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What right do I have!!!

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Donna23316
Donna23316

Why do i feel more fearful each day? What right do I have? I have none, I'm a grown woman! Why do the tears fall? Is it self-pity? What right do have? I have none. I have wronged others, that's what I've done! Im a grown-up who feels as vulnerable as a child and all the while I'm feeling weaker as I think I should be coping. I'm feeling scared and it will always come back to the rhetorical question: what right do I have? Donna, on a bad day!

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  • sam18386
    sam18386 Donna23316

    Posted

    That's a really sad place to be, I don't know what's happened but something has clearly hurt you. You can speak on here. We all do things wrong, I barked at a counsellor a couple of weeks ago as she seemed like she was nagging like my mother. I just came out with it. I told her why and she eventually she knew I was sorry I told her how sickened I was by what I did wrong. She belittled me so I snapped. I won't do it again I doubt it. Just say you're sorry and ask for forgiveness or forgive yourself. I was raped years back and still won't forgive myself for a lack of family, it breaks my heart. I think you'll be ok, to err is human, what annoys me is people who don't say sorry or learn from it. They're unforgivable. Don't be so harsh on yourself. Cc:-|🙂

    • merianna13804
      merianna13804 sam18386

      Posted

      No one should belittle or berate you especially a counselor. I hope she will take opportunity to help you develop assertive skills so you can express your dismay without snapping and then having to feel badly and sorry. Glad you were able to say your sorry. A lot to your credit.
    • sam18386
      sam18386 merianna13804

      Posted

      Hi Marianna, I did feel really guilty and she made me cry. I hope I can now get on with her, may be I needed to do that to show my depth of feeling, I felt really rotten that day.
    • jay_babes
      jay_babes sam18386

      Posted

      Hi sam we were in touch last week and you were not having a great time at the doctors  and you were not feeling so great, i am so sorry i did not get back to you ,i am struggling at the moment just a terrible last of sleep , came off antidepressants, , but hope you are ok not stop thinking about you and hope you  are doing well, i will be ok just once someone helps me know how to get sleepsad
    • sam18386
      sam18386 jay_babes

      Posted

      Hi jay babes, I am a bit better now I've managed to escape to the coast and see my counsellor, who I told in no uncertain terms what was going on. Feel better than I did. What made you come off antidepressants? Did you just have enough of them? Well done for doing that though, tough decision. Have you tried any herbal remedies for lack of sleep?

    • ann55375
      ann55375 jay_babes

      Posted

      I see younhave come off a.d.s. Me too. If i could crack the insomnia imthinkmi could cipe with life better.  Have you any help, my dr has given me diazepam and it gives me a few hours sleep but would rather use natural methods, look forward to hearing if you get help.
    • jay_babes
      jay_babes sam18386

      Posted

      Hi Sam glad to hear your a bit better now would be lovely to hear your a lot better , but small steps, you said you managed to escape to the coast and see your counsellor, which i found strange does your counsellor live at the coast? or did i get that mistaken if so forgive me, yes i have come off all antidepressants, first because i have so many problems , depression anxiety, ibs eating disorder, severe migraines , bdd, and insomnia, i finally after over 30yrs realised they are all linked one set off all the others , but it was the traumas in my life that caused the problems again all linked, but how would have i know this at the age of 14 till now, so after years of medications , thousands of pounds my family have paid out for private cures, i did not want to be a guinea pig any more, i take the pills i need to keep me alive, i had a brain tumour as people on here know , i am fine now, and i try my damn hardest to take alternative medicine for the rest, so i search and try any thing that makes my mind strong and my body fitter, and by my experiences , if i can help others ,  i love to do so, but do not get me wrong i am no specialist, my i think i am a specialist by now in the things that are wrong with me, i have over 40yrs experience lol, but remember what works for one person does not always work for another , we are all individual and unique, but that does not mean you can not try it , as for insomnia, some people say there is no such thing i read the other day by a sleep specialist, some people need 2/3 hrs and and are fine, others need 7/8, you sleep when and where you need it, and when you lay down you have to take out all the worries of the day, because they are going to be there tomorrow, think of positive things in your life, or a thing you loved to do, or something you did that day that made you smile, and 
    • jay_babes
      jay_babes sam18386

      Posted

      sorry sam going on a bit long and i got cut off mid stream lol, but i just will finish off what i said about the sleep specialist, i did try what he said turned of the lap top put my lovely favourite music  in my ear, cut out all the negative thoughts of the day, took a cup of warm milk ,and got the best nights sleep i have had in the last 6yrs, i got 7hrs, so you take from that , i am going to see how i get on, oh plus my counsellor contacted me to say she has got me into the group therapy i wanted CARA, so happy days, god bless hope this helps and stay in touch if you need me xxx
    • jay_babes
      jay_babes ann55375

      Posted

      Yes Ann decided to come off them , only on the drugs i need to keep me alive the rest is natural, the problem with the ones the doctors give they are great but you do not want to get addicted to them, and what works for one does not work for others, its all trial and error, so while i can try out all the natural ways to get sleep sometimes we need a little helping hand, and advice for others, so i hope all you people out there struggling to sleep , get some help and if any one got natural ideas jump in x
  • suzika71968
    suzika71968 Donna23316

    Posted

    forgive and try to forget.. I know it's easy say than done... it took me years just to forgive my brother for what he did to me when I was a child... and years for me to ease my fear of causing the death of my kitten....years for me to forgive myself when I almost kill a person.... the shadow of my pasts still haunting me, but each time I sense the fear and depressions in me, I pray to God and seek for His forgiveness and guidance... What right do I have? I have none. but, God has all the rights... turn all your fear to Him and ask for His guidance... You may not get the answer right away, but you may eventually.. He has His own ways of giving His answers... sometime instant, sometime later... when I was in your state now, the only person I believe is God...

  • Guest
    Guest Donna23316

    Posted

    Hi Donna on a bad day...  

    You have the right to be YOU!!

    You have the right to have a bad day...

    You have the right to make mistakes...

    You have the right to be forgiven...

    You have the right to be alive and thrive...

    You have the right to dream and aspire...

    You have the right to love and be loved...

    You have the right to be accepted for who you are...

    You have the right to not know...

    You have the right to allowed grace...

    You have the right to be awesome and on days, not so awesome...

    Basically you have the right to “be”...right now!

    Your awesome, thoughtful, and caring Donna.  You absolutely have right...

    Have a better day...

  • borderriever
    borderriever Donna23316

    Posted

    Donna

    You do not explain the cause of your depression, however you need to address your problems to move on.

    The best way is to talk out your problems, if you need CBT go and see your GP or talk to someone you trust 

    Hopefully your problem sounds it will hopefully get sorted

    Keep a hold

    BOB

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