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Your vitamin levels may be fine, but I have found I benefit from extra vitamin B group - I know this doesn't apply to everyone. I just feel I have more energy and worry less, most of the time. I used to feel overwhelmed so often.

Keep going with the hobbies. Is there something you could do (you may not have the time at the moment), eg volunteering, so you put your caring side into practice in person? In London we have dozens of charity shops and when I've finished my studies I will probably do a half day a week or something. Also, something to take you out of yourself? Maybe the hobbies do that. I started going to a music apprectiation class a few months ago and it's my 'escape' time for two hours a week. It just clears my head.

It's not a tirade - it's just how you felt when you wrote this and there will be other days like it, but you're clearly strong and articulate and you'll find a way through.Is everything really wrong or does it seem that way when you're being harsh with yourself?

Hope things look up soon. xx

This is a cr*p time.  Even the more confident of us have had our self esteem/worth/confidence challenged - generally by ourselves - at this 'orrible time.  Don't feel alone.

I'm sorry to read that your relationship's suffering:  I have a lovely husband, who is tolerant/pi**ed off me at this time - in equal measures!  But we've been married 32yrs, are probably each other's best mates (how bloody sad is that). 

Don't get me wrong, we call each other all the names under the same; argue about anything (I like to think its just giving my opinion, of course!); sometimes can't stand the sight of each other (we've worked together since 1989), but strangely, when he spends the day away from me/me him, we miss each other like crazy.  Nutters!  Truth is, we probably only put up with each other because we know no-one else would, ha, ha!!

I suspect there are many adults who now realise they present autistic traits.  I have a nephew who is Aspergers, and I suspect both his mum and dad were both undiagnosed at a time when little was known.  Fair to say relationships have been a bit of a 'thing' for all of them, but hey, none of us are perfect.

I hope you have someone to talk you through all this in Oz: a relationship counsellor or such like.  Me:  I have sisters and a great niece to chew the cud with.  I wear my heart on my sleeve, generally have an empathy with what others are experiencing, and sympathy when I feel it necessary.  (Don't ask me why, but one sister and myself seem to attract all and sundry, who are happy to talk to us about ANYTHING!!  My ol' man thinks its weird:  we think its because we're both pretty jolly, love a laugh, (swear, but only if necessary); and tell it as it is.  (Actually I think my ol' man thinks we are weird, truth be known!!).

Today my ol' man said he gave an ol' girl some money to buy herself a cuppa: she was rooting around the bins next to his gym.  He said she was old, in a real state, and didn't look quite right.  We both suspect she's got mental health issues too.  He said his heart went out to her and she seemed pretty taken back that this big lump of a man had been kind to her.  I suspect she'll be at the same place, same time every day now! Seriously, I thought that was lovely. x

There's been a few discussions on here recently that show me that my own situation is merely nothing more than a bit of ranting, some irratic bleeding (yeah, got another P afterall: cr*p!!!) and should just carry on taking my Menopace and Bioidentical Prog Cream.  When I compare how I feel to how some other write how bad they feel, I know that in the big scheme of things, I'm pretty lucky. I'm healthy, happy, loved, a bit fat, grown into my plain looks that now look emm, characterful(!),  getting wrinkles, saggin t*ts, and every Peri symptoms know to Woman (aside from the flushes, but I won't speak too soon!). 

I hope you find some peace in all this, and hope that your relationship is worth saving.  Try to revisit all the really, nice, loving, happy times, and remind him of them too.  Also, if you read into what I do, we're not gunna feel like this all the time.  We've got to think it'll get better, haven't we?

Take Care Kiddo.  I'm sure 'venting' you angst on her is much better than bottling it up.

Sx

PS - Kids:  they're sent to try us, that's for sure.