What should I do to stop worrying so much?

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My mom and I Iived with my stepdad for ten years. He was an alcholholic, and they had really big fights, which scared me a lot, and caused me a lot of anxiety. When my mom finally dumped him, I thought he would go away and the anxiety would pass. However, he shows up around our home a lot. He isn't threatning us or anything, he just shows up to say hi. My mom doesn't let him in, and gets angry at me for being upset. The truth is I get really paranoid when he shows up. I think back to all the fights they used to have. I make sure the door is locked 2-3 times before going to sleep, I make sure he isn't outside, everytime I hear her talking through the phone I pause whatever I'm doing to make sure she isn't talking to him etc. I also get really anxious about world politics, which seems really nerdy but it keeps me up at night thinking about possible wars. I don't know what it is, but I want my anxiety to stop. I'm almost headed to college, and I don't want to worry so much. Anxiety has caused me to want to relieve it, which has led me to many dangerous outlets, like smoking weed and cutting for a while. Any ideas on how to stop my anxiety?

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    Remember the times when you were happy and try to get back to thay. Rely on your friends and family that you love, and you can get through this. If you need anything, feel free to send me a message on here or send me a personal message. 
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    I don't blame you for having anxiety about step dad.  He obviously was like being around a ticking time bomb.  Sounds like PTSD.  I highly recommend you talk to a mental health counselor on how to deal with your thoughts and feelings.
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    Can you talk to your mom about this? Or is there someone else you can talk to? If you're still at school or college, maybe there's a counsellor?

    I'm not too keen on the idea of going on medication for your anxiety, as I think it's more important to address the causes. It's not like you're getting anxious for no reason - I think you have every reason to be nervous.

    I really think you need to talk to someone outside of the family, but also try and talk to your mom, to let her know exactly how you're feeling (though I realise that's not always easy).

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