what is the likeliness that I pass gentils herpes to my bf

Disclosure is really important in a relationship. I would sit down with him and tell him the location!

Have some good references to help you along re transmission. If you like I can mail you some on here as the moderators will block any I put here.

location does matter, yes. if he thinks its just oral he'll want to pursue unprot sex and then you'd have ton disclose right before intercourse which would be kinda awkward. but because type 1 is less severe, your chances of giving him it are pretty slim. you have less outbreaks and shedding happens less often so those are good news. You know not to engage in sex while having an outbreak, and the chances of giving him the virus without an outbreak are pretty low. Taking medication will slim those chances even more.

I don't know if this will be applicable to you, and hopefully its not, but my PCP just told me recently that most insurances will require you to have at least 3 outbreaks in a year to get on suppressive therapy for herpes, which sucks and is extremely selfish. Additionally, my PCP wouldn't give me a suppressive therapy prescription and he cited long term damage to kidneys, even though I think I read that lower dosages of Valtrex had few long term effects. Anyways, best of luck!

this may be bad advice but I would tell him if he wants to have sex he needs a full std panel INLCUDING HSV blood tests. That has to be requested. There is a high probability he carries HSV1 and is simply asymptomatic. He may have told you hes negative because he doesnt get cold sores, but thats a common misconception. Most people have it but they dont show symptoms. If he comes up positive for HSV1, its highly unlikely hell get it genitally from you because his body can fight the virus now. I wouldnt disclose until you know for sure he doesnt already ahve it. If he does, then hes not at risk the way hed be if he werent hsv positive. And telling him would be up to you IMO. My spouse had cold sores and I was clueless about it spreading to genitals! He can also shed virus when he doesnt have an active outbreak. But I didnt get a disclaimer or talking to, i just swlaw them when he had an outbreak and we didnt kiss or share drinks. Talk to your doctor and ask if hes positive for HSV1, what is the likeliness i could spread it to him genitxally.

Condoms are only a barrier for the penis and vaginal canal. Think about the vulva as a whole and his scrotum, think about all the skin surfaces that will be touched during sex.Anyone of them could potentially transmit the virus during an outbreak.