What should I do?

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I was recently diagnosed with depression and OCD and my dad thinks it’s a joke, he says I should “get a grip” and to get over myself. It’s become harder and harder for me everyday. I can’t afford to see a psychologist but I’m on medication (Prozac). I’m struggling so much. I’m starting to get suicidal thoughts and I’m getting insecure with my body and wanting to starve myself. Both my parents seem to not care about me, I feel so alone and empty. What should I do?

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    Hi emma95398

    We note from a recent post which you have made to our forum that you may be experiencing thoughts around self-harm. If we have misinterpreted your comments then we apologies for contacting you directly. But if you are having such thoughts then please note that you are not alone in this, and there are people out there that can help.

    If you are having these suicidal thoughts then we strongly recommend you speak to someone who may be able to help. The Samaritans offer a safe space where you can talk openly about what you are going through. They can help you explore your options, understand your problems better, or just be there to listen.

    Their contact details are on our patient information leaflet here: https://patient.info/health/dealing-with-suicidal-thoughts, which also offers lots of other advice on how you can access the help you may need.

    If you are having such thoughts then please do reach out to the team at the Samaritans (or the other people detailed in our leaflet) who will understand what you're going through and will be able to help.

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    People who haven't experienced depression have no idea what it feels like. You can't just "get over it". It's a chemical imbalance in your brain and the Prozac will eventually help. If it isn't working you can try other medications as the first anti depressant I tried didn't work for me. I've been in the new one for 4 weeks and starting to feel calmer. My family have been supportive and I feel sorry that yours haven't. I'm lucky to be in the UK where psychological help is free - can you talk to another family member or sympathetic friend? Please keep on posting on this site as there are lots of people going through the same things and can give advice or help x

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    Hi there I think your mam and dad care about you, they just don't understand what u going through. Please don't attempt suicide or starve yourself either, maybe beijg diagnosed with OCD and depression and its symptoms makes you hate yourself a bit, but please don't think you deserve nothing less then to be happy, in time u will learn to cope better with your illness and things will get easier, be stong, and know that you have the strength to fight this off. Maybe something happened to make you this way, or triggered it off. believe me things will get better for you, keep fighting off your illness as much as you can, I have depression and a mild form of schizophrenia so I struggle everyday, I will never get better but I can tell u I am happy despite my illness. So the same could also happen for you. Hope Ive helped you, please take care.

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    HI emma

    how sad that your Dad said that, it's hard enough with the stigma I see is still around us.

    I am sure your parents do care a great deal for you maybe it confusing for them.

    Seeing your child suffer is terrible my mother watches me all the time and I'm 40!

     If you are on medication it maybe you need more or something to aid you further.

    sorry that it's hard for you to get Thearapy that's sad when you know you could do it hit.z

    You cannot just get a grip.. if only we could hey.

    It maybe a case of your parents not wanting to believe that you there child has this illness. My mum says she feels helpless that's how she felt when I was younger too. Though she's still here helping!!

    Could you talk to your Dad and say it hurts when he says that, see if you can get him to see what you feel each day.

    As you've seen people care and relate to this, if only we had a broken leg hey!!! People would see it, depression you can not,

    Please get the advice of your dr. If you are starving yourself you know it's not good do your parents know this?? May I ask your age.

    Dont hurt yourself please you are hurting enough.

    Call dr tomorrow get some more help if you can.

    YOU ARE NOT ON YOUR OWN as you can see from your replies.

    Take care


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    Hi Emma - one of the most damaging things anyone can say to someone with depression is "get a grip" or words of a similar nature. It devalues the sufferer who cannot simply point to a location and say "it hurts here." Have you told your father that his attitude to your illness doesn't help - it exacerbates. Meanwhile, you must keep on with treatment. Your meds may need a tweak of the dosage, or perhaps a new med altogether. It's a journey. There is no cut and dried answer, we are all individual and what works for one will not work for another. If your parents continue to dismiss your illness, don't discuss it with them. 

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    Hi Emma, 

    Your situation reminds me of my own. One where i would have panic attacks, anxiety and paranoia in social situations. But we all get through it. I've been visiting a counsellor for almost 6 months now and feel better about myself, so i'll give you a few tips.  As much as you don't want to believe it, your parents love you with all their hearts. 

    I imagine they are in a situation where they don't know, or too scared to ask what your thoughts and feelings are. My parents are quite intimidating to me and i struggle to communicate with them. If you slowly challenge yourself to discuss your feelings with your parents, i'm sure they will understand. The key thing is to remember is not learn to do this, challenge yourself to do this to achieve this goal. When you do achieve a goal, smile, you've earned it!

    Goals are a simple way to keep the mind focused on what's important, being you.

    Next you need to learn your own body and thought process.

    If you feel sad or insecure what is your reaction? Mine would be to change my environment, or socialise. Maybe even take part in some sport. Either way, variety is very important to keeping a healthy PMA! Talking about your thoughts, and your feelings helps you build up trust. Your parents love you unconditionally and they will have your back no matter the circumstance. 

    I hope the few tips i gave you helped, keep smiling and God bless.

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    Hi emma, 

    Just wondering how youre doing, as you havent been on for a while! Hope youre managing to cope. X

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