're starting to build a friendship. In moments like this you have to be humble and as human as you can be. There are good people out there, believe me.

  • stevo1975
    stevo1975 dondons

    Posted

    What you do is type it down and we will answer ! Here for you Dondon! The fact you are asking for help or someone to talk too is good, I bottle stuff up and dont speak of anything which boils over (thats not what to do) take care wink

  • g.90572
    g.90572 dondons

    Posted

    Sometimes you just have to wait. Save it all up for the therapist. Get more therapy sessions. A lot or people are so busy doing nothing and have nothing to talk about. Find out what people near you are interested in so you can build a friendship. Or become a listener. Do you want to talk or be talked to or hold a conversation?

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