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rhonda54184
rhonda54184

I just found out a month ago I have HSV2. I had never had any outbreaks til I got 1 bump that was painful & itchy & upon swabbing, it was positive for HSV2. I'm not sure how I got it or when but I've been in a monogamous relationship with my bf for 4.5 years. I'm wondering if maybe I got it from him since I've never had any outbreaks & the doctor said my IGg shows I've had it for more than 4 months & that this didn't look like an initial ob. Could my bf be an asymptomatic carrier & not know? We haven't had sex since I was diagnosed & he won't get tested so I'm afraid we're almost over. I told him that since we've been together for over 4 years & haven't used condoms because we're older & we trusted each other, that he's probably positive too. He's adamant he can't be & that it's only me. And he says he never cheated. What are the odds of him being negative after 4 years of unprotected sex? My dr says he's probably positive too. I just want him to know just in case he gets involved with someone else. Plus I need to know if he's positive & if there's a chance he infected me. Should I force the issue of him getting tested? Or just leave it alone?

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  • w19837
    w19837 rhonda54184

    Posted

    I got hav2 in my eyes without having sex. just like that

    • raee80476
      raee80476 w19837

      Posted

      Hi, how did it get in your eyes? I thought it's just genital. Are you sure its not type 1?

  • raee80476
    raee80476 rhonda54184

    Posted

    Hi. Honestly, it's a red flag that he won't go tested. He should want to get tested just for clarity and to cooperate with you. Are you sure he did not know about the HSV before meeting you?

    He's most likely positive by now anyway. Many people don't want to know their results because of the emotional impact - so it may just be that.

    He'll do as he pleases (like most men lol), so you can only advise him to get tested for his own sake and wellbeing. But what's done is done, who carried it does not matter, just take care of yourself and try to work together so you can carry on as before and stronger. xx

  • cary47715
    cary47715 rhonda54184

    Posted

    He may have known his status before and/or he could be in disbelief. Even if his results come back positive, you won't be able to tell who infected who. But I recommend definitely pressing the issue bc why risk infecting someone else. I agree you have to take care of yourself FIRST and you can only do so much, especially as you are just know coming to terms with everything. I hope everything works out xoxo

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